I've been having a really hard time with my friend lately after telling her that I love her. I am madly in love with this girl. The feelings are not mutual and I know that its going to be VERY difficult to stay friends with her but I like her a lot and I want to be her friend, even if she doesn't love me back. In order for me to do this, I was thinking of going on a "friendship break" for a bit so I can think some things over and try to move on. I don't want to lose her and our friendship. We only communicate with e-mail so it wont be that difficult to not talk to her, even though I will have many urges to e-mail her. I dont know how to tell her about the "break." I just want to know, am I doing the right thing and how should I tell her?
2007-03-09 19:05:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unrequited love will eat you alive. I think you are wise to take a break and think things over...try to move on. It's easier than it seems, and it will free you in such a way allowing you to embrace life with a new perspective.
You don't need to tell her anything. You are doing what you are doing to protect yourself. I could never be a just a friend to a women I was in love with. It is to some extent an issue of self-respect.
2007-03-09 19:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal out of it just stop yourself from e-mailing her at least she has been honest with you give yourself time to get over her and move on then eventually if you feel you can just be her friend resume the e-mails good luck :)
2007-03-10 04:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the right thing. She might not want to hear it at all cause she might not want that to happen. This has happened to me. I was upset that he wanted to go on a break but I respected that and now were closer than ever but not boyfriend and girlfriend. But just tell her that you need a break but you still want to be friends.
2007-03-10 03:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by xxErikaxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds right to me. Sometimes a girl doesn't want to hear so much about how you feel. Makes her feel crowded. Giving both of you some space is a good idea. She may like you more than either of you think. But being a little hard to get never hurts.
2007-03-10 03:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you need a friend break and you need to figure out some things but you do want to keep her friendship and it in portent to keep it., But you need a little time to think out some stuff. If she a good friend she will understand.
2007-03-10 03:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by C.K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, the problem is you don't want to move on, you want her. Try try try to move on, What I'm hearing is that you still love her and she's not having it. Until you move on this problem will still exist. I have so been there.
Sorry there's no easy answer, you need to move on.
2007-03-10 03:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mark in Boulder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still awake?You don't even need to tell her anything and you know that,don't you..You can't be friends with someone who you like(lust)
2007-03-10 03:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by looser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋