How not to be affected by other people´s emotions?

Question

Im quite sensitive and im easily affected by feelings of other people. Like Im in a good mood and when im talking with someone who is sad it immediately affects me. Even when i talk to someone who is tired i become sleepy too. How can i protect myself? Id like to help these people to feel better and smile but the reaction is opposite. Because i start feeling the way they do.

Answer 1

Maybe that has become your coping skill your blending in so you wont have to Fix them - So try being around positive people that you don't feel the pressure - I believe they hope you will fix IT for them

Answer 2

Impossible, that is when your mind looks at this proposition the way you expressed it in bold, you cannot help but attract what you are pushing against. You need to spend a little time re-thinking and re-phrasing what you want. Try it now. Take this negative sentence and transform it to a positive one.
What is the quality that you want to have in spite of other peoples' emotions. What would cause them to respond to you how you respond to them at this time?
Everyone has an imaginary picture of themselves in their heads. It is great that you are sensitive to how you feel. This way you will be able to verify right away that what I am suggesting to you works. It is also good for you to have a thought memorized to think to yourself when you notice that your mood starts to descend. I like " All is well ". Then remember which mood it is that you want to feel, now, now, now! Smile! You won!

Answer 3

It is very natural and normal to have a certain level of empathy for other people. If you see a woman holding a infant child, crying as she watches her house burn down, it is very likely you will feel sorry for her. The answer is not to necessarily build a "wall" around yourself, but to develop coping mechanisms to allow your emotional state to "work through" the emotions to which you have been exposed.

If someone you know is emotionally affecting you, communicate your feelings to them. Madonna said it best, "Express yourself."

The last thing you should do is internalize, or hold your emotions inside, not letting others know how you feel. While this may seem simple at first, you will only feel worse over time.

Answer 4

Being a sensitive in the world is a really wonderful gift and can be developed in many ways. The first order of business is to make sure the feelings you are feeling are your own and not someone else's. That involves a level of protection you put around you so that you do not inadvertently take on someone else's emotions as your own. Start by surrounding yourself with a bubble of bright white light. The light surrounds you and permeates you with love and light. You may also wish to envision a mirror like substance around the outside, with the mirror facing out so that anything negative is sent back to its source. Affirm, "I am the only presence here. Everything else is sent back to its source and I send it back with Divine Love".
As you grow and learn about your sensitivity you will learn other ways of coping with others energy's. Try not to change them. The only person we can really effect change on is ourselves! When we change ourselves everyone around us changes too.
Blessings on your journey of self-realization!

Answer 5

If you are using opened-ended questions with others then, they will tell you in-depth what's going on.
If you are an em-path then you are being psychically drained.
I suggest that, you begin grounding yourself daily( meditate and breath deeply). Notice if you feel most drained after conversations with certain people. If everyone you meet adversely lowers your energy, then you must develop your psychic self-defense. Through visualization techniques or Tai-chi.
See yourself being protected by a 360 degree shield of "Pure White Light" let that same light radiate, and emanate from you.
When you speak with others--emphasize how grateful you are.
Help others to be grateful. Your question states how you would like to be helpful. Help others to develop an attitude of gratitude.
For example, help others to be grateful for all the kind and loving people in their lives--like you. If other people need to be infused with your positive energy--you must refill your batteries.

Answer 6

I'm an empath, life used to be hell. Now I just realise that everyone has those times, everyone goes through it all, and it's normal, so it doesn't affect me as much. And it's that that makes people come to me, they know I understand, without them describving things in detail to me. That counts for a lot more than 'sage advice'... sometimes people just need to vent.
Remember that it's not you, but them and it's normal for them to go through those feelings, emotional or physical. Then pick yourself up if you're down, not them, it works outward and helps them see a model of how they could be too. Lead by example kinda thing. ;)

Answer 7

it's easy to get effected by other people and their issues. it means your compassionate and empathic, which are great characteristics, your asking how to not let it have such a big affect on you. well i tend to worry about what everyone else is thinking also and sometimes i just have to tell myself it's not my life, if they want help and are genuine, try your best to help, but you can't fix everyone and some people would rather just wallow. i think you should be selfish and focus on making yourself happy, cause nobody else will or can do that. love yourself first and then love another.
i don't know if this helps much, but it made sense when i wrote it.

Answer 8

According to what i know. What you are asking about can be devided into two parts.

1st part is: Scientificaly there is a certain part in the brain responcible for picking other ppl's emotions.
http://www.world-science.net/othernews/061212_laugh.htm

2nd part is: accoridng to new age spirtuallity you may have an Empathic gift & this gift will always affect you to reduce the effect you should shield or clock. if you did a search in the net you can find valueble information.

Have a nice day :)

Answer 9

First of all i think that you been able to get into other people's shoes is unique and i hope you can find the balance to be able to help them without loosing your sensitivity.Well i have the same problem ....and i changed only when i figured that the reality is i am not God,"God is the only one that can give the strength and wisdom to solve problems" by getting other peoples problems personal all i do is get depressed and that is not the reason this people came to talk to me....they come to me trying to find someone whom can hear and hopefully give a good advise.for what i read you are a good friend.Don't change that....just find your balance...God bless!!!

Answer 10

Human beings are meant to be sensitive,there is nothing wrong in it .However it seems you are not strong enough to hold your self .Even I go through situation like this many times but then I tell myself that I have to keep myself up for the good of others and for my own good.If somebody is sad its better to keep yourself happy and cheerful to spice up the environment. Meditate in morning to keep balance in your life.