Does it not scare you that you may not be happy as the opposit sex either or that you will miss some parts of being the gender you were origionally???
I know people have to live it out first but all the ops seem so final i'm just curious.
2007-03-09 16:13:51 · 17 answers · asked by Stephanie R 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I considered this matter in depth many years ago.
I came to the conclusion, If I could have changed gender and blended easliy and completely into the world as a girl I would have been just as happy, and had no regrets.
20 years later... I now think ( in ad oddly retrospective way ) I'm glad I didn't... I love my kid with every part of my soul, and if I'd had GRS, the phallectomy the castration... She could never have been concieved... Never been the massive and wonderfull part of my life that she is now.
Would I have known ? would it have changed my mind back then if I'd been told ... thats a very difficult question to answer.
2007-03-10 06:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by jlb.1970@btinternet.com 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
some people do end up regretting going thru the change.. what scares me the most is that i really don't know for sure if i am transsexual, or if the idea of a sex change is just a way that my mind is trying to create an escape from the reality of life.. bottom line, i have never been comfortable with my own sexuality, and transsexualism seems to be the only logical conclusion i can think of..
the biggest worry most transsexuals have is not necessarily the changes with penis to vagina surgery, but it's the overall looks.. even years of hormones won't necessarily make a male look like a true woman. "passing" as a woman is what concerns me.
but to be totally honest, i can't see anything about the gender role of a boy/man that i would miss. i am a very feminine person and i see the girl/woman role being a much better fit for my personality and values that i hold.
2007-03-09 18:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through mine in93 which is 14 years ago this year. I have been totally happy with it. The only strange thing that happened to me was that I changed from male to female and expected to fancy men. Instead I turned out to be a lesbian, I not bothered about that I enjoy it and it pleases me. You are correct in saying that it is final because once changed you cant go back, but I am pleased with the results. I have a vagina like any other woman and even doctors and nurses cant tell the difference, I can climax just like a woman, and to be honest is just so nice. A big bonus is that when I was male I wore very similar clothes every day but now I fem I can wear anything in different colours shorter skirts or longer skirts show my breasts or not show them, wear perfume and honestly I know that fems just have the best choice of clothing and make up in fact everything.
2007-03-10 13:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi all...personally the feeling of wanting / needing to change gender comes from very very deep within you...its something that has ALWAYS been there since day 1. Its a terribly gnawning away at you feeling that no matter what you do or what you say you cant make it dissapear....yes you can convince yrself for a while and make it go away....but it will always come back to you....it will even take you to the point of you cant see a way out of this and yr only option is suicide.!!
Its not something that you just wake up with one day. I just wish more people could understand how very hard this is to live with every day . Yr brain is telling you the opposite of what you can see in the mirror.
2007-03-09 19:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by scharliexx 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I like dressing up as a man sometimes, but I wouldn't want to to actually change gender. I am just curious to know what it feels like but I don't feel that I am trapped in the wrong body. I'm sure people who have the operation are certain that it is the only way they can feel like themselves. You wouldn't go through all of that if you weren't sure.
2007-03-09 22:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex-boyfriend wanted the hormones and breast implants so he could be a professional drag preformer. He must have been passionate about that career to go through all of that.
I'd say it isn't usually a regreted decision though.. it's something considered for a long time. I'd certainly miss those parts.
Also, I think Jess is disgusting and she will go to hell.
2007-03-09 16:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think most gender-changing people start with hormones to get the idea of it and then get an operation as the final step.
2007-03-09 16:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah well sometimes i want to be a girl because i enjoy crossdressing but being a guy is ok sometimes if i could i would definatally without a dought try being a complete normal female for a month or two and if i liked it i would love to stay that way sometimes i feel as if i must become a girl for my life to go on but i want to experience a normal teenage girl
2007-03-09 16:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try living like the opposite gender for a while without the permanent. then u can c if u like it but still hav the chance to go back. if u reelie love it, do it permanent. it takes alot of thought tho.
2007-03-09 16:46:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a pre-op mtf transsexual. I considered surgery too expensive and too risky so I live with what I have.
2007-03-10 01:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋