I haven't been with my fiance' very long at all.. And the rest of my family thinks I am nuts, but we are getting married in a couple months and have only been together about 2 months.. I believe that he is the love of my life and I have never felt this way about anyone else I have ever been with. I didn't even care about my ex husband before we got married, as much as I do this guy. I need some feedback! How soon is too soon to get married ? HELP!
2007-03-09 18:00:47 · 30 answers · asked by mandipoo4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have divorced already, so there is no issue in any direction. Some people realize the first day they meet that they can start working things out for the rest of their lives, some realize after one month that they are mistaken, some after two months... some after twenty years...
If you believe that he is the love of your life, enjoy and deal what life brings you every moment of it.
2007-03-09 18:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for sure - 2 months is much too soon to get married.
First off, you may need to take a step back from it all. Love (or lust, whatever the case may be) has a way of wrapping you into it, and not letting you see the reality of things. So take a step back, and sort it out. How well do you know this guy? Do you know of his past? His ambitions? Or does he just make you feel good?
Secondly, take a look at your plans, if you have any already laid out. You're going to get married.. And then what? Do you both have jobs, or is one of you staying home if you have kids?
In all seriousness, 2 months isn't enough time to really get to know someone. And why rush into something like marriage so hastily? What would change just because you get married? Just keep going with it for a while longer, you need not be in such a hurry. After all, if you really are in love, you won't need marriage so soon just to prove it - It'll show in the way you look at eachother.
I hope this advice serves you well.
2007-03-09 18:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have read a number of books by Marriage Counselors and Phsyciatrists who all suggest that the 'honeymoon period' lasts (on average) for 2 years. I would therefore suggest getting married at around the 3yr mark. I mean, if you are meant to marry the person what is another 2 years in a whole lifetime of marriage? Don't get me wrong - I know some people who got married after only a few days and are still together 40 years down the track... I just personally wouldn't risk it as people that do that and stay together are definitely in the minority.
2016-03-28 22:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and Dad knew each other for three months, Got married and celebrated their 51st 5 months before my dad died. My best friend knew her husband 3WEEKS and they are together after 35 years now. And there is no end in sight. On the other hand My sister married the first guy she ever was "boyfriend, girlfriend" with in the 8th grade after going together for 6 years they married and divorced 5 years later. My daughter did almost exactly the same thing. Trust yourself make your own decisions if they are wrong then you can't blame anyone else and no one else can take the credit when it works out.
2007-03-09 18:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bains Gram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some time as it will make you more close to your fiance and you will be able to live a better life in future and it depends how is your fiance racting with u on ur likes and dislikes and if u think tnat u will be able to spend your whole life with him than there's no problem.... and take atleast 2 more months to know him and be frank with him as being a man I know tht how being frank in the part of girl likes the man .... he ( ur fiance) will think how loyal and close u r as u tell him small things but don,t irritate him by talking too much and not allowing him to convey his feeling to u and lastly best of luck and wishing u a happy married life....
2007-03-09 18:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by imran k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, that seems like a little too soon. You can't fully know a person that well in such a short period of time. Love can be deceiving, and make you feel like it's the real thing. I'm sure, looking back at it, you realize you didn't love your ex-husband all that much. But at the time, you were most likely enamored with him.
And I'm sure all of these people who say you should "follow your heart" have never been in true love. It's easy to tell someone to run off and marry a person when you're not going to be the one taking care of things if it all falls apart.
Best hold off temporarily. Wait for his true colors to show.
2007-03-09 18:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Furr. 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In general, this seems like too short a time. Make sure you are in LOVE and not INFATUATED with each other. Love by itself is also not grounds for marriage. Have you talked about family wishes, future goals, bad personality traits, etc? You need to be compatible. Love is great, but it's not going to walk the dog. ; )
Are both of you happy single (i.e. not on the rebound)? Have you got your lives on track? Did you learn from your failed marriage? Have you asked yourself what is so great about this guy, and why you like him so much?
You are adults. If you want to go for it, it may work. "True love" and "soul mates" may very well exist. But I suggest you do some more homework first.
2007-03-09 18:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should date at least a year before getting engaged. Since you say you didn't even care about your ex husband before you married him I question what marriage means to you and your committment to a husband and a marriage. To say that sentence even today I don't think you are ready. He has to be as nuts as you are to propose after 2 months and willing to marry 2 months from that.
You need to do alot more thinking.
2007-03-09 18:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you have to get merry so soon you need to wait if he love he will wait you don't want to get merry then find out what he all about i was with a guy for 7 year and when i find my husband he was the dream of my life too we was going out for 2 month and want to get merry and waited because don't know no one in 2 month just wait for 6 month love will do crazy thing if you wait then the marriage will last for a very long time
2007-03-09 18:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by piglet91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask that question then YESSSS its too soon to get married. Whats the rush anyways? Its much easier to get to know him better now then to find yourself in divorce court a year from now. Do yourself a favor and wait at least a year or two before you commit the rest of your life to him.
2007-03-09 18:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋