hello to all mothers. do/did you feel no desire to have sex after birth? It's been 7mth and I rarely have desire. maybe once in a month, but i'm too tired, rather sleep before baby wake up. anyone?
2007-03-09 13:50:16 · 17 answers · asked by raindrops 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Sweetie, welcome to a large club. It tales your hormones about 9 months to get back into normal. Even then, you will be tired, the baby will need something or you just won't want to. If it lasts longer than a year though, talk to you OBGYN, there could be some hormonal issues that didn't straighten back out. My girls are 6 & 7 and I still don't have the same desire as I once did. It stinks, but that's it, I have to deal with it.
2007-03-09 13:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I posted the same question!!! I feel the same way as you do and my daughter will be 7 months in 1 week. It's hard to think of having sex after such a long day cleaning, feeding, changing diapers, cooking, playing with your baby that the last thing you want to do is have sex!!! I too just want to hit the pillows and sleep. No worries, it's soooo normal. Some mom's jump right back on the bandwagon but some of us have no desire.
2007-03-09 22:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your not alone. It has been 16 months and I still feel too tired to do anything at the end of the day. I have some desire but my body says otherwise. It takes alot out of you, and not to mention I still have a problem getting use to my after baby body. When I get my daughter settled in at night that is my time for myself to just sit, and relax.
2007-03-09 22:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby in October and I had NO desire whatsoever! In January I went to the doctor thinking that I had postpardum depression. I was told that postpardum ususlly kicks in right after childbirth, so it turns out I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I am now on antidepressants and they seem to be doing the trick. Granted, I have not been on them all that long to see the full effect yet, but I am noticing that I am getting a bit of my friskyness back.
Good luck with this~
2007-03-09 21:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Addison's Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 month old and I can't even imagine having sex right now! It's going to be a while for that! LOL!! I think that the crying baby is the best birth control ever.
2007-03-09 22:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cara M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! my son is almost 4mos. and that is about the same amount of times that we've engaged in intercourse. I would much rather sleep. After being with the baby all day, cooking, and cleaning sex is the last thing on my mind. I'm exhausted! Also, I don't feel as sexy as I did pre-baby. Maybe if we mommies could get pampered we would feel up to it!
2007-03-10 00:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by jdubsmom06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I'm in that boat w/ you and we're sleeping!! In addition, I worry about getting pregnant again, so I really would rather avoid sex during certain times of the month... My daugher is 9 months old and I know eventually the sex drive will come back, but I don't see it happening anytime soon.
2007-03-09 22:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bio Instructor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal you are a new mother and this is a very demanding job. If you have someone that can watch the baby for you plan a night together with just you and your husband so you can relax and get romantic.
2007-03-09 21:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA HA! Totally normal. I would rather sleep those extra 20 minutes than have sex. My sex drive re-appeared after the 1st birthday.
2007-03-09 23:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah.......been there. done that......
My husband and I have chose quality over quantity........every weekend we send the baby (who is 11 months) to her grandma's on Sunday morning. we have breakfast together, watch a little TV, and have totally uninterrupted sex. It is great.
we do sneak in a little extra every now and then....but we usually just wait for Sunday to get here. It is very easy to get in the mood knowing that the baby is safely with her grandma, and since it is a morning thing, we are both well rested and ready for some action.
See if you can schedule some "date time" with your hubby.....some private time where someone else takes over with the baby.
good luck..........
2007-03-09 21:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋