My husband has primary custody of his 4 year old son. Tonight the little boy hurt his toe and my husband had to take him to the ER. I called her to let her know what was going on and she chose not to go to the hospital with him even though I told her he was asking for his mommy. I could tell she was drinking and had friends over. If it was me and my child was hurt, I would be there no matter what. What is your opinion? Not that I need any info from anyone else to show what a piece of work that she is. Just validation that I am not being overly dramatic.
2007-03-09 13:56:17 · 29 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think you are looking for validation from us that your husband's ex-wife is a bad person.
Most people put their kids first obviously and would be there in a heartbeat. The fact that she does not have custody indicates there are probably a few issues with her. If not seeing her son in the ER is an indication of her character - it is a little sad and kind of tragic. Don't go out of your way to verify that she is not the best person. That isn't helping anyone except yourself.
2007-03-09 14:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as your husband has custody you know what kind of mother she is. Must be pretty bad because the judge usually awards custody to the mother. If she were drinking then why would you even want her there? You are the stepmom, the caregiver, you take over that job! If she'd rather be doing her own 'thing' then to hell with her! You step in and be a good mother for that little one!
Best Wishes
2007-03-09 22:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom of an 11 month old and over protective, I doubt I would go for a toe, and especially if i had been drinking. To do so also undermines the father's position, like he's not equiped to take care of it, etc. The fact that she didn't go tells me she trusts you and him to have taken care of it.
I think she actually did the right thing in staying away, and letting the 4 year old build confidence in his dad by letting him deal with it without mommy there.
2007-03-09 22:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she doesn't have her priorities straight.
Or, it could just be that because she was drinking she didn't feel the right thing to do is drive to the ER when it isn't life threatening. But, there is always a taxi, or a relative or a friend that could drive.
2007-03-09 22:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point because the child was hurt and asking for her.
Although, if she was drinking, she may have figured it best not to go to the hospital drunk.
There's really not enough information here to come up with a valid conclusion as to what happened.
2007-03-09 22:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Formerly known as Jen F. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has no excuse! She needs to be a Mom and go to the ER for her boy. That little guy is so fortunate that he has two responsible adults in his life to take care of him. Be sure that he knows how to call you no matter what the situation if he needs to. Best of luck to you and yours!
2007-03-09 22:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands kids are now 16 and 19. His ex never showed up at hospitals etc. but we always called non the less.
It is just something you have to accept, it is not your husbands fault. Thank goodness they have you.
Hopefully she will grow up.
2007-03-09 22:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any decent mother would have gotten to the ER to see her baby. I think you were right in calling her, but she is obviously not fit to be a mother if she is not able to get to the hospital because of her making the choice to drink her life away.
2007-03-09 22:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Addison's Mom 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If my child was hurt and asking for me I would be there in a flash no matter what. But if I were in your situation and she was to intoxicated I wouldnt want her there. I would do all that I could to comfort him and try to get his mind off of her.
2007-03-09 22:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by JP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your husband has custody, and not his ex, speaks volumes. I would be at the hospital with my kids no matter what.
2007-03-09 22:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Veruca Salt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋