I need some words of encouragement, after being treated pretty badly by this guy_ I still have feelings for him and keep thinking about all the times he was good to me... I know that he's all wrong for me and some of the things he said to me were pretty harsh. please help, i know i am being too forgiving.
2007-03-09 23:11:09 · 11 answers · asked by chick1 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hun, the guy isn't worth your thoughts!.... he doesn't respect you at all. even though he was good to you at times, he should be calm with you when he gets angry too. Saying harsh things is really mean. Even though people don't mean half the things they say when they're angry... he should learn to control himself before he loses someone precious like you. I guess he already has. Try taking your mind off him. Cry if you have to.... let the pain get out gurl! and move on!
take care of yourself.
(ericka's idea isgud too! try it out)
2007-03-09 23:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stay away from abusive people. They damage your self esteem! Most people who are abusive can be nice too, and this is what keeps you going back. If someone were mean all the time, it would be a lot easier to see what you needed to do.
The problem you are having is that when he's nice it feels so good, and then when he's mean, you can't wait for him to be nice again. It is a cycle, and if you stay in it, it will break you down over time.
Think of it this way. You are paying for those good things with the bad things. They cost you in self-esteem. Are they worth the price you have to pay?
2007-03-10 08:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the true love is only giving and forgiving and if he is so bad to you how can he will take care of you in the hard time so if u still love him try to test him once more by asking him to equite some thing he realy likes but if you don't want to contenue try to ignor him and make show him that you are intrsted with some one alse
2007-03-10 07:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been too good for too long. Search out the guy & give him a mouthful even if it hurts. Believe me, it'll work since the guy won't be expecting it & if he has any self respect he'll say I'm sorry or else kick him in the butt.
2007-03-10 07:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by pinu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of remembering the good times, focus on the bad. don't dwell on them just keep them handy to replay in your head when needed. forgive, forget, and move on.
2007-03-10 07:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple, the answer is in your question "how do I get over the WRONG guy?" don´t waste your time thinking about him, one day you´ll realise that, and think of yourself as a fool..
2007-03-10 18:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of every thing he ever did to you and when you're feeling weak look at it and get pissed off
2007-03-10 07:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jerrica Starlight 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you need is, to hang around with your friends and find a new guy.
2007-03-10 07:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up...be an adult...move on...thanks for asking
2007-03-10 07:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Michael K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i been there, all you have to do is find a new guy
2007-03-10 07:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by hi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋