My exbf and I have a one year old son together. We went through a lot but to make a long story short it didnt work out and he married another women( she can have him)
she is now pregnant also and him and I are not speaking except through are lawyers. She contacted me today and said she was in trouble and wanted me to meet her. She is 7 months pregnant and I am sure it is about my ex.( he is avery bad person) I told her I dont want to get involved, it took me years to break from his control. IS that right what I said
2007-03-09 14:03:38 · 28 answers · asked by Kelly K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh yes, it is very right. Very, very right. You don't want to become involved whatsoever. Any ramifications will come around and possibly effect you and your son. Just smile, wish her better luck with him than you had, and move on. You are not responsible for her, her life or her decisions. Take care.
2007-03-09 14:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is the right thing for you to do. Tell her if he is bad then call the police and you are not the person to help her right now. She need to find someone that is not connected at all. When the chips come down, you don't want her getting upset or afraid and telling him things that you said only. Tell her to go to a shelter. I don't usually sound this way, but i think this is bad business. STAY AWAY.
2007-03-09 22:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! It's better not to get involved with your ex. Especially since you believe that he is a very bad person.
But you could have heard her problem on the phone. Maybe she really needs your help.
2007-03-09 22:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by A.S.I. - 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her or tell her there are battered women`s shelters. But for your own well being, don`t get involved. She`s a big girl, she`ll eventually know what to do.Don`t jeopardize yourself.
2007-03-09 22:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an iffy one for me. If you KNOW that your ex is an abusive sh*t, then I say you have a slight obligation to help this woman that is trying to get away from him like you did. She KNOWS that you successfully escaped him, she probably wants help from someone that succeeded. OTH, if he isn't abusive, but just an ***, well, maybe just meet with her once to see what is up, and then just tell her you can't/won't help.
2007-03-09 22:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the woman is crying out for help, maybe wants to know something that she thinks u know. he is probably abusing her in some way if he is a bad man. looks like she got the worst of the deal and u got away from it.
2007-03-09 22:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! You need to stay out of their issues. If it doesn't concern your son, you have no reason to talk to either of them. Don't feel guilty about it. She is an adult and getting involved with him was her choice, if she isn't happy, she needs to deal with him on her own.
2007-03-09 22:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya done good hon, any involvement in their world from you could only result in something bad..if you don't want to sound like the bad guy, just say your attorney advised you not to fraternize with the enemy~~
2007-03-09 22:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by wild1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are right to draw a line. no matter how hard you try, you could never fix her problems with your ex. he wasnt willing to fix his problems with you. they would drag you and your son through alot of bad days ,,taking away from the quality of your life and chances for happiness. be strong
2007-03-09 22:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by debbyjo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you could have had more empathy, that poor girl, but be weary of him--call the police if he even comes around--don't stand for anything from that bastard, or just tell her to get away from him now, before the birth, stress can harm the unborn, i think.
2007-03-09 22:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋