How often should children be spanked, and should they be allowed to keep all of their clothes on?

Answer 1

Children should be spanked when they do something wrong after they've been told not to do it at least once. The punishment should be directly after they do whatever it was so that the relationship between action and reaction is clear. The spanking should NOT be hard enough to leave bruises or any red marks

Answer 2

I agree with Crzywriter about spankings. However, as for the other half of the question, about clothes being kept on, I am guessing that you mean like when a child is given a spanking with their pants and possibly even undergarments pulled down so they are "spanked" on bare skin. If that is the case, then yes, I feel as though they should have their clothes kept on, because even when I was still only just a little kid (I think I was maybe 7 when I started figuring this out), I could still understand that it didn't matter if it was a boy a girl, because both boys and girls had their "private places" underneath of their clothes, and by making someone uncover a "private area", just to be spanked on the bare skin of their "behind", was like one of the worst things ever, because even I knew the "rules" (which I took very seriously) about how I was never supposed to be allowed to let *any one* (which meant grownups/adults too) to ever be allowed to see, or touch, the parts of my body that I knew full well to be "off limits to any kind of 'bad touches', especially ones that were meant to hurt me". Personally, I still do not know if I think spankings are "appropriate" or not, because I honestly there were times I sincerely believed in my mind that I actually *deserved* to be "beaten within an inch of my life" (my mother was bipolar since before I was born, so I spent a lot of years "emotionally truamatized" because she couldn't control her moods/anger sometimes.) Now my memory of my childhood is pretty shotty, but as far as I can remember, I think I could count all of the times that my mom even gave me a "swat on the back pockets of my jeans" in my entire life on just my fingers, because most of the time my "punishments" were being screamed at, often with the use of pretty blatant profanities (now can you see why I wished to "just be beaten like (I felt like) I deserved to be"?), until she finally had enough and sent me off to my room to be "grounded" for however long she wanted me to remain there. Anyway, my point is, whether spankings are "acceptable" or not, they should never be done in a way that causes physical harm (like crzywriter said), or that violates the "privacy" of their body.

Answer 3

I don't agree about spanking children.They should be punished by other means.Talk to them and make sure they know why they are being punished right after they misbehave.Put them on time out or make them clean up the mess or according to the situation but no spanking please.They grow up with low self esteem and sometimes they will rebel or do other things to get back at parents.

Answer 4

Mess with someone your size! Children should never ever be spanked or punished in another hurtful or demeaning way. I have brought up two wonderful children to adulthood without ever stooping so low as to raise my hand in anger against one of them. Maybe that is the reason why they are still close to me.

Answer 5

Negative reinforcement isn't actually effective.

I did college research on corporal punishment and found that it is not effective and doesn't create real change. In some children it does instill fear and that is why it seemingly works. If you want to prevent problems in the future then instilling fear isn't the way to go. You can look at this research yourself. Just go to your local library and find journals with articles on corporal punishment.

And how can making a child pull down their pants for any reason be effective?

We are living in the 21st Century.

Answer 6

That is against the law to hurt a child for the use of punishment because it is still child abuse. It does not help children to learn at all. My parents spanked me for nearly 10 years, and it does not help either. I became afraid of them; they are not my role models. Children will learn if parents talk to them what they did wrong. If you spank your child every time, he or she will not come to talk to you because he or she will be afraid to talk to you because your belt or your hand is there waiting to spank them if anything could make you mad, or that it was wrong. Children make mistakes; let them learn from their mistakes. They could not know what they did wrong or right they need a guidance that will not hurt them, they don’t need an abuser telling that it was wrong, you are going to make them scared, you are going to make children ask advice to other people that won’t do spank them. I know because I went to talk to my teachers for an advice, not my parents and I learned everything on my own, not my parents. Oh yeah, I totally disagreed with this person who wrote “ just make sure you don’t leave bruises” oh please, children will tell teachers that their parents hurt them, they will take seriously about it. I know I have heard stories like that. They even put children to foster homes.

Answer 7

I don't think you should spank children, but rather try to find a more appropriate method for dealing with circumstances in which the child has done something bad.