He thinks it'll ruin all his plans in life and we'll be completly broke!
2007-03-09 16:16:33 · 24 answers · asked by This Gurl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He needs to consider the fact that you want this baby and that if you get an abortion, you feel that it would infact ruin your life. He needs to wake up a realize that this is not just about him, but about both of you and a new baby. If he still does not agree, then you should consider moving on. I'm sure you have family and friends who will be there to support you. Don't give up this baby just to keep him, it is not worth it. Trust me, the decision of having an abortion will affect you the rest of your life.
2007-03-09 16:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by lululegs2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 09:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you think is right. That's how my boyfriend was when I found out I was pregnant with my first. He tried for weeks to get me to have an abortion. I told him that if I needed to raise the baby alone, I would. And I meant it. Now, my daughter is 3, and he is the most involved father I have ever seen.
He was scared. Just like your boyfriend probably is. Just like you probably are. Kids are expensive, and you have to make sacrifices for them. Sometimes it means working a job you don't like because you need to. Sometimes it means pushing your wants aside for years. But you, and only you, know if you are ready for that. If you are, go for it. Maybe he thinks he can't do it. There are millions of strong women raising their kids on their own. And, it's entirely possible that he is just freaking out.
Everyone that says 'abortion is evil and wrong, and only murderers are okay with it,' are entitled to their own opinions. You have your rights.
Bottom line-you can't change his mind. You can't blame him for being scared- pregnancies, unintentional especially, are scary things. But they are worth it-only if you are willing to make the sacrifices. Just the same, no one should fault you if you evaluate your life in an honest manner, and say it isn't time.
Make up your mind. The rest will fall into place as it should.
2007-03-09 16:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared to do this on your own. Your boyfriend doesn't sound too supportive no matter the choice you make. He should have thought about this when he was having sex with you. Having a baby before you are ready WILL make things difficult and change or delay plans the both of you have made. You have to remember that your baby is what is most important now
2007-03-09 16:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to convince him of anything. It is your body, if you want to keep this baby then DO NOT let him tell you to have an abortion. That little baby deserves a life, leave the irresponsable looser and bring your child up without him. It will be hard, but worth everything when you see your precious little one smile!
2007-03-09 16:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the boyfriend... not someone you should have around as the daddy of your baby even if you were able to "convince him." Don't feel like you have to stay with him just because he's the father. I'm sorry, sounds like you're in a tough situation but you don't need someone like that.
2007-03-09 16:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God gave you that little baby if he wants to abort it please distance yourself from him. Love from a man comes and goes but a mothers love is always.
Im not a fine one to talk but fast forward your life 16 years from now if he isnt in your life will you wonder what might have been. Never had a abortion but have made some silly mistakes over a guy. And im a mom of 4. and i wouldnt trade my children for anything or anyone. recently lost a baby. you have a little miralce. you can pray he is just scared and has a change of heart. but please dont let him decide for you.
2007-03-09 16:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by jerry w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice not his, he can't make you have one. He should have thought about having a baby & "ruining" his life before he had sex- condoms break, bcp isn't always 100%, etc. You make the choice, if you want to keep the baby do it. And tell him how you feel about it, if he's not on the same page with you then maybe you should part ways.
2007-03-09 16:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by tyandemsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see.... if his is just our boyfriend, it is not his decision. Husband? Still not his decision. If you want the baby and he dont, leave him and keep that baby. He has already made up his mind about the abortion. If you can do it, than do it. Good Luck sweetie. Kids are the greatest. Are you two perhaps young? That may be the reason he feels like he does.
2007-03-09 16:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it does not really matter what he thinks cause it is your body and he cannot force you to have an abortion.
If you think that you can make it with a child then don't have an abortion and make it on your own without him.
You can't make someone want something they don't want, you can only worry about yourself.
Good luck
2007-03-09 16:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋