ok well me and my ex have been divorce for almost 5 yrs now and i just found out he could be going to prison for armed robbery . when i found out i had a feeling of pure bliss , he was a real butthead while we were married and he was very mean too , he would'nt help take care of our child and he cheated on me numerous times , so my quetion is am i evil for feeling happy that he is going to prison or just plain human?
2007-03-09 15:40:46 · 46 answers · asked by Abby G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it's because you feel superior or vindicated, it's probably not healthy.
If it's because you believe society will be a better place with him indoors, and are rejoicing over the soon to be safer world, and not his demise, then I believe that would be OK.
We never become better because of the failures of others, so I find little cause to rejoice when another person fails and falls.
2007-03-09 15:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Two years I loaned a substantial amount of money to a guy in a real estate deal. It turns out he had no intention of following through with the deal. The DA showed me paper work from his bank that showed on the day I wrote the check he put $5000 in his son's account, $5000 in his own personal account and bought eight $10,000 CD's and when they were ten days old he withdrew the money from the bank. Other records show he spent the majority of it at three different casinos.
I sued him and just as I had it won he filed bankruptcy.
I've spent the last two years trying to recover my money. Two years is a long time to be with out. My business failed and I am sure that if I could have kept the doors open for another sixty days I could have make it work, but I ran out of money. Every thing I own is in four storage units that I am about to loose because I can't pay the rent on. (There was a fire where I am staying and I had to rent a hotel room for a short time.)
He goes to trial in May and he is looking at four years. Sometimes I think its not long enough sometimes I think, "Wow, this guy is going to prison because I called the authorities." Sometimes I don't feel any thing either way. I'm just tired of the chase and being broke all the time. Mostly I hope his prison time is as hard as it can be.
What does that make me?
2007-03-09 17:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by adept_thinker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It just means that you have justified the reason for divorcing him. Now everyone will see exactly how right you were to divorce him. And I am happy to hear that you got out of that situation. He could have done much worse to you if you had stayed with him. You are a smart woman. I only wish that all women could get away from people like him. And don't feel guilty at all. He is now receiving exactly what he deserves, and you deserve to gloat all you want.
I hope your life without him is happy, and that you can find a good caring man that will give you the happiness you should have received the first time around.
Good luck.
And remember, this is something you should feel happy about.
P.S. I hope that some of the other ladies can learn how to be stronger from you.
2007-03-09 16:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be too happy that my child's father was going to prison. After all, that child is going to want to know about his father and there will be some feelings of shame knowing your dad's in prison.
It's just human for you to feel glad that he's going to jail, though.You at least know where he is now and he's not causing anyone any problems for awhile. Like many men, he was heartless about family obligations and didn't really suffer consequences the way you did. Well, this is his comeuppance in your mind anyway - so it will make you feel good!
2007-03-14 02:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Glad to hear somebody's happy, don't open the Door to him if he gets out and when he gets out, Far as I'm concerned People who go to Jail are Dangerous and Stupid and Gangs and Hate Groups do there business inside those Prison walls and there's nothing Prison Guards or Wardens can do.
Just some Advice
2007-03-09 16:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess in this case i would be happy that i was not married to him anymore since this may happen to him. Count your blessings and be happy and live your life well. Hugs to you today. You are not evil for how you are feeling... Just dont be vengeful in it is all I am saying. I hope that someday you can and will get over the bitterness though and be able to forgive him and move on with your life and be a happier person for it. Someday you will find a wonderful man to be with... Good luck to you. You are just plain human like we all are hon.
2007-03-09 15:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are just as human as they come. I'm not saying that you are right, but you are human. It's been five years now, you should let it go. Get help. I know when you are hurt deeply, it is hard to see your way to peace and happiness. You glorifying in his down fall is not gonna make it better. What if that was you in his shoes and he was happy you was going to prison. Looks like he got what was coming to him and it had nothing to do with you getting revenge on your own, karma took care of that. Now it's your job to pray for him and have compassion for him. Good luck.
2007-03-09 15:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once was in a relationship with a man that no matter what I did or how many times I left he just kept coming back.There was just no getting rid of him...he even went to my daughter's house in the middle of the night waving a gun.I can remember the morning that it happened my day of Independence.Two police officers in full riot gear busting in the door of the motel we were at...I was so damned happy and grateful I thanked and shook both their hands and went home.
2007-03-16 10:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To enjoy someone elses sorrows is defined as hate. I think its sad you haven't been able to move on with your life. Its been almost five years. I believe when someone gets enjoyment out of someone elses pain, that it says more about the person who is happy. Evil maybe too harsh to define you. Living in the past is definatly not healthy for you. You at one point loved him. Is this a habbit of loving for you. You love them, and then feel joy when someone you once loved is having trouble. Your not evil, just heartless.
2007-03-09 21:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are completely human. You know firsthand what he is capable of. A man that wont take care of his own child is a real lowlife. Maybe he will get the help he needs while locked up and he will be a better person in later years.
2007-03-17 14:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by littlejaysmomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋