My husband was in love with that girl before our marriage but I did not know that. Marriage with me was on the initiative and proposal of his parents and it appears he married me to please his parents. That woman also got married after our marriage. After producing two children her husband died. My husband has always been in close contact with that woman and the woman says to him that those are his children. My husband has been misbehavng in our marriage since its start. When I became pregnant he felt very upset and suggested abortion. I refused that my child is seven years old now. Every week-end he declares some lame excuse to attend some business meeting in the town in which his beloved widow and two children live. Most of times he just slips away to that town even without informing me and my child. He is always under financial pressure, and leave me and my child deprived from even ordinary pleasures of a family life. My child and me wish to stop this utter nonsence.
2007-03-09 22:32:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make the sucker pay.. I mean class A DIVORCE COURT….
Get a PI and Attorney.. Get in touch with the local BAR ASSOCIATION for attorneys. A lot of the time they have attorneys that will help you for little cost. Then when the trial hits your attorney will sit on the stand and state that you can not pay and make the hubby pay….
You start doing the paychecks and bills… You need to put your foot down.. You need money also. That way you can have some money for yourself and save a little FOR the attorney if they need some startup. Plus this puts him on a tight leash. Then you will have the funds you need…
Why do you EVEN want this guy… It is clear that he doesn’t want you or the child he created with you…
2007-03-09 22:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first your not going to stop him, second why would you want to be with someone that does not love you?
If you and your child are being deprived financially, don't you think you can do the same or better for yourself and you child?
if your husband does not love your kid why are you still with him?
Don't say you stay for your child because that's just an excuse and the mistake most women make.
no man is that good in bed that a women needs to put up all that you are.
if you think you can not make it on your own,your wrong.
if you think it going to get better , you are so naive.
no disrespect but a real woman would not put up with crap like that , not the ones I know.
2007-03-10 00:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, no one has control over another person. This doesn't sound like a situation that can be fixed. You and your son might be better off moving on without him in your life. You will be happier when it's over and you don't have to think about it any more. Get divorced. Get him to pay child support and alimony. This will help get you started in a life without him.
2007-03-09 22:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an asshole and im sure you dont deserve this.once a cheater always a cheaterand i dont believe in that crap of staying together for the kids and be treated like a doormat.i suggest you cheat on him too..or simply put up with it for 3 more yrs. and then divorce his ***!after 10 yrs of marriage a guy is forced to pay alimony for the rest of his life!!and thats exactly what he deserves.you are still young im sure and could do WAY better and will find someone who deserves you.i know its hard because you love him but you need to do this.its for the best.
2007-03-09 22:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u stop the marriage now...would u be happy with your husband?he doesn't want u...and doesn't want your son.Can u attach him to u?that's not possible hun..im sorry to say.Try to find a job so that u can be independent first.I do not think he'll stop seeing his ex girlfriend.In that case..it is only best that u divorce him through law and arrange a fixed amount of money for your son and yourself from the court.Im sorry that i could not help u any further....think about it and perhaps u would know that it wont help u to keep holding on to him.good luck
2007-03-09 22:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an utter loser. I'm sorry for your situation. The real questions is this: Are you better off with him or without him? If he's unwilling to attend counseling and give up his inappropriate ways, then you should leave him and try to make a life for yourself and child. Best of luck.
2007-03-09 22:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can't make anyone love us, if they don't and we won't accept the truth we are the ones who will suffer emotionally for it. he is supporting her also, could very well be his children. he wanted to marry her and couldn't, so now that she is free, he will continue to sneak away and make your life hell. there is not much u can do, he should have been honest about this before u married him, but he chose to be deceitful, that's why arranged marriages are never good. he wanted no children from a marriage he never wanted to be in in the first place, not fair to u and your child, but bad things do happen in life. best to accept it, and get a divorce from him, his behavior is not going to change anytime soon if ever.
2007-03-10 00:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you.Get a family law attroney , get your half of everything and child support.You cannot MAKE him stay if he doesnt want to.You'll need the money and the kids will too.Move in with or near your family so the kids can have some extended family.If you can get more than half tho, go for it.
2007-03-10 01:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hurtful situation to be in. But if you love him, all you can do is be there for him. Stand behind his decision no matter how painfully it may be. I know its hard but it will be better in the long run. You want him to be happy right? So let him have her, and you know something there is someone that will make you happy and not deprive you of a simple family life with your son and they will also love your son.. Matters of the heart are always tough!!!!!!!
2007-03-09 22:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to stop is to kick him out there is no need to have him there seeing how he is already cheating you would be better off without him and file for a divorce.
2007-03-09 23:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋