What I want to know is why and when you first had
sex.Only because I see so many girls here asking if they should have sex,or saying the are pregnant.I myself had sex for the fist time at a young age,and Im adopted because my birth mother had me at 15.Now that I am an adult and am about to get married I do regret it on some levels.So to all you young girls WHY are you having sex?Props to those who are waiting.
2007-03-09 13:58:04 · 15 answers · asked by jill@doodle 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My first time was on my 15th birthday, so I'm not sure if that would make me 14 or 15, but I usually go with 15. I knew I wanted to do it and thought it would be a nice birthday present for myself :) I had been with the guy for about a year and I'm still with him, and I don't mind saying I have a very active and fulfilling sex life.
My parents have always been very open about sex, and my mother's an ob/gyn, so i was VERY well educated from a young age. Also, I never felt like I had to sneak around or hide anything from my parents, I told my Mom what I was planning on doing well before I did it and she got me on birth control ahead of time.
On one hand, I consider myself quite lucky, and I know my situation is fairly unusual. On the other hand, it deeply disturbs me the poor level of education and undertanding that seems to be the norm for people growing up in our culture. Even with what I have to regard as the barely-adequate standards of sex education in the classroom, the questions I see here often seem like evidence of a shocking level of ignorance of even the basics that are taught in schools. I think that will continue to be the case, unless society's attitudes as a whole change, and sex is regarded as something healthy, and not stigmatized. And I'm not so sure that will ever happen.
Even though I obviously think that there's nothing neccessarily wrong about teens having sex, I do believe that there's a lot of real problems that can come with that territory. Basically it boils down to that for most people at that age, their emotional and mental maturity has not caught up with their physical maturity. Their bodies are ready (not to mention willing and eager!), but they don't have the first clue what they are getting themselves into. And that, I think, is largely a result of growing up in a society that expects people to become adults at age 18, and trains them accordingly, when in reality they are physically adults much, much younger.
Besides the obvious "itch you just gotta scratch", it seems to me that part of the reason that teens today are experimenting sexually is that today's media and culture is becoming more sexualized. I've talked with my older sister about this a few times, she's 27, and really I think that the behaviors in high school were a lot different just 10 years ago. However, I was also reading the other day thay teenage pregnancy rates are at their lowest level in 30 years—down 28% from 1990—so it's an interesting issue.
Sorry if that was kind of a ramble... I just happen to be very passionate about this subject!
2007-03-09 15:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by kyla_bean 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I have yet to have sex! I am 15, I have been dating a guy for 1 year and 2 months! I promised myself that I will stay that way until I am married to the person that I know i will stay with! I wish i knew why all the girls do it but i dont.... my friend recently did with a guy she has been dating around 2-3 months.... I tryed to stop her but she wouldnt listen....... I guess it makes them feel like they have achieved something or it makes them feel grown-up..... when they end up with a kid they will realize what grown-up really is.....
2007-03-10 18:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by kristinpaige92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've agreed with you. I am younger than the age group you have said, and that's the same thing I wanna know. I'l know I'l regret it, and even the own Bible says it. Even if I have sex, it'll be agaist my own will. I know that I will regret havving sex, that is completely why I do not want to do it. My Mom was 17 when she had me, tried to put me up for adoption, yet my Grandma stopped me, and now I live with her. Anyways, this isn't much of an answer, but thanks for saying that :3
I realy think waiting is a good choice, for anyone who needs advice from someone classified in the "minor" age. More like common sense, and "your going to regret it" sense.
2007-03-09 23:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
usually girls have sex at a young age because they want the attention from the guy or girl.. in some situations girls feel pressured.. and in other times a girl knws its the "right" person. it just depends on a girl. now a days sex is being put out there like candy. it is being exposed to younger and younger children, i can also say it is out of curiosity
2007-03-10 05:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i was 17 when i first had sex...i didn't want to have sex at 14 like all my friends did because now they regret it. the boy i lost my virginity to is some one i was with for 5 years ( and we're still together) and i love hI'm with all my heart. all my friends kept pressuring me in to having sex....but i was like no im not ready...but then one night me and my boyfriend where just sitting there and i felt ready. every one was like do you have any regrets and i can say no...i don't.
oh PS..I'm still only 17 ill be 18 in a few days
2007-03-10 08:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by amanda t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times it is not a choice, for example most girls who were sexually abused at a young age think thats the only way to have a man/boy love them. Im not saying its a total excuse but it does play a huge role in your sexuallity when you are older.
2007-03-10 03:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by jade 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i know that I'm not 18 I'm 22 but my teen years were wild! I lost my virginity at 16 to my first love. Stupid teenage love of course but i loved him he loved me so we thought it would be great. I have had other partners since then but now I'm in a very long term relationship who i hope to marry, I feel indifferent about some of my past the pregnant scares and everything but I'm done with all that.
2007-03-10 05:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was eighteen years old when I had sex for the first time.
I had sex because I was in love. I was comfortable, in love, and ready. And I don't regret it one bit. Why? Because the man who I had it with is now my fiance and we are getting married during the summer of 2007. :D
2007-03-10 16:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm 30 now i was a wild teen. I first had sex when I was 15- purely because i had an itch and i got it scratched. The teachers teaching us sex ed put it into so much detail that at the time i thought they wanted us to have sex. Looking back on it as a mother of four and a military wife I realize it to was a mistake, When i had sex for the second time on my wedding night i looked back and realized how stupid i was for not waiting
2007-03-09 22:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by (®andom Mommy) 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm 17 and still a virgin. By choice. I'm not waiting untill i'm married but i'm waiting untill i am completly comfortable with myself and the person who I decide to do this with.
All my friends, except two have had sex. I think some of them thought that they were in love with the guy. Either that or they were drunk.
I think it's a bit like drinking and smoking and drugs. You don't want to feel the odd one out, or you feel a pressure to do it. I think it's sad, people should be free to make their own choice.
One of my friends has been with her boyfriend since she was 14, she is almost 17 now. They waited two years, and they are using protection. I think this is ok, they clearly love each other.
2007-03-09 23:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋