I am a preschool teacher and I want to go back to work. I am bored out of my mind and spend to much money sittting at home. I love my baby and plan to take him with me but my husband disagrees with my needs.
2007-03-09 15:58:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Go back to work if you want to. Hes just being a jerk
2007-03-09 16:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be bored. I knew a teacher of gifted/talented kids who taught her first child the most amazing stuff at 6 months. She sat her daughter up and taught her, one card at a time, what different objects were that were pictured on the cards. She said by 9 months she had about 50 cards in a circle around her baby and she said, Point to the house and the baby pointed to the house. etc.
You know, the more you invest in your baby right now, thru age 10, the more well developed he will be.
I don't see how you can take a 6 month old with you to preschool and manage. Someone is going to be neglected, either your studets or your baby. I wouldn't do it.
I well recall how boring it was at home when I had a 6 month old. Take your baby out of the house, go to the mall, don't buy anything, just get out. Start jogging with a stroller. There are probably other ways you can get active and lose the boredom. You only have one child, so you aren't as trapped as you would be with 2.
Wow, I just read the other answers. Your poor husband. The other responders sure don't like him. He really is concerned about the baby, and I don't blame him. It's better for your BABY if you stay home and don't make your child have to compete for attention. It does seem like the hours stretch ahead of you, but fill them with iinteresting stuff for your baby to do, and you will be so very glad later that you did. Trust me, the time flies by, and the time you invest in your son's development will make a huge difference in his life later.
2007-03-10 00:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel you need to go back, go back. I am not sure why he would have an issue, especially if you're planning on taking the baby with you. If it would make you a happier, healthier mom to have some mental stimulation, by all means, do what you have to do. And if he won't respect your decision, tell him he's not being a very good partner, and being selfish.
Maybe you could come to a compromise, and only work a few days a week??? Worth a thought.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 00:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ang 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your husband stay at home with the baby for a week, and then see how he likes it! He'll realize that being home by yourself with a baby every day is really not entertaining in the long term. You should figure out a plan for going back to work (will your employer allow you to take your son with you?), and then go for it!
2007-03-10 00:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by kittenpie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Notice you said the words "I" and "me" and "my needs" but nothing about your daughter's needs? That's really sad. Your baby needs you more than anything. I don't understand why you would have a baby if you wanted to work so bad. Nothing wrong with having a career, just do that and then have a kid. Good luck...
2007-03-10 00:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a agreement with your hubby for him to take off time from work and he can stay at home with baby, or take baby with him everywhere and get up with baby at night and do everything you have done since you have been home, explain to him about how it felt to have baby of course.
After a couple weeks home with baby he then will understand why you want to go back to work. You have it good you can take baby with you! What a great job!
Good luck, men just do not get it.....
2007-03-10 00:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you. I stayed home for the first year. I thought I wouldn't like being back. But after I started I was like, "Why did I wait this long?" Plus, you'll be with him. I would talk to the pediatrician though because of all the germs.
2007-03-10 00:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him sorry but you need to go back to work for you sanity. As long as you can check on your baby and he is well taken care of he will be fine. He sounds a little controlling to me maybe you should have a talk with him and let him know that you are bored to death and this is something that you want to do and he will have to accept it.
2007-03-10 00:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your husband can disagree all he wants. Love is accepting a person for who they are. He doesn't get to control you. You have to be happy in your life.. he needs to suport that. If he wants the baby to have a full time parent, he can stay home.
2007-03-10 00:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is there a daycare for infants where you work? If so I don't see the problem. Does your husband view you as some sort of baby-making machine?
2007-03-10 00:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're in the unique position of being able to TAKE your baby to work. Congrats! I say "Go for it!!!" Besides -if YOU won't put your baby in daycare -what does that does that say about your daycare center? I think it would send the wrong message to the parents that use it.
2007-03-10 00:02:56 · answer #11 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋