I have this friend who gets mad super easily. One day she is in the best mood and the next she is really mean. She is always insulting me and her other friends. She doesn't have a lot of friends so I feel like it is important to talk to her all the time, but then when I want to talk to some of my other friends she gets really mad. Whenever she does something and I get mad at her she feels bad and apologizes to me so then I forgive her, but then the next day she is being mean all over again. I don't know if I'm doing something or if it's just her and should I really still be her friend when she treats me like that?
2007-03-09 16:55:44 · 6 answers · asked by KT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would talk to her about how important your friendship is to you, but that you feel sometimes knocked off guard by her getting angry. She seems genuinely apologetic for when she does get out of line, but maybe she honestly doens't know how to control herself. This is a shame, because she could ended pushing everyone away from her which is the last thing she needs to do. You are a good friend to keep trying like you are, and she is lucky to have you. All I can say is talk to her about how you feel when she does this. Try to not be accusatory, but let her know how it hurts to be insulted all the time. She may not be very good at communicating, and this could be something that could really help her and help her better herself in the end.
2007-03-09 17:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is an unhappy person. She may also have a mood disorder if she has really bad mood swings from one second to the next. She is lucky to have you as a friend, but that doesn't mean she should take advantage of you.
You should talk to her and tell her you value her as a friend and enjoy her company, and then try to talk to her about why she is so upset/moody all the time. She may be going through something really bad at home, or she may be depressed/upset about something.
2007-03-10 02:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u are describing is a "Sometimey Friend." She's up one minute and down the next---not a good friend most of the time. This kind of "so-called" friend can potentially ruin your other relationships with others if you don't confront her soon. If she doesn't understand your feelings, she is in denial and needs to re-group. So give her space, take a break, and after a while, she should see the error in her ways. If she doesn't, she is not your friend and never was. Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-10 01:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by laqualla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For this one, you're going to have to be hard. Just tell her staight out what her attitude is doing, and unless she controls her moods, she's going to be on her own. Don't accept any more apologies, and don't let her make you feel guilty. She obviously needs some sort of councelling with anger management.
2007-03-10 01:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is insecure and needs a lot of attention. If you can accept her as who she is and can tolerate her attitude, stay as friends. May be you can talk with her and try to find out if she has any problems which need help. Open up with her. For sure she will change
2007-03-10 02:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaaw
u know...
i think that ur friend gets jealous easy.
but she really caresz about u alot...
like u said she doesnt hav a lot of friendsz,
so maybe shesz jealous when u talk to ur other friends and not her,
so she feelsz lonely
and doesnt know how to express herself or is either too shy to tell u
she's ur friend, a good one too i bet... she just needs to learn how to show it better or in a different way.. i bet shesz at least trying to but is having a hard time..
i think she's like that coz i am too sometimesz... :]
2007-03-10 01:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by cherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋