He didn't even TELL me he was doing it, let alone ask me. And it's not like she has it in case of an emergency; she uses it to just waltz into our home whenever she wants to. I am so furious and my husband thinks it's just not a big deal.
2007-03-09 16:47:23 · 17 answers · asked by girlie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ooooo, ouch! Not good. But you can tell him that you've given your key to a mutal male friend and that if he can give away your key to his mother without talking it over with you, then he has established that You don't have to talking things over, you too can make unilateral decisions.
Hey, how about spending a few hundred dollars on a new appliance and take something of his back with the receipt and get the thing you want with the cash you get back??? and you don't even have to discuss it.
And you can get your checking account in your name exclusive and have your name exclusive on the phone bill, the lease, the car payment. If he wants to be two single people who just sleep in the same bed, then give it to him!!!!
Just long enough to see how he likes it ; - )
2007-03-09 16:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by BIGDAWG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, what is it today with all these men and still being their mommy's little boy? No, he should not have given her a key and not consulted with you first. And the fact that he knows you are unhappy about it and he says it is "no big deal" makes it worse. He is not showing respect towards you. He needs to get the key back right away. He needs to show up unannounced and ask for the key back so that she doesn't go make a copy of it.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 00:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he shouldn't have. That's very inconsiderate. The two of you need to have a long talk then he needs to ask his Mother for the key back and if he gets mad so be it. If he doesn't want to get the key back then tell him you'll either have the locks changed or add another one to the door and not give him a copy. And so long as your home both locks will be locked.
2007-03-10 00:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely something I think should have been shared with you. Good lord, she could come right in while you two are making love or hell just busy with other things. Any outsider (family or not) should be calling or at least knocking before they come to your home. At this point, I think he should stipulate that it is for emergencies and for when you are away and maybe she is watering the plants or something. You have a right to feel put out by this, but maybe there is a way you two can work this out.
2007-03-10 00:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gave it to her with the intention that she would use it in an emergency, then don't be angry with him. Talk to your husband first, without being furious and tell him your feelings. Then, I would stand firm though and tell her -- in a nice, non threatening way-- that she can not just walk in any time she wants. If neither of them respects your wishes, change the locks! Good luck!
2007-03-10 09:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot? What if you want to have free-crazy spontaneous sex on the couch, or table? or floor? & mommy walks in? Would he think THAT was no big deal? It's a matter of taking away your right to privacy, that is nothing to just give away lightly, especially when you are giving away someone elses too! I'd tell him to change the locks!
2007-03-10 00:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big deal-waltzing into your home is a invasion of your privacy. Change the locks, hubby will get the picture.
2007-03-10 09:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would she want a key anyway it's ur apartment not hers ur adults and u dont need her looking afta u...& that means she cud jus walk in and not even have 2 knock and cud interrupt important "happenings" so i would speak 2 ur hubby and but dont get angry @ him until u hear wat his reasoning is 4 giving her th key. ask him y she got a key and why he let her hav it especially without discussing the idea and if it was really neccesary 4 her 2 hav one and then if th worst coms 2 th worst and u both agree it wud be bad 4 her 2 hav a key although dont want 2 ask 4 it bak cos it mite offend her u cud be sneaky and take it 4rm her so she thinks shes lost it...this wud also be interesting 2 c how honest she is wit u 2 c if she wud actually tel u that she'd "lost" it. oh but if ur hubby still thinks its a good idea 4 her 2 hav a key instead of th 2 of u goin and taking th key bak from her u'll jus hav 2 tax th key bak by urself but u'll hav 2 plan and scheme it well. also once she confesses she "lost" the key and if she wants anotha suggest 2 her and ur hubby that its not neccesary and that communication is th key hence knockin on th door and callin priar and orginising 2 com ova etc. good luk :D
2007-03-10 01:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100% my ex did that years ago. Then a few months later we went on vacation. I came home. She had been through my home all my personal things. Even re arranged my kitchen and living room. changed the curtains . I would get that key back or change the locks. that's what I did.
2007-03-10 01:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no girlfriend he didn't go there, that is just not right that is your home the only place were you could have privacy, ask for it back and am furious for you.
Its a big deal demand your rights in your own home, good luck
2007-03-10 00:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋