time to let go?

Question

as i came on here for support last time i hope i,m not getting on anybody,s nerves. my mum died in my arms a short time ago we are going to put her ashes in the sea on mothers day as she lived near the sea but i cant help feeling were just throwing her away i feel so sad but have no friends to talk to so thank you for letting me let it out sue

Answer 1

oh susie...i'm sorry your mom has passed away.
on mothers day, let her ashes go! she lived by the sea? that showes (me) that she LOVED it there...let her live on...
e-mail me... i haven't lost my mom, however, i have lost others, that we spread their ashes where they requested.
she was practical in her own way..being creamated, and not wanting to be in a grave is a big decission...you will make it. the best way you know how. she raised you to be a strong person. you may spread her ashes, you don't have to "let go" of her memory. you still have pictures, memories, and her "things"...keep them close....

Answer 2

If your Mother loved the sea then she will rest in peace being in her favorite place. Your Mother is now with you 24/7 in your heart. Talk to her, she will hear you and most likely answer you, oh not in a verbal voice but in a way that will be meant for you and you alone. I was born and raised in WV, along the Ohio River, when I pass on I want my daughters to throw my ashes in the river, that way every time they glimpse the beautiful river they will know I am with them, not in some cold dark place in the earth.

Answer 3

I am 19 years old. My grandfather (who acted as my parental figures) died of cancer, right before my eyes - when i was just 12. I finally became close with my dad (who had been in and out of jail - which is why i lived with my grandfather) .... he died of a heroin overdoce (On mothers day - my poor grandmother 2001).

I am not over it. Espically the death of my grandfather. Things in my family have gone DOWN HILL since his passing and I cant help to think about how much he did for this entire family dayily. He kept us together.

You dont have to let go until you are ready to. And if it makes you feel funny to put her ashes in the sea on mothers day, hold off! If its something that YOU feel that YOU need to do inorder to get on with your life - then go ahead. If this situation is preventing you from livign your day-to-day life, you should try to find something to help yourself. However, there is nothing wrong with greeving - and you should do it for as long as you need to. Dont rush the process, it'll only come back to you years from now.

You only have your mothers ashes once, so if you dont feel that you are ready, hold off until you are.

Best of luck. And remember - its all about YOU. if YOU feel uncomfortable with your life - make a change. If you're just greeving a bit right now, let it run its course.

Answer 4

Sue? From someone, who just recently lost a Loved One? Big Hugs from Atlanta! God Bless you in your time of Pain. It's obvious that Your Mum, was dearly Loved. And you can be thankful that she's watching over you. Keep in touch. We'd love to be able to help you through this? As much as we can!
We're all Friends, here. Anything we can do? Don't hesitate to shout!

Answer 5

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. If this is what your mother wanted then you should respect her wishes. I do understand but as I have done with my sons things (who we lost on Christmas day) is put his pictures around the house and things that remind us of him. He is always in my thoughts.
Also, being on Yahoo Answers talking about him helps me a lot.
My thoughts are with you.

Answer 6

I have been in your shoes once.
Just let it go, your mother will always be in your heart and mind, because she is the most valuable thing that all of as have.
You should be brave, life goes on do you think that your mother would like to see like this no so just chill and do whatever you think is right.

Keep Walking

ALL OF US DIE ONE DAY

Answer 7

im feel sorry for you. you not throwing her away, coz she still alive in your heart and your mind. so dont feel like that. every body have to die somedays, so you must be very strong. i know, it easy to say but give your self time and dont be very upset about this.