She is very pretty and samrt as i want in my spouse, we both knows that this is wrong but we are unable to switch off this relation. please advice i dont want to hurts both
2007-03-09 19:01:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know why you are asking for advice. You already know the answers.
You have to decide whether you are going to be selfish and stupid or just stupid. Or perhaps smart enough to know and do the right thing. You have children. You have a wife. Do any of the promises you made to your wife and the promises implied in bringing children into the world mean anything to you?
The lady you are in love with is an unfortunate turn in the road of life. You have to decide whether she is worth giving up your family. If you decide she is then don't worry about your family losing you. Your loss will be no great matter for them. They will be better off without you.
If your lady is as smart as you think she is then she will readily understand what the correct thing is for you to do.
2007-03-09 19:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You both are married to others & married men like to troll for something they don't have. What you think is love may just be infatuation. The thrill of being with someone new seems exciting...it isn't. Don't destroy 2 marriages without carefully considering why you married your wife in the first place. She was probably fun, adventurous and had a figure. After 2 kids your wife is tired & doesn't seem so hot anymore to you. Take a long look in the mirror & ask yourself if you are just as attractive to her. You already know this is wrong. You still love your wife but want more thrills. It could be your wife may be thinking the same thing. Appreciate what you have at home & leave the other lady alone. Please consider marriage counseling to get back on track. If you still want to take a chance on the other lady, be prepared to pay child & spousal support. You won't get to see your own kids until it's your weekend with them & you will get to argue over which holiday they get to spend with each of you. Oh yes, and remember that someday another man will take your place in her & your kids lives.
2007-03-09 19:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Little sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think if the same problem comes to ur wife, will u accept it? Will u tell her get married to someone, be a wife for both of you?
Certainly not, bcoz u cannot even think of it. The same way no ladies will share their husbands. you are having two kid. Remember that. You are responsible for the futures of ur kid and ur wife. Think abt ur kids. What they will feel abt u? How can they walk in the society?
If they are grown and coming to good positions also, how will they face the society. They will keep their heads down because of ur behaviour. Their life will be spoiled bcoz of u. Do you want to continue the relation ship still?
I think u as my brother and telling you. Seeing some smart lady and getting love on her is purely the infactuation. There are some persons who see ur money only. But wife is not like that. She is the one who comes along with ur goods and bads till ur life time. Avoid seeing that lady. Read Ramayanam. You will come to know how Sita feels.
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never approach that lady again. Avoid meeting her. Incase if u meet also try to avoid her. Automatically she will move.
2007-03-09 19:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Raki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get involved with someone else while you are married! That shows a lack of self respect and worse than that, an unforgivable sin against your wife. If you have any shred of manhood in you, admit to your wife that you do not love her and that you are getting a divorce. Do not pursue this other woman until you have dissolved your marriage. It just isn't an honorable thing to do and not a good example to set for your kids. Would your kids be proud of your behavior? You aren't just hurting your wife by hiding this you are hurting those kids too. Be a man and do the right thing here!
2007-03-09 19:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, forget about this other woman. Your wife may not be pretty and smart as you would like her to be but she is probably a good wife and a great mom to your kids. When marriages break up kids bear the brunt of it all. You mentioned you know this is wrong... then why are you going ahead with it? Human beings are never satisfied with what they have. Try to see beyond just looks and appreciate your wife more.
2007-03-09 21:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by AngelEyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to be in love because that's what makes us human, but the question to your question is, " are you still legally married and is your spouse still alive?" Well your answers to my question is yes then you really need to work something out.
First of all is you need to be honest with your spouse and children about what's going with your little heart right now, tell them that you're in love with another woman and that you really want to be happy. If they're all happy with your decision then make a move but if it's a big NO then you have to take things slow.
Then you gonna need to explain everything to your lover about what's important in your life like right now you got your 2 kids to look after and to keep all the love in your family. Also you need to know that it's really her who'll be able to love your children as if they were her own, to love and care for one another and of course to respect you as a spouse, a father and a lover.
If you really want her then please get a divorce first before taking any step, that is a manly way to admit that you want something or someone else in your life, good luck.
2007-03-09 19:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by beeta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl sounds like me, married a man falls for me too because of the criteria he wishes the wife would have.
If the girl is matured and knows that she will get hurt in the end and can bear with it, then let it be. But if you love her so much, you would rather see her happy falling for someone else. Help her in finding and support her in getting a guy for her own...
2007-03-09 19:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by Shazz Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AVOID HER. In the end, who is more important, your two darling kids and wife, or HER?
What if your wife had done something like this to you? What if she couldn't switch it off for another man? How would that make you feel? What if your children caught you with this woman? How would this make you feel? How would this affect their minds?
There is no easy way. You will have to trust your God, whichever religion you adhere to, and use strength to AVOID HER.
2007-03-09 20:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by shoshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you.
You can switch it off just like you switched it on, lust of the flesh only destroys the ones that really care about you.
My mom used to say ...."What goes over the devils back, comes back up under his belly"
Think about it. Stop it now. In a day and age of self gratification stop it and think about someone besides yourself. Your wife, children, and your extended families.
2007-03-09 19:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by carpentershammerer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u love ur wife tats y u have to kids??Isnt it??Tat was love u made i guess?? Dont let ur childrens hate u.i dont know y after giving every thing to our husband still they r not satisfied??? If u dont feel love atleast feel pitty on her??? If she would have left u 4 another man then how u would have felt??? B honest with her and apologies from d other lady.It is a love of eyes not of heart wat u r having wid this woman.
2007-03-10 01:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋