It seems that more people are giving up then fighting for their vows and I am just wondering if in reality, there are actually people who believe in forever? Are their any REAL fighters out there?
2007-03-09 18:36:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do, but we don't really think about it that much.
We love each other; that's why we're together. We take things a day at a time and work our way through the difficult times.
Forever. Well, sure, yes,...I'm just saying we do it a day at a time.
And yes, there are far too many "back door people" who just have to have one foot out the door in case anything difficult comes up, cause they don't have the maturity, the nads or the sense of committment to work things out.
2007-03-10 00:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 9 years, had dated him for 6 years before that, he was my first boyfriend and the most important person to me for 15 years, and considering I'm only 31, that's a long time. We got divorced last year, and while I don't think we'll ever be together again, I still regret that I didn't fight for it harder, that I wasn't more careful and didn't see certain things coming so I could have worked on making them stop. I never considered myself a very religious person, but for some reason I feel like I'm still married to him because the bible says there is no such thing as divorce and that seperating is always a sin. I didn't know that I believed that until now. I do still believe in forever, I think it is possible, but it's far less romantic than people think and far more work than people are aware of. But I do believe in it. You can make it happen, you have to do the best you can to make it work, and then you also have to have a bit of luck, and the right guy. It's just not easy because you never know for sure if he is.
2007-03-10 02:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen to that! My husband and I talk about this all the time. We were just saying today...back in the dau it was rare to get a divorce...now it is rare to stay together. people dont take marriage seriously at ALL. People consider it a piece of paper that can be burned at any time. It is too easy to get a divorce nowadays. You can say the other person made ur dog cry and they will give u a divorce. All of our friends are getting divorced...good friends married for 3 years just split..so we are now the last of us still married. But we are fighters till the end. So some people still believe in what marriage really stands for but not many!
2007-03-10 02:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question......wow...really provacative question.
Well unfortunately we live in a world where everything is two things....me...me...me and convienence. How many times do you see marriages break up because it was actually easier to break up than to do the right thing or the difficult thing and take resposibility for bad behavior or to say I am sorry ...even if maybe it wasn't your fault becuase you understood the higher priority. Its a shame because not fighting for love has become a shamm
And who is the victim in most cases?...kids
And it all starts with dating....dating has to be a process where we are taking in alot of information about people and using it so that when we are looking for a spouse we can call on that information to make a good choice so that when we bring kids into the world thay aren't the victims of us making a bad choice. But great question.....step up to the plate fighters!
2007-03-10 02:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definately. I am one of them.
I have been with my GF for about 1 year and 1 month now. We met eachother in January of '06, started going out in February, and have been going ever since.
We talk about what kind of house we want, how many kids, and all the expensive things we're going to have, and how perfect it's all going to be.
We both see the reality that all the fancy may not happen, but we don't care much - We know we'll always be together for as long as we're alive.
So yes, I do think some people still think of forever.
I plan to be with her always, even after death, if possible. I could not imagine ever losing her.
=)
2007-03-10 02:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to do with fighting. Too many people are getting married because the sex is good and they think that's love. How many people do you think are getting married that wait at least 1 1/2 to 2 months before having any intimacy in their relationship? I truly believe that their is one perfect person out there for each and every one of us. I had mine until she died. I also believe that you don't have to fight to keep a marriage intact. You work on it to make your spouse's life heaven on earth. I didn't call it fighting for my vows and neither did she. We lived our vows each and every day. I guess that's the difference in really loving each other and just getting married for sex. I asked God on the day she died to take me and condemn me to hell if he had to, but to please spare her. I would still take her place today if it would be possible. Does that answer your question concerning anyone believing in forever?
2007-03-10 02:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a product of a broken family I refused to allow my child to grow up the same way. I fought for my first marriage and it ended in divorce after 18 months. My daughter and I wasn't what he wanted, he wanted to have his cake and eat it too! Now, my second marriage (after being married over 5 years and together almost 7) is working it way down the toliet too. I believe in giving it my all, but when abuse in coming into the picture, I have no problem throwing in the towel.
2007-03-10 03:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in it and I thought about alot before I got married so I would know for a fact what I was getting into. I didn't want to have any doubts. I am happy for choosing to get married because there is not very great men out there like mine. I believe we will be together forever till we die.
2007-03-10 02:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to find someone to be with forever and who would feel the same towards me. Although i'm not married yet i hope that when i do get married it will be forever. Fighting for your marriage shows just how much you really are committed.
2007-03-10 02:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you believe in forever you are setting yourself up for failure in a way. I look at it more like as long as this is working I am in for the long haul. I will say I have had my hands dirty a lot keeping thing working. I think if you believe in forever you will accept anything to keep forever and sometimes forever can be a miserable place to be.
2007-03-10 02:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by curtianmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋