im not happy here in Cleveland, should i move to New York City?

Question

i lived here in Cleveland almost all my life...and it dont got enuf in it for me...most the people i know here dnt like me, and they always try to break me down...my culture and lifestyles are major minorities here...im all alone, live by myself...and im tryna get away from the life here so i can start fresh and new in a larger, busier city where there's always life..more my type too...i been to nyc before, and i really miss it...the only drawback is that its expensive as hell, n i cant afford a descent apartment like my own in queens...is this a good idea, any alternatives, suggestions? im tryna live in a community where there are more Indian community...since im half Indian, and culturally unaccepted here in Cleveland...would it be a good idea to move and make a life in nyc? what should i do?

Answer 1

New York City is a World Class City and is more well known throughout the world than Cleveland. New York City does have its benefits but it also has its risk too. Here are the benefits and risk you need to accept if you live in New York City;

BENEFITS

1. NYC has a strong mass transportation.

2. NYC has a a lot of entertainment, nightlife, and is both historically and culturally known worldwide.

3. In NYC you can meet people from all over the world and from every continent and country.

4. NYC has a strong economy and they have jobs available in many industires.

RISKS

1. Living in NYC or in the Buroughs of NYC is very expensive. A small apartment with one bedroom, one bathroom along with a small kitchen and living area can cost over $1000 for just a month.

2. Automobile Insurance is very expensive as well and parking your car in a parking garage can cost up to $60 a day in some places.

3. The winters can make it difficult to get around where you need to go. If you live in NYC, make sure you are prepaired for the winter weather because it can be harder to adapt then living in Cleveland.

4. NYC is the number two city in America that can be hit by a hurricane. If there is a hurricane coming towards NYC, you need to head as far west as you can (lets say Pittsburgh) because if you try to evacuate at the last minute, you might have a harder time getting out of NYC.

My recommendations to you is to ask under Travel > United States > New York City is to ask about what the advantages and disadvantages are for living in New York City.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear you're unhappy there. The city has come a very long ways in 30 years. I agree with TR that place does not define happiness.

NYC is wonderful too, but as one described it to me it is the best of everything and the worst of everything.

If you think you would fare better in an Indian community consider North Chicago around Devon Avenue.

I have a hard time believing that people in Cleveland don't treat you well. Pretty much everyone I ever ran into or met from Cleveland was pretty friendly -- Cleveland Rocks!

Answer 3

I can understand nervous, but I hope you're a tiny bit excited as well! I used to work down by NYU. Biggest problem a lot of the kids have is actually focusing on school - the classes are competing with one of the most exciting cities in the world where there is always something to do or going on no matter the time or day. "Introduction to Logic 101" doesn't stand a chance. You'll meet tons of people in the dorms (NYU has some really bitching apartments for the kids. Lucky bastards.) so don't sweat the making friends part. It'll happen, and it'll happen quickly! Use some of that Midwestern common sense when you're on the streets, and you should be ok in re crime. It could still happen, but there are 8.4 million people in New York City proper (something like 20 million in the NYC metro area), and we're just like people everywhere else. Pull out your laptop on the subway and yes, you very well might get mugged. Most of all, enjoy your time in our city. We hope you like it, too!

Answer 4

My extended family is from northeast Ohio and even though Cleveland still gets jokes, the city and Cuyahoga county still resemble a big/small friendly town than an impersonal big city. That being said, I'm of stereotypical Midwest "white bread" heritage. The friction and disconnect seem to be from your background and cultural issues, not from Cleveland as a place to live.

Perhaps you could experiment with a trial, living in New York for a period of time to see if you like the lifestyle and can bear the greater cost-of-living. Look on the web for dating and social contacts you can connect with. Good luck.

Answer 5

Well-

I think you have the best tool at your fingertips for helping, the internet.

If meeting someone who shares your background is important - try indiamatch.com - and you wouldn't even have to move.

Personally, moving when depressed never made me happy, finding others to share things in common did.
I currently live in Ohio, but I have lived near NYC (in Connecticut) and travel there for work every week. If you are dead set at moving to the New York area, I think Connecticut is a good place to check out. There are very affordable places to live in the area, and the commuter train to NYC is great, about a one hour commute from NYC. My brother (lives in CT) has a good friend from a similar background as you, and there are strong Indian communities throughout southern CT.

I put a link for you that might help you see if moving there is a option for you.

I can only speak from what I know - Good Luck.

Answer 6

What makes you think it will be any different in new york? if ppl in cleveland dont like you why would it be different anywhere else?

I moved to a larger city, i was tired of always running into the same ppl and really i was just feelinglike i was missing something. So i moved, and everything i hated about my home town where all the things i missed about it. Plus where i moved was expencive to live also.

So move if you have to but the grass isn't always greener on the otherside.

You wont know anyone and you'll be poor. Dosent sound like fun to me....As an adult it's much harder to meet new ppl.

Answer 7

Im almost afraid to answer this because everytime Im in Cleveland questions my answer gets eraced and the funny thing about it is that no one reports me.Just yahoo not liking my answers but thats ok,we all know the truth hurts most of the time.Ok I lived in Cleveland Ohio 37 1/2 years .I was not happy there.But unlike you I did not let anyone bring me down.I walked in the worst of the neighborhoods.I did not care of someone did not like me.To me most in Cleveland is a waste of my time.I moved to Texas.Could not ask for too much of a better life for my kids.Take the move but not to a city that is known to be worst then Cleveland.

Answer 8

Well I think you should try to go to NY and see if you like first. As it was for me I have been in Cleveland once, but i am now in Dallas and like it much better, But try NY first. Good luck

Answer 9

new york is not the safest around. I would try something else. Maybe like arizona. they have tremendous amounts of work, and the weathers always nice there. if you go to greyhound.com type in the city where it says FROM and pheonix for example for the TO. its like less than $200 for a one way trip. and you get to road trip through all the states too. you should go to arizona. its nice weather, lots of jobs, a happier environment. good luck sweetie!

Answer 10

Small Fish in either Pond?