We've been together since high school, and everything was great/ Her family likes me, my family likes her, we have mutual friends. We love each other a lot and we've lately been talking about engagement.
Everything was going just fine until last month when she started avoiding me and acting not as herself. She was cold and seemed more distant. She almost stopped calling me and I've noticed that something isn't right. We talked and she told me about this guy at work who she's fallen in love with. She says that she still loves me, but she wants to take a "break" from me to "figure things out". I am really scared that if I accept to this I won't get her back. On the other hand, this situation cannot go on. I can't be with her like this. In addition she wants to know will I accept her back if she "decides" that she really loves me.
I don't know what to do, since this is my first serious relationship.... Please help....
2007-03-10 01:08:59 · 6 answers · asked by BuggyGuy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is not selfish. If you love her let her know by your ability to do anything to make her happy, even if it means losing her to another man.
2007-03-10 01:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry,to me this is one of the biggest pains ever.no pill or drink will take the pain away,so now you have to use all the logic you have .would you want some one to be with you that doesn't know if she loves you,wouldn't ,you want some one that loves you .5 years is a long time ,but you have marriages breaking up,as long as 25 years and more,at least you both are not marry.if this was you ,and you were on sure of your self ,would you want the freedom to see how you feel ,no you can't make any promises right now either,you have to let things fall where they may.you may think your in love with her,and find some one else to,weirder things have happened.this is a very hard time for you both ,so just do the best you can,stay busy,think with logic ,not your heart right now ,and the heart will hurt but the logic may help at times.this is also your time to ,again stay busy ,meet people ,and try positive things ,that will bring you to other people.the very best of logic to you .
2007-03-10 01:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by colliedogcody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude she's only asking you this because she wants to keep you on the side while she checks out how things are going to work with this other guy meaning she likes him more she's leading you on. You were to young for a relationship it was bound to happen. You really gotta go have fun for a year or two and get a couple more experiences. Don't let this chick punk you or make you feel like a little wuss. Seriously don't be available to her any more for a long time or never get into a relationship with her again, only have sex with her once in a blue moon if you want to. Trust me when your older you will wish you didn't let her get the best of you. BECAUSE IT AIN'T GOING TO WORK GET IT OUT OF YOUR HEAD. she will just leave you again and again
2007-03-10 01:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i know that i would never even take a second glance at any other guy than my bf, so as not to be mean, but she must not really be in love with you. i know its hard to hear, but i just dont see how she could love you, yet love someone else. I may be missing something, but i know that i could never even begin to fathom the thought of loving someone else as much as/ or more than my boyfriend. I think you should just move on, and make yourself happy. You are never guaranteed a tomorrow, so why regret the one you had today?
2007-03-10 01:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok dude seriously,,,
my mom always told me that if u wan to know if something really belongs to you,, let it go n if it comes back to u then its your for life,,,,
so what i wud do is let her go,,, n let her know that if she sleeps with this guy i wont take her back but as long as no sexual activity has occured between them,, n she wants me back,, yeah i wud take her back,,,,,,,
but trust me if u dont let her go n she stays she is gonna keep fomulating little problems in the relationship and arguments will occur more frequently---- trust me u dont want the drama,,, so jus let her back n hope she wil come back to u unsoiled n utouched..... lol
wish u luck dude....
oh by the way women only fall in love if they arent 100% comfortable with there man,,, so if u guys get back together,, u need to pay more attention to here needs,, while at the same time being a man,,, its hard u know.....
2007-03-10 01:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what can I say? " If you love something, set it free, if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was"
2007-03-10 01:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋