so me and my boyfriend (fiance) are totally in love. im 16 he's 19. We are engaged..is this like WAY too young? i mean we aren't going to get married actually untill i am 18 so i can sign for the marriage...but what do yall think?
2007-03-09 16:21:08 · 12 answers · asked by kissesfromhvn807 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you feel that you ready for this, then stay engaged until you
are out of school, and then see how things go. life has a way
of bring people together or tear them apart. only time will
tell one way or another.
2007-03-09 16:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as one who got married too young, YES! Way too young even at 18. Become an adult first, learn how to make your own way in the world before committing to marriage OR children. I never listened to what older people said when I was 16, but looking back I say Enjoy Your Youth Now and on into college. The more mature you are when you get married, the better foundation you will have to make it successful.
2007-03-09 16:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are even concerned enough to ask this question shows that somewhere in your heart, you feel like you are moving too fast. You could geniunely be in love with this man, but maybe you want to take it easy and get a chance to really see how you two do in long-term dating, before making such a big commitment. You are both so young, what is the harm in waiting? And what is the big rush? I'm not saying break up but I am saying you have the right and more importantly should feel comfortable, sharing your uncertainies and concern with your partner, otherwise just how much in love or how close are you? You shouldn't have a doubt about something like this, and if you do, take it slow. It's your right. good luck.
2007-03-09 16:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by meraphetamine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this engagement is completely unrealistic. Though, right now you may be in love. You both still have a lot of growing to do. A lot can change in a few short years. Why not just stay together, and save the engagement for later on in life? If you are both meant to be together, it'll happen. But why rush to make that potential commitment at such a young age?
2007-03-09 16:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Honey J. Valentine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement is fine but wait til at least 18 to marry i say... This would be the smart way to do things. This way you will have known and dated him for 2 years and that is a good thing. Just make sure that when you do marry it is for all the right reasons and for love and not just because you want to be married. Make sure he is the right one for you before you marry him as well. How long have you two been seeing each other if i may ask?
2007-03-09 16:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'all are way too young. You don't know who you are yet. You're still learning about who you really are, what you like and don't like in another person in order to make such a big commitment as marriage. I have heard it said that a person should date at least 50 people before that person can know what they like in a person. So don't be so hasty, you have a lot of years ahead of you. Be intelligent about it.
2007-03-09 16:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by HOTSAM329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way, way, way too young. Been there, done that, thought I know it all. I repeat, way, way too young. Don't you want a litte time to fing out what life is all about before you tie yourself down to someone who probably won't turn out being who you expected him to be. Wait until at least your mid 20's .If it's still there then, then go for it!!! And good luck even if you do the stupid thing.
2007-03-09 16:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Evee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your tooo young. your gonna miss out on a lot of things. yeah i know you guys are in love but theres really no reason to rush, so dont. i got married young (i was 16 he was 18) to the love of my life and we're still married today, but we both know we were very young and we missed out on a lot of other things. it's very hard to make a living and stuff too .
2007-03-09 16:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Peter's_Wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinon i think u should wait a while, plus ur under 18.. u have ur whole life ahead of u and if u wait u never know..u should move in with him first and then get married because u might not like living with him...even if u r "in love"...think about it..presonally i think ur too young
2007-03-09 16:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by bsbrulez92704 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your to young hes to old come on r u sierouse this kinda thing wont work out for long
2007-03-09 16:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋