if i had broken up with my wife and where split up, and she sleep with another man should i take her back?

Question

my wife told me one night that she had fallen in love with another man and at this time we wasnt getting along very well, mostly on my part becuase i never paid her any attion, well she ended up leaveing me even after she found out the guy she was in love with wasnt willing to leave his wife for her, but left me anyways becuase she didnt think she loved me anymore, i was a fool and just let her go, when she left it hit me pretty hard that she was the only person i ever REALLy wanted, by not giveing her what every spouse needs....my love/attion/, i lost her well after she made it clear she wasnt comeing back (even though we was still sleeping together) i decided to move my family in, she seen them liveing here and was pissed, and as she was leaveing she was cring saing i only gave her 4 months to come back, so i told her she could come back, and we could get a place of our own, come to find out this man she was in love with and he was married they where doing it, should i take her back

Answer 1

so you're saying that while you were married you never gave her love and attention, and you are actually surprised that she left you for someone who did. And now you're wondering if YOU should take HER back. Man you are lucky if SHE'LL take YOU back. She obviously loves you a lot to sacrifice receiving love, attention and being treated right so she can still be with you. I hope this relationship matures or moves on.

Answer 2

For all your faults, it was your wife who left you for another man and not the other way round. She could have been more reasonable and given you some room to make the necessary adjustments without jumping to extremes. Nowhere in your question have you mentioned that she is terribly interested in returning to your life afresh. So I should say let bygones be bygones. You needn't invite her back. But if you are that desperate, you can bring her back. In which case, she is liable to dictate your future life, fully aware of your weakness for her. So, look before you leap.

Answer 3

sir, if u r 1st love to ur wife, i'm sure she will come back. her new partner already married so he must be in puzzle like u. another thing is family with child naver wants to crush their kids life. so tell me first u have any kids ? if yes think about their future. always prefer dignity , ego always 2ndly. So if ur wife really realize her mistake, take her back otherwise let her go.

Answer 4

Take her back if she is sincerely sorry for what she did.
If the relationship is rocky you need to get some counseling.

If the cheating continues or if you have lost trust in her.....it might be time to move on

Get some counseling

Answer 5

You could take her back, but remember that her time away from you wasn't spent on trying to make your marriage healthier. It was taken advantage of as were you. You taking her back would only be temporary. If she would have not had her cake and ate it too, I would say most definatly, take her back, but thats not what she did with her time.

Answer 6

Life is very short.
Why do you bother about these small things?

Look at yourself?
Are you not interested in another man's wife?

Answer 7

If u feel that she has come of age and that u have also got rid of ur inattentive habits, go ahead.

Answer 8

I dont think you should take her back. It is better for both the part. You both need fresh start.

Answer 9

it's really critical situation ok but go and tell her about your feeling may be she will understand or you satisfie with your effort's which you have done for all these even you never feel guilt in yourself.

Answer 10

I can't tell you what to do. If you think things are fixable and it is what you both want. By all means.