First off, I'm Christian so my parents believe that being gay is wrong. But I have been bi for the past 2 years.{I'm 14} And I have loved it, and I am sure that I am bi.
Well about a year ago, I was talking to my ex and my sister came up and read it. She than brang it my Mom and it started off this whole arguement of if I am or not. I lied to my parents and told them I am not because I said I could never see myself even holding hands with a girl.
That is sooo a lie, I love being with girls. I love holding them in my arms, I love holdings hands with, I love kissing their lips and most of all being in bed with them.
The problem is my girlfriend wants to stay with me only if I come out of the closet to my parents. But I don't know how I can tell them without freaking out on me.
Because the consequences that could possibly happen to me are never talking to my friends {who are JuSt friends}, no trusting me and probally a lot more.
God I just need help!! How can I come out to my parents
2007-03-09 13:43:34 · 10 answers · asked by radioxrockstar 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
At 14 you do not have the level of maturity to even know what you are doing, kids theink they want to Marry thier Mom and Dad when they are young....
You feel more comfortable having girlfriends that is fine leave the sexual situations out of it, Talk to your parents who love you more than anybody about sex and feelings you have that are not understood, please don't be a victim of the PC Media and the Vitrol they spew at our young..
Best of Luck...
2007-03-09 13:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are too young to be involved sexually with anyone. But i was once in your situation with strict religious upbringing and having feelings for the same sex. I came out to my parents after i moved out of my parents house and had my own adult life. I am openly gay and enjoy a beautiful long term committed relationship. At that age you are still learning about yourself and your parents wishes should be honored because I'm sure they have your best interest at heart. I'm not denying that you are bi but you have so much to learn about life and yourself before you take on the world vs. your sexual orientation. ALWAYS be honest with your parents, but take time to be sure what it is you want to convey to them. You should never let someone force you out of the closet, because every ones situation at home is different. You have to be prepared for the worst when you finally do have this conversation(you cant expect everyone to understand or except you). Just trust that you parents love you and hope for the best. Take your time, you got a lot of living to do.
2007-03-09 14:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by pook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til its really dark and silent and jump out in front of them. Hopefully you'll give them a heart attack and won't have to go through all the mental abuse they'll lay on you!
Otherwise just ride it low-key until your 18 and can make up your mind. At your age things are still a little hazy. Wait till it fogs up like all the adults' are.
Explore all the many wonderful options that will open up for you as you get older, and don't be afraid to try it with a boy, too. Threesomes always draws a crowd! ;)
Be as happy as YOU can be- you can't make your parents happy- they have to do that themselves!
2007-03-09 13:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone will only date you if you are "out" they are not worth it. I know many people here in Utah that stay in the closet due to religious family. There is no reason why you need to come out to your parents at this time.
The best time is when you are on your own, and after you talk with someone at a local(or even in a nearby area) that has a Center for gay support to talk to you with methods of approaching them.
2007-03-09 14:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you are more than welcome to print out any of the pages from my site to share with your Chrstian parents. It is written from a conservative Christian point of view, and many Christian ministers have written to me to say that they no longer preach againsts homosexuality after reading it. It will help your parents come to terns with your sexuality from a biblical point of view.
But after you come out, if they reject you, remember these two important statements and treasure them in your heart:
"When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take [pick] me up." - Psalm 27:10
"The only thing I need from anyone is love and respect, and anyone who cannot give me these two simple things has no place in my life. You're my mother. I love you. I do. But if you can't respect me, you have no business being here." - Harvey Fierstein, Torch Song Trilogy
-Rev. Jim Cunningham
King James Bible Ministry
www.GayChristianSurvivors.com
2007-03-09 15:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by kjv_gods_word 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet they have good idea already they just don't want the drama, how about just enjoying your life and just let thing's work themselves out. When our daughters don't bring home boy's we get the hint. It just takes time for us to hint that we understand.
2007-03-10 04:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by frosty62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't 'come out' to anyone untill you are in college or living on your own. It will only cause problems. They might find a reason to have you commited.
2007-03-09 13:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you have been gay all your life, and your parents don't know, they haven't been paying attention. Or, they are just in denial!
2007-03-09 14:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by Diane V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lie to them and enjoy yourself
2007-03-10 02:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please Don,t
2007-03-09 14:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by ThomasL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋