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That last question about GOD and rotten women got me thinking about my mother. As much as I love her because she is my mother, there are some things now that I cannot overlook about her.

She was not the greatest wife to my father. Nor was my father the greatest husband either. They fought frequently and this was old school style when things would fly around the house and you could hear loud smacks.

She chose her religion over my father and would abandon the poor guy periodically, for whole weekends at a time. This is while my father was gone all day bustin his @$$ at work and for what? To find an empty house with no wife and no kids. Without even a letter to let him know where we had gone. BS!

She's lucky that my dad even put up with this crap about religion and randomly going missing every couple of months.

You know what, after all that, they are still married and now they seem happy after 30 something years of marriage. I respect them for that.

2007-03-09 14:50:47 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

The fact that they stayed together says something about the past generations. They really knew what all these marriage vows meant.

This also says something about the current generation that is all about getting laid.

2007-03-09 14:52:56 · update #1

Of course I'm going to say nice things about my mother. Did I not say that I love her?

Its called uncoditional love

2007-03-09 15:48:49 · update #2

15 answers

Well then see your mom wasn't that rotten if they are still together, maybe your dad could have accompanied her to church and then he wouldn't be left behind, but like you say they are old school and relationships were stronger than this generation plus she was absent for spiritual healing not to see another man or girls night out as they call it.

And well with a son like you she had to do alot of praying don't you think??

2007-03-09 15:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by none 4 · 1 0

Everyone have their faults and it's not up to us to correct our parents whether good or bad, right or wrong. You as a child don't know both sides if the story. I think you just want attention. You 1st start off by saying or insinuating that your mother was bad and then saying nice things at the end. You really should be careful how you refer to religion as crap. Maybe God will decide that your life is crap and forget to let you breath. It's up to you to believe or not, but you need to learn how to be respectful of the things that is unknown to you.

2007-03-09 15:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0 0

No not at all ... I love and respect my wonderful mother and we are the best of friends. She is very loving and giving and a great mom! I want to be more like my mom. I am so sorry you had a bad experience with your mom growing up and you may need counseling to help you get past the hurt and anger that you feel towards your mom. I am so sorry you had such a horrid life growing up. You need to get past the anger that you feel and move on someday.

2007-03-09 14:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0 0

Well I do agree to put God first because no one else will get you in heaven but I don't agree on your mom going off for long periods of times without even a letter and she should have included him. Maybe he could've taken off or something. Did you ever think that it wasn't religion it was her cheating? I know no one wants to think that about either parent but it might have happened. I think it is wonderful that they srted out their differences and stayed together. That's great! That does say alot about the marriages today. People just don't take God and their vows seriously. I know I do. I don't believe in divorce unless for whatever reason God forbid my husband cheats on me. I won't put up with that and God says I don't have to. I'm glad that out of all the divorces in this world your parents are still together. You should honor your husband/wife but put God first because he is our creator.

2007-03-09 14:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

The issue should have stayed between your father and mother. The day is new and learn from all the good she did for you. Is your own house in order?

Take extra care and enjoy the life you have with her now.
The memories she leaves you will be what you make of them...

2007-03-09 14:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0 0

we can all look back on our past and find things to fault. also, time changes us all. the important thing is, what has she done or learned from her past? What kind of a mother is she to you now? If she were to die tonite, tomarrow you would remember lots of good things you would miss. dont hold her past against her unless you've walked a mile in her shoes. were you the "perfect" child? life is short. cherish what you now have. Go hug your mother, be glad and proud she has stayed with you throughout her trials. Dont forget to tell her you love her.

2007-03-09 14:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Thank God that's the way it "used" to be. Now a days if your fart smells to bad there's no other choice but to get a divorce. I'm glad your parents are still together and your dad is a very strong man.

2007-03-09 15:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie B 3 · 0 0

my mother did about the same thing if not worse she left and never came back,no good bye, nothing, but i still love her ,and at that age i didn't understand all of that marriage crap,but it didn't make me an angry person,I'm a great mother of three college kids and single,if i choose to get laid then it's my decision,and it doesn't make me a bad person!

2007-03-09 14:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0 0

even though my mom was an alcoholic for 10 yrs during my childhood, left me @ daycare till i was the last one there everyday and then drive me home drunk on the freeway, fight with my womanizing, alduterer -addict dad, and say "that one is old idk where thats from" to every bottle of boose id find; idc. i LOVE my mom so much. i slept in her bed every night fearing that she would die. she started going to church and suddenly things changed. she has been clean for 4 years now, but unfortunately, my dad made a promise to himself that as soon as my mom got sober, he wouldn't worry about us anymore and he left us. i find his all the time. i even found another 's kotex and some trojans that obviously werent from my mom. I love both my parents so much, becuase even though my mom messed up, shes better now, and as for my dad, im praying for him.

2007-03-09 15:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by gina_d 3 · 1 0

Is your mom a Christian?

I'm asking because Christian wives are to honor their husbands.

It's good that they're still married, though.

2007-03-09 14:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1 1

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