The entire family will be traveling across the country to attend a wedding, including my husband who is in the wedding. I have no babysitter that I trust to leave my child with for 3 days and want to go to the wedding. This is an important time in the family. Well, it's an evening wedding. In this case, am I wrong for bringing the baby? The bride says sure bring him but what else would she say. I'm her future sister in law? I don't think any other kids will be there. It's an outdoor wedding and not too formal. What do ya'll think?
2007-03-10 00:51:15 · 17 answers · asked by tayy2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When you recieved the invitation was it addressed to just you and your husband or was yor sons name on it as well? If not then the intention was for just you and your husband to attend and by calling her to ask, she may have felt backed into a corner and not had the nerve to say no to you out of politeness. Its not the end of the world if you dont attend the wedding, your child is much more important and as a mom myself, I would only leave my kids with my mom and dad or my sister for even one night let alone 3. If they werent able to watch them, oh well, its something I would have to miss.
I think deep down you know the proper answer though, that you should forego attending this wedding for the sake of good manners and your baby.
2007-03-10 01:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a brides perspective. We are having an outdoor wedding, and we don't want little kids running around or screaming during the ceremony, however, we also put on the Save the Dates, and the wedding invitations, NO Children under 10.
If the bride truly says she does not mind, it shouldn't be a problem. She would say something if she really cared....she is a bride.
Another question, do you really want to watch a 15 month old at a wedding, enjoy yourself, leave the baby :-)
2007-03-10 14:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by cspitzley10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the baby with you to the city where the affair witll take place, but do search for a relative or sitter to tend to the child on the evening of the wedding. A 15 month old baby will neither be comfortable nor make you or your husband comfortable in an outdoor wedding ceremony. You might even get a sleeping basket to keep the baby in if you must carry him or her to the wedding ceremony and engage several relatives to help you keep an eye on the baby while there so that you have a few minutes to socialize with the other guests.
2007-03-10 10:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the bride says it's ok, then go ahead and bring the baby. Keep track of weather and since it's outside, if it will be hot outside make sure to take along sunscreen for the baby along with a playpen, toys, etc. But if it will be cold or rainy, be prepared for that too. You can find a nice quiet area to put the playpen for naptime and quiet time. When I got married, my daughter was 19 months old and I had gotten married in a church and had a playpen off to the side in the same room when my daughter needed it and it worked out just fine. If you have never seen the location where the wedding will take place, ask the bride where she would think a good spot for the playpen to be placed too that would be in a appropriate and quiet location and what will take place so you know what to expect before hand.
2007-03-10 09:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal A 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the bride says that you can bring your child, then yes it's OK. The only time I believe it is inappropriate to bring a child is when the bride and groom ask for an adults only reception. This is not the case here, so go ahead and bring your baby.
2007-03-10 09:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't blame you for wanting your baby with you, but a wedding is not a good place for a baby. It is not good for
the baby or anyone else. Are you going to have to keep the
baby with you at all times? It could be too hot or too cold as it's outside. I do hope you can find another solution. Is there
someone at the location of the wedding that you trust to care
for the baby? Get some help from that side of the family if you can. Best of luck!
2007-03-10 09:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Bring your child. If there is noone you can trust to watch the baby you have no choice. If it's not too formal and outdoors, I think it's ok.
2007-03-10 10:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your future sister in law if she trusts someone that can babysit during the wedding. That's what I did for out of town guests that brought their children.
2007-03-10 09:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bride to be knew you had a child when she invited you and when your husband was chosen to be in the wedding party. Bring the child and a playpen. This way when the child gets tired you have a place for them to sleep as well as play.
2007-03-10 09:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
bring your babe with you, go to the wedding, have fun. You cleared it with the bride, she is probably really honestly good with it. If your child is fidgety right before the ceremony take it somewhere where you wont disrupt the service, during the reception there are alot of people making noise, and you babe wont even be noticed.
go
have fun
2007-03-10 09:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋