What should I do? Any advice? I'm a stressed, depressed teenager . . . .could you help?

Question

-I’m 14.
-Some of my teachers pressure me
-Started to learn German in a new class but the teacher who organised it for me only let me have 1 period a week to learn it.
-Now instead of a year of 3 periods per week I only get 1 period a week for about 3.5 months.
-The pressure to learn all of it is very stressful and I’ve started to get really angry and I really try to calm down but sometimes I feel on the verge of tears for hours.
- I have four supposedly ‘best’ friends but only one of them understands right now.
-They all have other plans on the weekend so I have nothing better to do and it gets me really depressed when they arrange things, then change the plans and don’t tell me.
-I just need some way of coping with stress, coping with lots of school work and some way of getting a better social life.
BTW
- My school does not offer any kind of counselling
-I’m quite shy so I have depended on my friends until now.

-Please Comment!

Answer 1

Living a life of a teenager is very stressful because it is a period of transition. Be strong. This is a part of life and you have to go through it. Do you know about that saying about the metamorphosis of a butterfly? The caterpillar needs to get outside the cocoon by itself so that it will become a butterfly and survive. You, my friend, may feel entangled because of all these pressures but keep in mind this thought:

"I don't know how but i know that i will get through this."

I know you will. I have passed through that phase and i can say that those stressful, bitter and most desperate moments made me tougher. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I know that you will get through this. You are strong. Yes, you may want your 'four bestfriends' to go full force for you but maybe this is a time when you have to fight for yourself andf fight on your own. There are moments when you have to be strong for yourself and perhaps, this is now.

With regard to that academic concern of yours, i believe you have to consult your parents about it. I believe they can help you with sensible advices.

Be strong kid. I know you will make it.

Answer 2

My god! You have almost perfectly described me. Last year, one of my friends had amatuerly diagnosed me with depression, and my teachers often have me stay after class and ask if I'm ok. School is an enormous pressure on my back. Last year I was bullied constantly, due to being overweight. This has contributed more stress, and hatred of school. I have to make honor roll every marking period, or I come home hearing about my older and little brother's grades. I'm in an AP class, and its dificult for me to continue on the way I have been. I often arrive home and start crying, because I can't handle it.
I have like, 2 real friends, but I don't tell either about my life, because I don't need their sympathy, and I don't want to mess up their lives with my stupid problems. Lately, I have given up Band7 as well as Orchestra, and it's kind of helping.
I also suggest that that you discuss with your mom what you've just revealed on yaho answers, and maybe she can help you solve the situation. Chances are, she went through it too!
ok, so here are my suggestions:
STart a diary/journal, pour your heart out
Talk with your mom
Talk with your teachers
Drop any extra classes like Band, or something else
YOGA!!

I also kinda have a weird question for you: Lately, I haven't been sleeping much, I have permanent bags under my eyes, and my face is white as a corpse. Is it the same for you, or other depressed ppl? I wear black tho, so may it be the contrast? I'm not goth, emo, or a cutter, so don't worry.

Answer 3

You don't mention your mum? Does she work outside of the home too? Not much time to talk? That sure does make it harder on you. You aren't alone in that situation these days, but you might have to push a little harder to express your needs. How do you two get along? Maybe she or your father would discuss it discuss it with the teacher.

German is hard for most people and you can only do your best - nothing more. How about using the weekend to get a Computer Program that helps with German - some of those language programs are fun.

Some of us don't eat enough food with certain vitamins that help us to be calm. Talk to your mum and to your doctor about things like iron and the B vitamins. The B's will help you to relax immediatly if your body is low. It could be your health.

You guys do have a lot of homework, and I am right with you one that one. Just do your best and do not be down on yourself. Get extra help from a tutor if you think it would suit you. (parents come in here) It is good that you care about your schoolwork - but if you are working your hardest, then there is nothing to more worry about.

Your best is very good.

Answer 4

It's a set up. Accidentally I'm sure. But if your serious about passing the Deutch class, then you'll have to take some action to overcome the lack of classroom time. I'm assuming you don't have an IQ of 180 and a photographic memory. Find somebody in class, your gender, who is serious, and start a study group. Re write each chapter in the book in your own handwriting, put the rewrite in the same notebook as your class room notes. Makes for a fast study prior to tests. If possible find an acceptable adult to teach you the fine points of speaking German, preferably a real German.
Crying all the time just hurts you. Once in a while fine, but if it's uncontrollable,then it's controlling you. Being shy is OK, a form of caution, it will leave when it's ready. Take a little public speaking. As far as friends are concerned, you don't really have any. Just acquaintances. They're not loyal to you, don't be loyal to them. Be polite, refuse to get closer. Pass the damn class though. Good luck.

Answer 5

In order to fix these problems, you must face the music and confront whatever is bothering you issue by issue.
First of all, I recommend that you tell your parents about all of these issues because someone your age doesn't need to be going through all of this stress, it's way too early.
- I think you need to tell the teachers who pressure you exactly what they're doing and how it makes you feel. Listen to how they respond to your plea and if they don't respond appropriately, have your mom or dad come in one afternoon to talk to them.
- Have your parents know why you don't want to take German classes anymore - ask them to write you a note explaining how much stress you've been under, how you've had anger issues and emotional issues, too.
- Tell your parents of the plans and how they change without notifying you and how hard it really is - explain to your parents how you don't have time to be a kid or time to hang out with friends.
- Honey, you need an adult to talk to, so go to your parents first and see if they'll get you into some kind of psychologist's office for a little while. You need someone to talk this out with. Click on my pic if you want to chat or check out my source and join my group.

Answer 6

if your parents or a relative can't be there, i'm glad you have at least one friend to talk with. if the school doesn't offer help, have you tried talking with the teacher who you do get along with. school is really tough on some kids just from the stress of no one to really talk with.
there must be some group for help with school work, normal stress and abnormal stress. keep looking, don't give up your search. help yourself, you will always have to take care of your life, you deserve the best you can do and be

Answer 7

well to tell you the truth it is strange but i used to be the same kind of person and i think i can help u on this better or at least i can try.
first- don't run after people, let them come after you. if they don't share anything don't push them to or show them that you're interested. there's something called self respect, don't lose your's by stressing fo rthose who don't care for you.
try something different like for some days may be forget about "my friends don't share with me"and do something useful getting to know more people etc.

as for your studies try to take help from the net or talk to this teacher of your's about how you are unable to cope with the things and needsome extra sessions. it always helps

one more thing, you don't need counselling, only try not to whine about little things, it is not a very likeable habit. perhaps that's the reason your friends are moving away....

Answer 8

Your biggest problem is being 14 - the rest is just aggrevating it. First try to ease you way into another group of friends. Your friends are not treating you well find some new ones. There are probably lots of shy kids that are on the fringe. Most of them are great people who haven't quite blossomed yet and would make a great friend. Talk calmly to your teacher abut her expectations for the German gig and let her know that it is over whelming you and you need to get things adjusted. Just be calm dealing with things and the outcome will be better.

Answer 9

I've past my teen age years but I do understand your situation. I've learned that whatever happens to one's life is his own doing. It is a choice that he makes. Am quite sure that there are a lot of things you can do on a weekend, choose what interests you and pursue it. Live your own life. At this point in your life, school is one of the priorities you need to keep. Learn what you can while in school-your future depends on it. Make it your target that by the time you reach 21 years of age, you should graduate from school. That's just my personal opinion. you might find it too serious but do take time to think about it. But most important, enjoy life.

Answer 10

don't worry darlin, its all part of being a teen---if you think your depression is REALLY out of control, then see your family Dr, sometimes just alittle reassurance from an older person, can help ya realize you are not ALONE, maybe there is a friends mom, you trust, you could talk to her, without the friend knowing, well if none of that works, I'll be happy to talk to ya anytime you want, i was a teen once, and went through everything you are, guess what? i made, you will too!!!!