my ex is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with, but shes in a relationship, and just wants to be?

Question

just wants to be friends with me, for now, what should i do? should i keep my distance until she figures out who she wants, or should i talk to her as much as possible, to get her to be more into me? im also wondering how wrong it is to be pursuing a chick who is in a relationship

Answer 1

This might be hard to take, but she very well might already know who she wants. I mean hey--come on--she IS in another relationship. If she wants to be friends and friends only, then she's given you your answer.

Besides, she's your ex for a reason. Take a minute and think about the reasons why you're no longer a couple. That should snap you to your senses and make you realize that yes, she's moved on--and so should you. Dude--she's in ANOTHER relationship. What part of the word "Ex-Girlfriend" are you not getting??? Don't persue her. She's involved. Leave her alone....leave them alone. She deserves her happines...but so do you.

Find a new love. You're young...you're resilient. We all fall in love several times in our lives. This will become a distant memory soon. Time heals everything

Answer 2

The key word here is 'ex'. That means she is in your past and you need to try and move on - she obviously has. She says she wants to be friends for now but is in another relationship - you are enabling her to have the luxury of knowing you will be there should things not work out for her. Women have a tendency to want everything - women (I hate to say this about my own gendre) can be very selfish if they have people like you to allow them to be. Stop worrying about her figuring things out - think about your future without her. We all often think we are with "the one" and sometimes we realize we made a mistake - it's not the end of the world! In you case, I feel you will have a great future but you need to let go so you can explore that future without this baggage. Take care, Donna

Answer 3

Instead of spending all that energy trying pointlessly to "win her back", spend the time healing properly so you can move on, become friends with her, and eventually see other women.

But, don't go rushing into a new relationship to spite her, or try and prove that you can move on too. That will only cause you more pain.

Answer 4

You need to think about things a little bit first. Why are you an ex??? What broke you up??? Have you changed any of those things??? Also, would you want some other guy hanging around if you were in a relationship with her??? If she really wanted you, then, she would be with you.

Answer 5

Definately keep your distance. Don't try to get in the middle of her relationship. That's selfish. I wouldn't want the person I'm dating talking to an ex. . Let her be happy.

Answer 6

You know you shouldn't be pursuing a chick in another
relationship.
Just be a friend and if things do not work out be there
for her. So you are right when you say that you should
keep your distance.
It wouldn't be fair on her partner. Would it?

Answer 7

honestly, i believe that if she is in another relationship, then she has gotten over you and friends is all that could happen. if she were still single, i'd say try it... but shes gotten someone new so spending the rest of her life with you is not really an option for her. i would just let it be and try to get over her, as hard as that sounds.

Answer 8

would you want her to be talking to an ex constantly if she were back with you....I don't think so....back off and if she wants to be in your life, then she will come back...you can't make someone love you...good luck

Answer 9

wow it sounds like you are ttly in love w/ her to risk this guy she is dating to kick your @ss but wat i think is you should go up to her and confront her about how you feel. Now do not wait until it is 2 late!!!!!!!!!! so get ur @ss off this computer and get on ur bike and petal like hell to her house and tell her how you feel!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

sabatoge the relationship