With whom would let your daughter spend the night?

Question

As a parent who would you let your daughter spend the night with?

Girl A: Age 15. Wears a mini 80% of the time no matter what the weather is, with 4 inch heels, low cut or tube tops with no bra. Has no b/f. When she goes out she call her folks to check in every hour on the hour and is home by 10am sharp. Has a B+ to A average in school. Lives in a household that doesn't smoke or drink and she follows suit. Is not on the pill.

Girl B: Age 13 1/2. Dresses boyish, not sexy in the least. When she does wear girlie tops you can see she wears a bra. Has had b/f since she was 11, and had 5 in the last 2 1/2 years. Often does not get home until after 12 midnight and many times not until 2am, and her parents don't seem to care. Has drinking and smoking in the home. Even though you never seen her smoking or smelled it on her, she was sent home from school once for being drunk. Is often left on her own for many hours. Barely holding on to a C- average. Rumored to give other girls condoms.

Correction: That is home by 10pm sharp.

Interesting the rationale on who is better to spend time with. Seems that clothes still make the man in many ways. But a thug in a 3 piece suit is still a thug no matter how well he looks like an investment banker. I believe one should better go by the way a person carries themselves in spite of what they wear. With that said....

A good point and perspective made by Perrie. That you see your friends as your friends and not what they wear or not. But for those of us who have to make a choice on someone we do not have a personal relationship with. A different set of criteria need be applied. And that comes to character more than what they look like.

Answer 1

Girl A. I wouldn't worry about how she likes to dress. Remember, what you wear is not an indication of who you are. Dressing like that at 15, it sounds to me like she's just trying to be one of the 'cool/sexy' girls. She'll grow out of it soon enough. And personally, from someone who's been cursed with a big bust, I think she should go without a bra while she can still get away with it... there's enough time to suffer later on in life.

Answer 2

GIRL A!! i mean my kid would be the same age as which ever girl right so if my kid was 13 1/2 i don't want her with some girl who stays out at a crazy time for a kid her age and i don't want her to receive a condom at 13 Drinking at 13 and getting drunk and smoking too at home!! woah i mean some 13yr olds have the odd drink sometimes but come on..

At 15 lots of girls dress that way at it doesn't mean they are a slut sleeping around, and shes home by 10pm thats almost a joke for a girl her age most kids at 15 have a cerfew of like 11:30pm(later of there happens to be a party) and checks in every hour she sounds like a saint of a daughter I'm 15 1/2 and i don't know a single girl like her(i know she not really but you get what i mean) most 15yr olds keep their phone on so their patents can call when worried and call on the way home.

Is this a joke of a question its like asking, do I want my 13yr old to go out super late when a pervert could be around and probably getting super drunk that same night. Being dunk and out late could also mean she might end up having sex at 13 remember.

or do I want my 15yr old daughter to spend the night with a friend when they are actually at the house not on the street and probably not having a single drink, but may happed to have one or two which is something I could never stop from happening because for her to do so it would be in private and for me to stop would mean watching her every breath

Answer 3

I would get my daughter involved in an activity, then maybe she can meet some new friends... Either of them would influence her, in a bad way. Not that anyone is perfect, but with both her safety would be an issue... This day and age a women can not sadly walk around anytime of day wearing high heels and mini skirts without something happening... And thats sad... we should be able to wear what we want... but drugs and alcohol are a no good too.... they can be laced with anything... So I would tell her to join a club at school and get new friends..

Answer 4

I would let her spend the night Girl A at her house, Girl B at our house. Girl B needs to experience a a more stable environment and you could help provide that. And I dont know how old your daughter is but you dont want to make girl B more attractive by making her off limits. Your daughter needs to explore the world right now and learn to set her own limits. you can help her by allowing her to explore the world- at this stage her friends- with a strong safety net (family). Dont forget our job as parents is not just to protect, but to prepare our children for the world.

Answer 5

remember, your judging the person by who they are, and how they act, NOT what they wear. id say the 15 year old girl, sure she may not dress 100% appropriate. but shes the better candidate for someone you want your daughter to hang out with. in my opinion you should forbid your daughter from being with the 13 1/2 year old just to be safe so she doesnt start acting like her

Answer 6

As i answer this question, I ask, what if you take away the apperances and the boyfriends what do you get? the true honnest to good person the people are. go with A, don't care if she dresses like a slut at least she gets good grades and doesn't influence your daughter in a bad way. talk to her (A) or her parents about when and if your daughter does hang out with her,. please keep it clean clothes

Answer 7

Your dumb mothers and fathers permit your 13 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous sister proportion a mattress along with her boyfriend? one among you would be pregnant by using the age of 18. recover from it, not all mothers and fathers are palms off morons like your mothers and fathers. maximum mothers and fathers right here care approximately their toddlers and in many situations have concern with 13 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds sharing beds with their boyfriends. appears like your mom desires to be cool as a substitute of certainly parenting. Your pathetic grammar is the 1st clue to that little gem theory. it somewhat is "purely," not "juss." properly carried out on your mothers and fathers (end sarcasm). Edit: come back to us once you're an person and your daughter, who you believed like a fool, is pregnant at sixteen. "yet I gave her condoms" would be your answer...... Edit: you nonetheless spell like an fool. Bravo on your mothers and fathers. Bravo. it is so unhappy they are too stupid to do something to develop you. supply up being a freaking moron and questioning the ladies folk who have been “banned” from intercourse are people who're pregnant with STD’s. of course you have not any attitude of the real international. clarify why we've bigger teenager being pregnant expenditures interior the sought after era with mothers and fathers allowing teenager intercourse left and appropriate?

Answer 8

It dosn't really matter. Heres a answer from the kids point of veiw. Honestly we kids dont really care. We care about personality. We look at eachother and see friends not someone with family problems. I have a gay friend name zach, his mom died, we don't see a sad kid we see a friend. I have a friend named john, his cat died, his girlfriend dumped him, he tried to drown himself, he got a new g/f, he started cutting, and he's depressed. We dont see that he has problems we see a friend. I moved from Europe to Cali 4 years ago there is no problem with me. Grades dont matter at all nor do looks but parents think they do. Its boguas!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

I would not be thrilled with either one of them. The 13 year old obviously has horrible parents so there is no way my daughter would even be allowed to go over to her house much less sleep over.

Answer 10

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