did it end up working out? WHat caused the separation and what was the solution?
2007-03-09 14:07:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband did it many times with his ex-wife. I guess it didn't work out lol. It was due to infidelity, lack of love and respect and 'irreconcilable differences' let's just say =)
Hope you have better luck!
2007-03-09 14:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife of 16 years met a guy on the Internet and left me and our 4 children. That was back in July. About 2 weeks ago, she asked me if I would like to get back together. She right now lives in Florida and we are in California. She says that she misses me and the kids and wants to put the marriage back. Here is the advice that I have gotten. Number 1, you both need individual counseling. There are reasons why you are no longer together. After a bit of time, then you BOTH need counseling together. You need to find out what went wrong and fix the problem. I have been getting counseling for several months and it really has helped.
2007-03-09 22:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Gary M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't, but sometimes I wonder if we should, just to figure things out. For us it would just be because there seems to be no romantic relationship left. We take each other for granted, we're never intimate, we have nothing to talk about anymore. Sometimes I wonder if we separated for a bit we would realize how much we love and need each other and make more of an effort to feed our relationship. Of course, he's told me he doesn't believe in separation, it's either on or it's off so I guess I won't get to experience that.
2007-03-09 22:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... hello... We were married for 4 years and dated for 2 years... We did split up over my daughter. He doesn't have any children and my daughter was giving us a hard time. I moved her and my son to the country to be with my new husband. My daughter rebelled and was making life difficult. My new husband split after 4 years of marriage.
We did get back together 4 years later. Funny thing, it was my daughter who kind of got us back together again.
If the relationship was meant to be... you will go back.....
Some times you need to be away from some one to realize what you lost.
We were very very close and best of friends. We both did some growing and changing while apart. We both did some drastic things while apart. I missed him terribly and hoped and prayed that one day I would be with him again. I called out his name almost every night.
We did run into each other and agreed to see one another. We met and he told me he was moving to another state to be with a girl he had been dating. Long distance relationship. I decided not to stand in his way and give him the respect of his relationship. I didn't want him to go and I know he wanted to stay. But he had a commitment to this other girl. I kept my distance and didn't force him into any situation. I told him he would move to this southern state and be with this girl. But that he would come back and we would be together. I was willing to wait, cause I knew we belonged together.
The entire time he was there, I didn't bug him. I sent an email once in a blue moon. Asking how he was doing and wishing him the best that life had to offer. He seemed very very happy and enjoyed the state very much. So I figured this was the life he was supposed to have. I wished him the best and figured I hear from him every now and again and that's it.
Well, of course I heard from him and now we are together.
IT was meant to be..... ..... nice story.. I know they don't all turn out that way....... I feel like we have been blessed. I thank GOD all the time for a wonderful relationship and the friendship we have. He is a terrific man and I love him deeply. I know him the best out of anyone and I could actually hear him hurting deep inside... We both felt each other calling out to one another.......... our deep love brought us back together.
I hope this story helps give you hope and faith.
I wish you all the blessings and hope your true love comes back home to you!
GOD BLESS
2007-03-09 22:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by italianbronxgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after 18 years of marriage.
It was his decision to leave the marriage last summer. What caused it? Not meeting each other's needs. But then again, he was/is in the middle of a mid-life crisis. No drug/alcohol addiction; no extra-marital (as far as I know) affair, no abuse, and I continued to work, take care of the home and our 2 young children. Prayer and couseling help me through the separation and helped me greatly!
Three months later, he wanted to come back and try to work on the marriage. I was kind of wary, and was enjoying taking care of things by myself. Its almost 3 months since he returned and things are not perfect, but we are trying, Marriage is important to me and my children were unhappy. I hope it works, and I continue to go to counseling. He agreed to try and lasted only 2 1/2 session. We (my counselor and I), feel that he has yet to realize that his decision and choices affects me and our children.
The solution? Communication. In the past, I tend to either tell him what he wants to hear, told him how I felt and he gets mad at me for my honesty, or saying nothing at all...again getting pissed for my not answering. Lose, lose, lose situation for me (and eventually him too). Now, I take the risk and say what I feel. I see it starting to open his eyes, and see that his way is not everyone's point of view. No one has really challenged his view.
We're going to make this work...
2007-03-09 22:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by NAB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...first time together...5 years..we had a baby and he couldn't handle being a dad so he left...Pissed for years...we both remarried other people..I had two kids by my other husband...we both ended up divorcing at the same time and leaning on each for support and we ended up together again after 18 years we are back together again and happy as can be
2007-03-09 22:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had an affair. She left me and asked for a divorce, but shortly thereafter her relationship with the new guy collapsed completely. She came back to me, humbled and apologetic. Tough times, but this year is our 20th anniversary and things have worked out...but not without alot of heartache in the process.
2007-03-09 22:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
went back with my first ex, we separated due to his cheating, no it did not work out, he continued to cheat, and there was a divorce. we just didn't have the skills at that young of an age to work out the problems.
2007-03-09 22:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorced no regrets he loved big fat cows gave him to all 6 of em happy trails to him never looked back took me a year of this indignity to reach my decision my question u............can u seeurself 10-15-20- years from now with this person and being totally happy with ur decision?
2007-03-09 22:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes now were separated again
2007-03-13 21:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋