Do i deserve everything that happens to me?....?

Question

I am 16 years old. It is 14:02 and approximately 4 minutes ago my brother dug my laptop catches hard into my arm. My mother is not home and the only adult is my disabled step father whom my brother does not listen to. I have bruises all down both of my arms which are very sensitive now from my brother and my mother stands up for me telling me I should know better than to get upset and fight back against him. She says he doesn't know any better because he is younger than me. My mother has done many things to me in the past including repeatedly calling me a liar for an incident which was not my fault. I was taken away from my home when i was 11 and my mother moved away from me, although i am back with her now.. Do i deserve what happens in my life...?

I was moved by my mother to Africa where my mother left me with her ex boyfriend and my brother etc as she moved in with a pervert. I moved back when i was 13. I lived with my other step dad until i was late 14. I don't see my dad he lives in Ireland. I moved back with my mother when i was late 14. I can't talk to my brother because he just hits me. He is not having problems .. He has always been like that and the doctor says there is nothing wrong with him mentally. He is the favourite out of me and my brother.

Answer 1

no you don't. you need to get help. which means telling the right people about your living situation....the police, a guidance counselor or anyone you trust. no one deserves to be in that situation.

God only gives the strongest the heaviest burdens.

be strong.

Answer 2

Try not to look at it as a "deserve" or not "deserve" situation. I know where you are coming from and it is not fair or right. However, sometimes it feels like it is impossible to get away from. Try and take what good you can from the situation and realize that by going through what you have will make you stronger. Just think of how far you have come and how much more you have to give to the world now that you have been through the worst. You can conquer anything. Try and seek help by telling a trusted adult or a school counselor.

Answer 3

Nobody ever DESERVES what happens to them honey.
life is not always pretty. This does not mean you should have to put up with this treatment. I am so sorry to hear of your situation.
Please contact your guidance counselor at school. You can also contact our local children's services dept. Do you have any family members to help you? You say you were taken away?? If this was done by the state, there is documentation showing there have been problems in the past, this will work in your favor. Another option is church. Do you have a church you attend? Maybe a youth minister you trust? There are lots of people out there who can help you, you just have to go to them. If you are being abused..CALL THE POLICE- it is against the law ! You do not have to be a vicitim. You do not!

God bless you, honey.... I will pray for you in this situation.

Answer 4

No one deserves that, next time call the police, I know it's family but you don't deserve that, it sounds like your brother needs someone bigger and better than him to beat him up and knock him into place. Your mother sounds as if she has issues with depression and needs help. It's aweful she left you at 11 and now at 16 you should abandon her, however much you love her and she loves you, maybe go and live with your dad for a bit.
Good Luck, Don't worry

Answer 5

no you don't deserve the bad things that happen in your life. Your mother sounds like she needs some help from a counselor she is not facing the truth of what is happening here. You need to talk to someone a school nurse, guidance counselor, the police, and/or a teacher or an adult that you can trust. Please talk to someone. You can call yourself or do it via the Internet. Many police departments are on the website. You all need someone outside of the home to step in. So that you can feel and be safe, and be able to grow up happy. I send you my prayers and best wishes.!

Answer 6

First I must say I am truly sorry you are going through this. Your mother needs to punish your brother and it that does not work get him help. He has no right to be beating up on you and it seems she is not helping the matter. You do not deserve any of this at all. As a parent your mother needs to act like one. She seems to have issues and needs to address those issues to be a better parent. Blaming you for your brothers actions are wrong. He will only get worse over time. Thats bull he is longer than you he is old enough to know not to hit.

Answer 7

Do you think you deserve what you are getting? I doubt it aye! Why should you blame yourself. It's not you whose feeling the guilt. As for your brother? Tell me about it... My brothers and I went through alot when we were kids.
Maybe he wasn't used to the idea you returned home & he wasn't the only child anymore.
Maybe he's having a hard time at school or something is bugging him. Have you & him ever sat down and talked? You will never know "why" unless you ask.
You and your mother might have to work out your differences. You have changed & you are not the same little girl she once had.

Answer 8

no u dnt noone shud hav to put up with abuse especialy not from there little bro. give him a bakhand across the bak of his head cos for the most part hitin someone with the bak of ya hand dont leeve marks. if he ever trys to like punch u in the face or sumat wot u shud do stop his fist with one of your hands. use your other hand and grab him just above his elbow. twist and turn so tht u r now standing beind him. now u have good leverage over him( if u try tht in an actuall fight the next thing u do is straighten out the persons arm makeing sure that there joint is posistion so they cant hit u then quickly shuv your elvow down on the joint effectivly snaping the arm) but i dnt think u shud do tht to your bro.

Answer 9

Well, it sounds like things are very abusive in your family and it is not your fault. Maybe they have their own problems they need to sort out. Your brother should not be hurting you in that way, but how old is he? If he is very young he may not know what he is doing but he still needs to be disciplined and told to not do those things. If he is old enough he needs to be strictly disciplined and not be given a lot of chances, if he persists counselling or some kind of action should be taken. If your family is continually causing you pain and stress, mentally and physically, you need to get out. Go to live with a relative, tell them what happened, get them to help you. If you absolutely have to call child services if you can do that and it is that bad. But I don't know how bad it is so I cannot tell you. But you are 16 and old enough to make your own decisions and know what is right and wrong.

Answer 10

No you do not. I am surprised at your mother. Isn't there someone you can talk to, perhaps a social worker, teacher, or even a friend of your mother's who could perhaps make her see what is happening to you. Although you say your stepfather is disabled, can he not explain to your mother what is going on. I think maybe your brother resents you being back in his life and this is his way of making you pay. He is probably as insecure as you. Is there no way you can talk to him and communicate. If not, I seriously suggest you speak to an outsider, in the form of a social worker, teacher, or someone like that. Take care.

Answer 11

Nobody deserves that kind of abuse whether its from your brother or anybody else.I suggest you contact social services or confide in a counsellor as something should be done.What about your dad i know he lives away but you could contact him and make him listen to you,it`s his duty as a parent to sort this situation out.You are better then this don't ever think you deserve this.Make sure you have pictures of these bruises to prove just how abusive your brother is as he obviously needs help...........good luck.