What do you think about my EX?

Question

My ex had just bought a camera, he had some pictures of a girl in his camera. In one of the pictures she was posing in a dogging position with clothes on. He saids that she is a friend and thats it.That day he could not be reached. I kicked him to the curve two weeks ago and told him to go search what he is really looking for cause I am not the one. He saids they are just pictures, that he did nothing with that girl. He calls me everyday asking to come back. He calls me 10 times a day. He has things in my house thats his but he doesn't want to pick them up if we are breaking up. WE have been together for 10 months. We do not argue about anything. Sex is great.He keeps telling me that he loves me and I love him too. Tell me what should I do? Should I forgive him or give a longer punishment or just get rid of him?

Answer 1

Although incriminating, the pictures are not proof of infidelity. I'd tell him he is to have no contact with this "friend" EVER if he wants you back. No phone calls, no saying "hello", and definitely no more pictures! If he cannot accept that, then he doesn't love you. The burden is on him to rebuild your trust. Cutting off this "friend" of his is the only way to start! He HAS to prove that you come first over some "friend" who would pose for him in a picture like that...

Answer 2

Did you ever ask him why he could not be reached?
Did he have a good answer?

She was wearing clothes, he did say she was a friend, you have been together for awhile, sex is great, you don't argue, he desperately wants you back, you have made him suffer already.....

IF he had a good reason why he could not be reached that day then maybe you should give him the benefit of the doubt. I think it is valid to say that you want to meet with this woman and I would wonder why you have not met her before since you have been with him for so long. Ask him about that, too.
If he has a good reason for both where he was and why you hadn't met this girl before... oh, and why she was in the doggie position, then why not just start from scratch.

The big questions is why are you so quick to think he was cheating on you. If everything else was going great I would have thought you would have been more inclined to believe him (although, get after him of course cause it was damn inappropriate) but since you were inclined to believe he was cheating then things weren't so perfect before and that is what you need to discover.

Tell him to explain all your questions and if he cares then he will realize that even the thought of him cheating should be something that should bother you because you care too. IF he can answer all your questions and introduce you to this woman then why not slowly test the waters and see if you want to get back together with him. Maybe you subconsciously jumped at the chance to break up with him because something else was bothing you.

Either way you need to talk with him to have closure.

Answer 3

Go talk to the girl, and no more shacking up.Get to know a guy for a 1 yr -2 yrs before you marry him THEN move in together.What kind of man hangs out with good looking girls when he is in a committed relationship?One who will cheat.He wasnt committed tho, you arent married dear.If you do start seeing him again, no shacking up, because he may be trying to ease you towards a 3some or something.Why would he have left hat picture on the camera?He may have had different motives, but he may be full of more surprises.The next thing is no more sex till marriage.How would you feel right now if you were pregnant?If he is doing some other honey, what if she were pregnant isntead or you were BOTH pregnant?Think about it.A shack up is NOT a committment, and a trial honeymoon does NOT garauntee committment.

Answer 4

If he keeps calling you, he could be telling the truth. You should give him another chance, but stop giving him sex until he makes a decision about what he wants in his relationship with you. If it is a committment that you want from him and he already knows that pictures of other females makes you angry, he should get rid of the dogging pictures and make some kind of an agreement with you. If not, just get rid of him.

Answer 5

Get rid of him pictures or not that doesnt mean he didnt do something with that girl. In the long run it will be better u can find someone better not like him do u want a cheater or a good person?

Answer 6

In my opinion unless you have solid proof that he is doing something with this girl. go back to him, just having a picture does not mean hes cheating on you. and if he was why would he leave it on his camera where you can see it. It really seems to me that he cares for you if he is calling you up. give him another chance it is not going to hurt. and ask him if you can meet this friend. good luck.

Answer 7

He needs to get rid of the other girl in his camera. He should put your picture in the camera. This guy is not the sharpest knife in the drawer!!

Answer 8

girl he is telling the truth my brother has a girl friend and has a girl in the camera and she does not care cause one day she met that girl at the mall and that girl had a boy friend.

Answer 9

SOUNDS 2 ME U ALREADY MADE UR DECISION--"EX", U KNOW WOMEN HAVE THIS GUT FEELING THEY FEEL & MOST OF THE TIME DON'T GO WITH IT, IF WE DID MORE WE WOULD B BETTER OFF, IF U FELT LIKE BREAKING UP WITH HIM THEN IT WAS 4 A REASON, LEAVE HIM ALONE FIND SOMEONE NEW-------WE DESERVE------DONT SETTLE 4 LESS

Answer 10

touchy situation.
he should not have pictures like that of other girls, he would feel the same way if you had pics of other guys, make him realize that. I would give him one more shot and if you still feel he is unfaithful, then move on. no one should live their life always wondering about stuff like that.