Ok I'm gonna make this short and sweet Iam a bisexual female and im in a relationship with a woman and im not out of the closet with my family and only a few of my friends know about me being this way well the female that i was or am involved with is questioning our relationship and saying that she doesnt know if she wants to continue with the relationship b/c im not out im not ready to do that with my family friends i dont care but my family is something different and she has been knowing about me not being out for at least 3 weeks and there was no problem now it is b/c her ex is back in town am i wrong to ask her to just have a little patience with me?i do have feelings for her its not love b/c we have only been dating for about a month maybe a month and a half what should i do?
2007-03-09 17:25:55 · 13 answers · asked by bkchickintx 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Phew! I have one word for you: "punctuation"!
To answer your question: ask her to be patient. Surely she must realise how difficult this is for you? If she doesn't, kick her to the curb. No woman is *that* special.
2007-03-09 20:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your personality, and your inner strength.
If I was going to have a sexual relationship with anyone, I would most likely fall in love. If that's the way you are, get the hell out of the relationship. You are going to get hurt.
If you are the kind of person that can distance herself from love more easily, then maybe you can ride that wave until it ends.
By what you said, you seem emotionally distant, and have doubts about your families acceptance. Also, by what you said, you girlfriend is unrealistic. She took on this relationship with that factor of your family not knowing, and expected you to change in HER time. She seems to be the type that gets into relationships thinking that people will change according to her expectations.
2007-03-09 19:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I feel you my girl hasnt came out to her family yet only and few of her friends know. But I've came out to my mom and the majority of the 11th grade knows Im bi and Im really proud that I am bi. But anyway Im not pushin her to tell her mom that shes bi. And your gf doesnt need to push you either, coming out of the closet is hard. And people's reactions maybe positive or negative. So your girlfried pushing you to tell you family is wrong. And you're not wrong, you shouldnt need to ask for patience that should already be given. I wont dare rush my gf and make her tell her mom she's bi. Thats to much stress on her. So your gf shouldnt be rushing you as long as you love her and you know your bi, your gf should have no problem. Your gf is crazy and maybe she's not the one for you.
HOPE I HELPED...........GOOD LUCK:]
2007-03-09 17:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't wrong. I think if it was a good relationship, you shouldn't have to ask. Things should just flow nicely if you are with the right person. If you are uncomfortable, then get out! This other person doesn't sound very sensitive or thoughtful.
2007-03-09 17:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Love Gays! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should have patience with you. Its YOUR decision to decide when its right to come out to your family and you shouldnt be rushed into it. If she wants to hang with her ex, let her, but dont let that bully you into doing something youre not ready for.
Good luck :)
2007-03-09 17:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong. you're the only one that can decide to come out to people. You'll know when it's the right time and it's obviously not the right time now. What if you outed yourself for her and your family turned their backs on you and she left you anyway? Do it for yourself and no one else.
2007-03-09 17:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong at all to ask that she be patient. You and only you can decide when you want to come out. She has no right to pressure you to come out, because it's your life! Tell her that you're not ready to come out, and that you don't know when you will be....and if she wants to stay with you, she can; if not, then her loss!
2007-03-09 17:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by christina rose 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no ur not wrong to ask to her to wait. its your call on what happens just dont wait too long. becuz ur family might find out on their own which is kinda bad and kinda good.
2007-03-10 02:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by icecream_kiid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you need time to think this over, if you guys have a good thing going, she'll wait for you!
2007-03-09 18:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by I like hippos. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong....you tell your family when your ready Good Luck
2007-03-13 14:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by Evil Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋