What if you are overweight and your husband is always telling you how hot he thinks you are?

Question

I'm about 100 pounds overweight. My husband loves me, I know this, but he is always telling me how hot I am. I am far from hot. I get grossed out just looking in the mirror. Are there men out there really attracted to fat women?

Answer 1

Well I should say that you are a lucky woman if your husband says that to you. There are men that like fat woman. I've heard of that but I don't know for real. Well your husband loves you a lot and that shows. Try to feel happy to have such a loving husband and be proud of what you've got dear.

Answer 2

Trust me dear, you are not alone.

I too, am 100 pounds overweight (just started trying to lose weight) and my husband is always telling me how "beautiful" and "sexy" I am. I even asked him if he was "into fat girls" cause I know that physically speaking, there's really nothing all that attractive about my body.. He swears he's "not into fat girls" but that he loves me for me, and he thinks I'm beautiful no matter what my size is.

When I met my husband I weighed significantly less.. like, 75 pounds less (maybe more). He has always been the type to tell me how beautiful I am, each and every day. The only difference between then and now is, I felt beautiful then.. I don't exactly feel beautiful now. My husband has been so incredibly supportive, and has never ever made any kindds of comments about my weight. He's so wonderful.

He knows I am trying to lose weight, and he is very supportive.. however, he never ever trys to tell me "you need to lose weight!". He just knows it's something I want to do for me, so he supports me in it.

I truly do believe that my husaband is telling the truth when he says he loves me for me, and that no matter how much I weigh, I will always be "beautiful" and "sexy" to him.

So, chances are.. your husaband is like mine. He loves you very much, no matter what size you are. You will always be beautiful in his eyes. I really doubt that his compliments have anything to do with "liking fat girls" or anything like that. He loves you, and that's what's important.

Take care!

Answer 3

I can honestly say that yes there are men out here attracted to big women. My wife recently lost almost 70 pounds and is still losing weight. I told her she was sexy and attractive before she started to lose weight but she was like you and just said I was sick and not normal. She said nobody likes fat girls. I liked her shape better with the weight. She is well endowed on top and her hips were perfectly shaped and I found her to be very attractive. Since she has lost weight her hips are all but gone and she is losing her shape. She is still attractive but it's hard to get used to. I would say to get some intimate apparel and Knock his socks off. Go with it. Have fun with him and accept that you are beautiful. Do you know how many women would kill to have a man think of them that way? Just let it go and you will see yourself in a different way. Confidence is sexy too. Good luck and stay sexy!

Answer 4

There can be two ways of analysis to this. Firstly, be sure that he really is praising you and not flattering. Be stong enough to find out whether he has any affairs outside homecoz may a times husbands dont try to irritate wife ,keeps them happy,so that his outside affairs are not spied. If there is nothing of that sort, and your husband really means what he says, then believe me, he truly loves you, your values and you as a woman. Always remember, every guy is not flirt and every guy does not look for hot sexy girls. to them, their wife no matter however she is they r the hottest to them just in the same way girls acccept very fat men and even enjoy every part of their sex life. so relaxxxxxxxxxxxxx and if u want to surprise him u can do so by reducing some kilosssssss! simple . till then enjoy the pure love from ur husband's side and best of luck

Answer 5

Yes there are. I've known a few of them. The strangest of them was this one little guy Stewart Knoplis (deceased.) He was about 5'2" tall and weighed 100 pounds soaking wet. He married a woman that was at least 250 pounds and about 5'8" tall. He loved that monster of a woman.

So yes, there are men who love big women. I'd say you are lucky. Hang onto him.

What really freaks me out is that my wife, slim and beautiful to be quite honest with you and then me, ugly and overweight myself. She loves me and does everything for me. And, I get hit on by other women, often. I don't get it. When I look in the mirror, if I were a woman, I'd never be attracted to me.

I guess, beauty is in the eyes and heart of the beholder.

Answer 6

I have met a few men in life that were attracted to bigger girls. At my heaviest I was a size 14 and have had men tell me I was too thin. Not everyone is attracted to societies definition of beauty. As a woman. I think women of any shape can be beautiful if her heart is pure and she has confidence in herself. I have also seen very attractive men with obese women. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Be happy that you have the heart and the eye of a man that loves you and appreciates you the way you are.

Answer 7

well you're a lucky woman if you got your man having the hots for you when hm your a over weight hey why complain enjoy lol

on the other hand there are man out there that loves to have fat woman and they would feed you up more and more because the more fat you get the more they love it... I so a documentary about that and it awful because as you know obesity can eventually kill you if you don't watch your weight.

so do some exercise and try to eat healthy ;) cheers

Answer 8

I am about 30 pounds overweight... not too bad by today's standards, but it all sits in my midsection, so I constantly feel fat and gross. That roll above my jeans is anything BUT sexy or appealing in my opinion lol.

Anyways, my husband constantly tells me that I am beautiful/sexy, and I think he's absolutely insane. He takes offense when I brush off his compliments, but in all honesty I don't believe him when I look in the mirror. Then it hit me one day.

I dont think it's necessarily that men are attracted to all big women, but I think it's just our husbands love us no matter what size we are. We are more than a size to them... we are the foundation for the life that they know... homemaker/child rearer, souce of love and compassion, motivator/supporter, etc. Our husbands love us for US, not just the way we look!!!!!

Answer 9

My kid sister is like you. Her husband is definitely into Rubenesque ladies. In fact, except for during the Civil War in the U.S., until the early Twentieth Century that's what men usually preferred - so if you see drawings of earlier eras that show most women to be skinny, that's only because they could not afford to "fatten up" like the gentry did. Don't lose any sleep over it - be glad.

Answer 10

Look, I dont mean to sound mean so take it for what it is worth. Like people said before maybe he likes overweight women. Or, he doesnt want to hurt your feelings and say yeah you are unattractive, because its going to cause tension and you too will probably start fighting. Who in thier rights minds would insult thier wives. Sometimes people need to read in between the lines. On a last note, If you dont like yourself how do you expect others to.