My husband and I had planned to start trying for a baby in 3 weeks, but I've applied for a job that could take up to 12 months to get (I've got a good chance of being offered it, just not in the near future). Should we start trying when we'd planned to & just not worry about the job, or hold off until I've been at the new job for 12 months (which could be 2 years away). It's a good job that I could keep long term, but if we wait for me to be offered the job & 12 months passes & I don't get it I'll go insane at my current job. I really hate being there & the only thing that could keep me there is the thought that our baby was coming. Should we start trying or wait for a job that might never come?... Any advice is good advice. Thanks :)
2007-03-09 15:40:54 · 8 answers · asked by kyls 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think you should live your life planning for tomorrow, but not living for it. That means if you want kids, go for it. If you live for the "what ifs", you will most certainly be disappointed in life. In 12 months, another reason may stop you from having kids. Plan for tomorrow in that you are aware about what could happen, and try to make allowances for it, but don't let yourself be completely controlled for it. Does that make sense? I am not for just throwing caution to the wind, just not being overly cautious.
2007-03-09 15:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go 4 the baby, why i am saying this is because i have learned that having kids is the most important thing in life, u can always get another job too, may be u ll get this one you r looking 4 but if u planned to have kids then u should go 4 that:) i have a friend who was always wanted to have a career job and she planned not to have kids for like 2 to three years after marriage but what happened.. she got pregnant and she was so upset abt that and unfortunately had a miscarriage and though she is working and making really handsome amount but now what she wants is have lots of kids but and she is trying to conceive but still no luck, so now she tells everyone that kids are more important..so best of luck and baby dust:)
2007-03-10 00:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by purple rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is decide. What is more important? Is having a child more important or is your career. Career's come and go though and once you have a baby it doesn't. IT is something that you need to think a lot about. YOu should also consider how old you will be if you do wait. You really don't want to wait too long because then you will be a whole lot older when the child is grown up. Hang in there and you will get the answer soon enough.
2007-03-09 23:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in a situation like this, you have alot of different possibilites too look at such as if you quit your job will you still be able to afford having a child? Are you ready to be totally committed to a child, and not so committed to your job? Would you rather wait to have a family, and focus on your career right now, or have a family and just stay at the same old job? There are alot of things you have to take into consideration. Honestly, the best thing for you too do is whatever you think is best. It is your life and your the one who is going to be living it, so think about the pros and cons of both of the situations. Good luck to you, best wishes, and lots of baby dust!!!!!
2007-03-10 00:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Me_Myself_&_I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my point of view I would start trying because you never know how long it will take you to get pregnant. I would never wish infertility on anyone but for me it took 10 years to get pregnant with my second child and 6 years after that to get pregnant with the baby I lost. If I had put things off in my life to get pregnant I would have wasted so much time in my life. I pray that you would never have to wait that long but I am a firm believer that God places children in our lives just when he sees fit so if you are meant to get pregnant and have the job God will work it all out just fine.
Hope this helps and good luck with your new family.
Have a great day and God Bless.
2007-03-10 01:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by mhzmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want more? Child or career?
An employer is not supposed to discriminate against pregnant women, but sometimes they do.
Keep another job until that one comes, you'll want your maternity benefits...and in Canada you have to have been working for at least six months before going on maternity leave.
Good luck. This is a decision only u and hubby can make!
2007-03-09 23:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what u think is best for u and ur family....but i wouldnt really plan for a job that might or might not happen in 12 months.
2007-03-10 00:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Finally his wife! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie that is totally up to you and your hubby.But if it were me and i really wanted a baby i would got for it.Word to the wise it never works out as planned so just go by the heart. good luck and best wishes
2007-03-10 01:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋