Why are women so insecure in themselves?

Question

Why do most women lack self-confidence? Even professional women I know, who carry out difficult work magnificently, are terribly concerned about their looks, relationships, whether people like them or not

Is it us men that have made them that way, or is it genetic?

Answer 1

Picture this: You turn on the tv, and you see those models with oh-so-shiny hair, with big boobs and killer abs. You open a magazine, and you see these women with the most perfect features, wearing the new must-have makeup which promises that if you use that product, you just might look like one of them.

The reason why women lack self-confidence is because society and the media press them to always improve on what they have. Women tend to get this impression that what they have is not enough, that you have to look a certain way to be considered beautiful. No matter how much we say that beauty comes in all sizes, society and the media tells otherwise.

Answer 2

This is purely a gender -specific stereotype. The lack of self- confidence is prevailant in both sexes, as are concern for looks and relationships. Maybe you just happen to know alot of women with these traits. Most people can tend to be nervous about carrying out their work, even though they are predominantly good at their job; it is that nervous contemplation that gives them their 'edge.' Years ago, it is suggested in history that men opressed and suppressed women, However, females have come a long way regarding the issue of improving equality and the workplace. It would seem that the males' attitudes towards them , which has certainly evolved, but has yet to catch up.

Answer 3

There are so very many different reasons.

First and foremost: for the same reasons men do. They just present it differently. And Most men I know spend far more time worrying about their hair than I do! Men have the same concerns and as many have the same insecurities they just express it in different ways.

No, you men have not made it this way for us any more than we have ourselves. Even assuming it is because we live in a male-dominated world with masculine ideals we have played as much a part in allowing that as men.

Genetic? No. Just no. It might be argued for some issues but not the ones you've raised. Again, I see so many men with the same concerns.

I think, a lot of the time, we are confused about concepts of femininity. If we are "girly" we think that weak. If we are too "tough" we think that masculine. Just like men we get a lot of ideas of what we should be a strong members of our gender.

Should you be more tough or more sensitive?

Both of us need to learn more just to be ourselves and except each other as we are. And BOTH our genders need to learn to be more accepting of our OWN emotions. It all goes both ways.

Answer 4

It is not only women , I am sure men have the same problem also a professional anybody has a lot to loose if they don't fit in,lack of big bucks,position. They have to portray that they are the captain of the ship etc and the pressure is on. In a world of so many experts, how many are there? You are only as good as how you performed today,it must be like walking a tight rope every day. It is easier to be full of self confidence in your own domain. we are all expected to be perfect, who is???

Answer 5

Most females are brainwashed from an early age into fitting into a certain role, this starts mainly with their parents.
'Who's my princess?' 'Who's the most beautiful girl in the world?' etc...etc...
Then they go to school (Where they find they are no longer the centre of attention) and find they have competition in society from other females.
Then as teenagers they are brainwashed by the media into still fitting into a certain role, I.E. being glamorous, well liked, popular.....
Then as adults they are brainwashed into believing they need to be, successful, professional, attractive, plus all the the other things previous.
Most PEOPLE set their own bench marks.
And men just as much as women are insecure and lack self-confidence, are concerned about their looks, relationships and whether people like them or not

Personally I think women expect to much from themselves.

Answer 6

I was always insecure and lacking in confidence when I was younger but as I've grown I've become more comfortable with who I am. My husband has played a big part in building my confidence, by convincing me that I should be myself and not what others want me to be. It's people like Torksie up there that make my blood boil with anger because no matter how far we've come with equality, we will never attain parity while there are men like that around.

Answer 7

I really do believe that it is genetic, because i know some women who are insecure in themselves, and i do think it's the way that the was brought up, never was encourage,never was told that they were pretty, all ways was put down. My mother told us girls when we were gowning up, that to never put yourself down, that you are just as good as the next person, or better, that you can have anything in the world that you want, all you have to do is put you mind on what every it is. And if a man said he love you and that he would give you the moon, tell him if he mean what he says to bring the moon and put it at you feet.

Answer 8

You are assuming more power than is rightfully yours when you suggest you (men) are responsible for a possible self-esteem issue that SOME women may have.

Low self-confidence begins in the home because the parents themselves have low self-esteem. It's a vicious circle. Additionally, I'm surprised you would attach this syndrome to women only instead of looking at your own genders' weaknesses. Insecurity is not gender specific...but the fact that you've tried to make it a womans' issue indicates to me that perhaps you have some of your own insecurities to which you're not even aware.

For future reference, try to avoid posting your self-doubting and misleading questions in the guise of self-confidence and superiority. It won't work in the neck of the woods.

Answer 9

I don't think it's just women, there are so many insecure men too.

They like to act tough in front of women and do all sorts of weird things to look impressive, that is a sign of insecurity. And men are very concerned about their looks today.

Women are just pressured to look good but now there is also pressure on men to look their best.

There are many women who do not care much about their appearances too.

Answer 10

Some women set high standard for themselves, they wanted to be perfect in everything......as for appearance, they might wanted too have more attention from others to make them become confident....

Man sure have connection with that....if a pretty lady and a not-so-pretty lady in front of you, which one you will give more attention to?

Professional women they might be good in their workplace but not in their relationship or family life coz' they might be better than their partners in the workplace, etc.