Hi Friends, i got engaged with a girl before one year. At first meet. I dont like she. But she was well educated like me and good in nature so i think on her again. I asked her that "we are perfect for each other. But personality wise i dont like you. Please tell me what should i do?" She replied "personality can be change and i can". I decided to trust her. It was the ray of hope that led me to engaged with her. Now one year have been passed. She had tried to change her personality. But still i haven't found my dream person in her. And in this one year she started to love me. And still there is no such emotions in me for her. Now i am in dillema that what should i do? Should i marry her even though i dont like her? Some one told me "forcefully start to love her later on you will find similar emotions for her". is this happens? is it true? please advice me what should i do? Please help me take fair decision? We both are very well in career and education and from middle class family.
2007-03-10 00:16:06 · 14 answers · asked by indrajeetsinh k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you marry her it will only end in divorce, do you and her a favor and break this engagement, yeah she will be hurt, but getting married is a big mistake it either one's heart isn't into it! Let her know the truth!
2007-03-10 00:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, it seems like you are having second thoughts about this engagement and possible marriage. From what you have stated I feel that you should break off the engagement with this girl. If you marry her, it will not last. So, to save yourself alot of heartache and for her to be hurt and disappointed with a loveless marriage, break off the engagement now stating that you cannot marry because you feel that you are not ready. You should not be forced into this marriage out of guilt...Tell you parents that you do not love her enough to spend the rest of your life with her and you cannot marry her. She'll be hurt, but in the long term, she will understand that it was not for the best. Good Luck to you and next time, don't be forced or coerced into getting engaged with someone you are not sure of or do not have feelings for because of parental pressure.
2007-03-10 03:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you led this girl on for a year, already and still do not like her personality, you should leave her alone. You are not going to find anyone who is a dream person, unless you are asleep. If you can get along with another person long enough to be engaged for a year, then you should marry that person and stop being vain and frivolous. Maybe your personality is the one you need to change?
2007-03-10 00:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first things first -nobody can tell you what to do-you need to sit her down and talk to her about it -you need to be open and honest to her-you need to stop lying to yourself and her-for one thing communication is a key to a good and healthy relationship-and as of yet you are still planning on marrying her-and she deserves to know all of your feelings-if you can't tell her than you already know that the communication is lacking something- and another thing marriage is suppose to be a lifetime committment not something you are unsure of but will give it a try and see how it goes- you need to really consider all of your options and think wisely-if you don't feel a full connection with her you probably may never will- and time just keeps passing as you keep stauling to make a complete decision-if it were me i would just end it knowing that there might be someone else out there meant for me and is waiting for me to find them-why make your life miserable trying to make her happy-you both deserve to be happy-there may be some one out there for her that can totally unserstand her(unlike you)- well what ever you do i wish you the best of luck with your decision!!
2007-03-10 01:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by ang925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG if you have to ask that on yahoo answer then you should not even be dating this person little lone marry her. Why would you want opinions of someone you NEVER met to tall you "oh yes marry this person"
You are so not ready for marriage or love if you have to ask about your own persoanl feelings...sorry
2007-03-10 00:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are currently in a sexual relationship, you should remain committed and loving to the person. You cannot say that you don't like their personality and then go and have sex with them. Don't be a hypocrite. Learn to truly love someone. Get a relationship with Jesus.
2007-03-10 00:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone. Find a girl that you are compatable with just as she and you are. You aleady answered your own question.... you don't like her. Why are you even asking and considering this... makes no sense.
2007-03-10 02:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure, and she has not changed to what you truly want, perhaps it's time to break the engagement and look elsewhere.
2007-03-10 07:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need the advise of a million unknown people around the world, then I would say NO! You shouldn't marry her!
2007-03-10 00:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, marriage is a final step, dump her and find someone else. Its the best thing for both of you.
2007-03-10 01:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by S. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋