My child is getting retaliation for pressing charges against another.?

Question

We recently heard that a child that we pressed charges against is going to press charges against my son for harrassment. My son was attacked (this child came up from behind and clocked him, they were both suspended because my son tried to hit him back). It's a long story... but we pressed charges because this child has, for many years, threatened this and he scares me at what he might do again or to another child. The principal even lent that she thought something had to be done like that. I don't think he is stable. But I also think he makes things up to tell his parents for attention - like that people are picking on him. If my son ever said anything smart to him before, I am sure that has ended. We warned him over and over about contact with this child (since all of these events occurred), so I really don't believe he has "harrassed" him. I've never seen anything like that behavior before. Anyway, what can I do? This child has had anger management classes in the past... didn't work.

My son has gone to school with this child since the 3rd grade and he is now in the 9th. They have had problems with each other (this other boy has problems with most all children he goes to school with) since then. I have tried to talk to his mother on several occasions but she only sees her sons side. Nothing has worked in all these years. That is why we pressed charges... otherwise we would NEVER do something like that.

Answer 1

Stick to your guns. I wouldn't worry about the charges against your son if what you say is true. Maybe it would be a good idea to round up witnesses and other kids that have had problems with this boy in the past. It sounds like this kids past record might come into play and if your kid has no record I'm sure the courts will take that into account. I'd REALLY press the principal to do something about this kid in the future. If the kid is making things up, it'll all come out eventually.

Again, stick to your guns, you're doing the right thing for your son.

Best of luck to you :)

Answer 2

You brought up a good point...you're not there when this is happening so you really don't know what's going on. You're siding with your son just like the other mom is doing with hers. Have you spoken with his friends? teachers to see what is going on? I'm not saying your son is stretching the truth or leaving something out, but it's always important to get as much info as you can from others.

As for pressing charges...you're a mom and you're doing what you think is right to protect your son. Can you home school your son or move him to another school? In the end, you have to do what's best for him...sounds like you're on the right track.

Answer 3

don't get this the wrong way, but maybe your son should go to the angermanagement as well, he may not be the aggresor, but it would still be benefitial, than have you talked to this boys parents? Try to find out why the boys don't get along in the first place. Maybe you can dig up some common ground... even though that may be a long shot...but what are the options? either they learn to get along or one of them has to change schools.

work with your school and talk to his parents, and make sure to tell them you want to resolve it rather than cast blame. They will not be welcoming this because of the previous charges, but if you can't affort to send your son to a different school for whatever reason, it might be the way to go.
Good luck

Answer 4

Kudos on the parenting. Way to teach your son that when you get bullied, you sue. Not like he could learn to stand up for himself, or at least tell a teacher. If the teachers didnt believe him when they told him, maybe he's not quite as honest as you think.

Answer 5

i think that if he does press charges, that the truth will come out in court and nothing will come from it. if need be and it goes that far, call people from the school to testify.