and she wanted to see my kids, she parked in the parking lot and he brought them down to her. At Christmas, he would not say that he was getting a ride with her to Christmas party, she parked in lot honked horn so he could bring my son down to open a gift she had bought him/baby too. She would not meet for some reason.I told him no he cant keep bringing the kids down she needs to come up and meet me and act like an adult and he needed to fix this.Now she wanted to come and bring cup cakes for the kids, I was livid, wrote her a note saying whatever is going on between u 2 leave my kids out of it and more, put it in a gift bag with stuff from christmas brought it up to the job, my husband calls me pissed. She burned the letter so he says. He never had a strait answer for anything, but all he could say is she cant have kids. He says they dont talk about personal stuff, but it appears so. He said nothing was going on between them, she had a boyfriend he dosnt like her, she is not all that
2007-03-09 22:21:39 · 14 answers · asked by Chrys23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a suspicious mind, and your distrust of your husband is terrible. But, I must admit that you'd be blind, stupid, and crazy not to have serious reservations concerning this woman. Quite possibly it's totally innocent. Sadly though, her unwillingness to meet you makes it inevitable that you won't feel easy about her. Your husband should quit associating with her outside of the job.Also, his explaining her interest in your kids is due to her being unable to have kids seems a bit hollow. She could adopt, become a foster parent, or do volunteer work with kids- she needn't get to know your kids. OK. Soooo, now what??? Since your husband told you she has a boyfriend, why not invite them both to have dinner one night? Tell hubby that you may have wronged the lady by being uneasy about her, and want to get to know her and her boyfriend. Your husband's reaction to the suggestion should give you a good indication of IF he's sniffing after this woman. Trust your instincts
2007-03-10 00:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you do have some concern. The work place seems to be the place where most men meet someone else. I mean think about it, they are clean and dressed as rule, nicely, they are on their best manners and a co worker doesn't need the dishes done or the kids bathed.
Could you bring lunch up to work and stop in and meet her. Sometimes meeting the wife ruins the fantasy for the other women.
When hubby runs down with the kids run down too.
Also make sure you don't use this fight to put more distance between you and your spouse.
Best of luck
2007-03-09 22:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your gut on this one, if you feel it already it is more than likely happening. Keep the children away. Or the next time that she has something for the kids, well walk down with the kids and tell her that you just want to know who is doing for your kids and why? Your husband was wrong for getting mad. He should love you enough to not even put you in that situation and he should be man enough to tell her that she should meet his wife. Good luck and hope the best for you!!!!!!
2007-03-09 22:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it sounds like something is going on. First of all, the first signs are seeing your kids.. doesnt matter if she cant have kids... go to the park and stop stalking your children. for him standing on her behalf is wrong. pure wrong! i agree on what you did. so if he is pissed oh well. set him straight. i believe something is going on. second... she wont meet you? BINGO!!! that is the main obvious reason. and buttering up your kids... that is a total NO NO! sucking up to the kids to like her... the ball is in your court...honey... i would take him and you and the kids to see a councelor.. i m sorry that things are going the way they are for you. if you need someone to talk to im me as hottie_bell.. im always on.. good luck. set her straight and tell her off. she is someone that is a homewrecker! tell her it is going to hurt your kids in the long run and she is splitting up a good happy home.. it works..
2007-03-10 13:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody has a screw loose in their brain here. I suspect you do. It is possible that your husband and this woman do too, but I would look to yourself first. At least you can do something to get yourself on an even mental/emotional keel if you are willing to try and maybe seek some counselling.
2007-03-09 22:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is more serious than you first thought maybe she has a thing for your kids. If she can not have them herself she may be trying to connect with children and she is using your husband because he has kids and seems willing to share them with her.
2007-03-10 01:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to start packing someone's clothes. Either your's or his, but someone's got to go. Not only is cheating wrong, but in this case, it's downright rude.
2007-03-09 22:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something going on! Why didn't YOU go to the Christmas party with him? You are not overreacting!
2007-03-09 22:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by LISA E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, they are having an affair. If not, why all this going on?
2007-03-10 02:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r not over reacting. Somethin is goin wrong here.
2007-03-09 22:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by S.Sa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋