Ladies: Need your advice!?

Question

I'm sure a lot of men are afraid of making an *** out of themselves when it comes to flirting with other women. The flirting usually involves initiating a conversation or simply asking her out.

However, I wonder if women feel vulnerable if the man comes across as cocky, arrogant, or simply nice/shy?

Would it offend you if a guy simply went up to you and ask for your name? How would you react if you were initially/physically attracted to him? Or if you weren't physically/initially attracted to him?

Help me!

Answer 1

Personally, If a guy comes up to me and asks for my name I tell him and ask for his..... first names that is.

If I'm attracted to a guy when we first meet then I try and figure out whats up with him and If this could be a relationship thing.

If not, I try and figure out whats up with him, and if this coukd be a totally awesome friendship.

Answer 2

For me cocky and arrogant are a total turn-off. Those are negative attributes. CONFIDENCE is a total different story. If a guy walks up and his opening line is about how great he is and how lucky I would be to have him (or something along those lines), that's arrogant and I would not want anything to do with him. It is much better to talk to us and let us figure out how great you are!
If he walks up with confidence, looking me in the eye, smiling, and starts a conversation I would talk with him.
Don't have your opening question be her name. That is sometimes a little scary for a woman. Chit chat about the band playing, the bar/restaurant you are in, find something you like (hair, necklace, smile, dress, etc.- NOT HER BODY) and compliment her. Then you can get into names. She will ask your name when she feels interested/comfortable. Some woman ask your name or offer theirs right away. Everyone is different, but to be "safe", let the woman take the lead on that one. Also, if it is your first meeting, don't ask questions that may make her nervous. For instance; if she tells you where she works, don't ask her which store/branch. Or if she tells you she lives in "town A" don't ask her "where?". It makes us women nervous when someone we don't/barely know want too many exact details like that. Unfortunately, the few creepy stalker types out there make us a little guarded about those things at the beginning.
If I am initially attracted to him, i would talk, smile and if that went well, flirt.
If I wasn't attracted to him, I would still talk and smile and be polite but would stop short of flirting.
By the way, subtle flirting from a girl is often: glancing repeatedly at you from across the room, smiling at you, touching your hand or shoulder as she talks to you, saying things that show you she is interested in seeing you again.
There are girls out there looking for the "bad boys", but honestly, they aren't looking for a relationship as much as a quickie.
Good luck.
You seem like a great guy who really wants to meet someone and not make the woman uncomfortable on the initial meeting. But the best advice of all is BE YOURSELF! We want to see the "little quirks" that make you different from all the other guys :)
I always tell my male friends if you can "make her laugh and moan" you've got it made! (but not both on the initial meeting:)

Answer 3

Well, the manner of how you want to know the girl is matter most. Of course being an arrogant while introducing your self is a turn off for girls. But i would be flattered if someone ask my name if i am physically attracted to him, if not i make him feel that i am not interested but not in offending ways.If you want to ask someone for a date or you just want to know her first, just be cool and politely ask her name. Just always think, "first impression last". Sometimes even if the man is not that too cute or handsome if he is gentleman enough to ask girls you could start from there.

Answer 4

Well sometimes it could come of as a bit creepy cause u wonder if he's like that with every girl he meets and u write him off as the player type, even if you found him attractive. I'd suggest getting to know the person first and seem genuinely interested before rushing things and asking for a date.

Answer 5

If I wasn't attracted to him, I would just ignore him. If I was, I wouldn't mind if he had a little arrogance on him. I actually like that. The nice guys are the ones I laugh at.

Answer 6

At my age I still get 20 year old's who ask me for my phone number. Smile! I am never offended. The only way I'd be scared is if they followed me around a lot. Or if they approached me saying "I like your body." "Can I have it?"

Answer 7

well i like them nice and straight forward is ok, i mean if u have something nice to say u could just tell me instead of going around the bushes even though sometimes it is nice to go around the bushes. i mean u see something u like just like R Kelly and young Jock ""go get it or go getta"". if i like u and attracted to u by all means i will not get offended by ur approach at all. if i am not interested at all i will be pissed ,i mean really mad.

Answer 8

well I'd tell him my name and talk to him....if he asked me out at the end of the nite for another time we could hang out I'd say sure. But like I would take one of my friends with me to go out with him because I dont kno him. so if your planning to just go up to some girl prepared to get hooked up or let down.
good luck!

Answer 9

personally...i think it would be nice if a gut just walked up and gave compliment instead of hitting on me....if we like u, we'll come after u after u show the kindness

Answer 10

if a woman was initally attracted to the guy it wouldn't offend her at all! Depending on what type of woman she was, would give you her answer if she wasn't attracted to you.