a few months ago I had an induced miscarriage due to an ectopic pregnancy. Following that.. my fiance and I found out that the chances of him getting me pregnant again is slim to none. we decided to go through the adoption route. His parents are against this all the way and they already stated they will not accept the child as there own grandchild. So now my fiance is second guessing it. I dont know what to do!!! does anyone have any advice?
2007-03-09 14:54:32 · 9 answers · asked by Finally his wife! 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i dont want to force his parents in to accepting the child... I just dont want my fiance to make a decsion based on what his parents want
2007-03-09 15:03:30 · update #1
I would continue trying to conceive for maybe another month or so. Then, explain to his parents that you cannot have your own child, but feel that you need a child to care for. Tell them how much it means to you to adopt, and ask how they couln't accept this innocent child. Give your fiance time, and tell him also how much you want a child. Tell him that you can keep trying to conceive for a while. Best of luck! I have gone through a similar situation, and It is definately tough. (We did adopt, and my little boy is definately part of our family)
2007-03-09 15:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Rose♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force your fiance's parents to accept an adopted child as their grandchild. They are entitled to having their opinion in the matter. All you can do is accept it with your regrets that they fell that way and raise YOUR child as you see fit. Afterall once the child is adopted it will be YOUR child. if your fiance is having second thoughts then the two of you need to have a talk.
2007-03-09 15:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your fiance's parents that they will then be missing out on knowing their son's child. Sucks for them. What do they expect? Their son to find another women to love?
Be patient with your fiance. Men tend to freak about stuff like that, but he will probably come around in a few months. Being a parent is not about genetics. Seek a second opinion with another doc. Do not give up trying to have your own, but do not give up on the adoption either.
2007-03-09 15:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it to him this way. Would he care what his parents thought if the child was biologically his. And with his parents have him talk to them about how he doesn't care because he wants to raise a child and love it. If they don't want to be a part and be a grandparent it is their loss. A child is a blessing and brings joy to your world whether it is yours biologically or not.
A good parent is someone who tucks you in at night, checks under your bed for monsters, and kisses your boo boos when you get hurt. Make sure his parents understand that.
2007-03-09 15:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would still try to conceive. Just start buying the preconception books and ovulation predictor kits, fertility pills, a basal thermometer, and other things people use to conceive. You can also try invetro fertilization. There are a number of things to try before you decide to adopt just check around and weigh your options. If you still can't get pregnant then consider adoption and if his parents don't want anything to do with the child then don't try to make them eventually they will come around and if they don't then don't worry about it.
2007-03-09 15:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by candylady1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you been to the Dr. to see what options you can seek or if your fiance can take any Md's. good luck
2007-03-09 15:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by gg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to a futility clinic before u do any thing about adoption,and his parents will have to get over them selves if u 2 decide to adopt.But please try the clinic first.
2007-03-09 15:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by Candy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Either artificial insemination with his sperm or from a sperm bank . If the grandparents don't know its not his it won't hurt 'em
2007-03-09 15:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by totally confused 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no i can help sorry
2007-03-09 14:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋