Ok, so my husband and I are in the middle of a divorce. I was the unfaithful one and that is how our marriage ended. We've always been civil with each other, so I did not hesitate to go to our house alone to pick up some stuff. When I was there, we were talking just like old times and then he initiated it. I was shocked at the fact that he tried to, since our marriage is almost ending. What could this mean?!?!
2007-03-09 13:32:29 · 17 answers · asked by toogr82b4gottn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the people who are calling me "easy"...
there are two sides to each story. You obviously do not know all the details of my marriage, why I did what I did, what kind of person I am.
So don't jump to conclusions about the kind of person that I am.
I'm sure you've made mistakes in your life that you've regretted. I am not perfect and neither are you.
2007-03-09 19:17:07 · update #1
He was horny and you were convenient. I'm curious, why would you walk away wondering what the sex meant. You were married once why didn't you just ask him?
2007-03-09 13:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by spirit2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the people who’ve said that (most likely) it didn’t mean anything other than he wanted sex.
Just because he had sex with you doesn’t mean that he still has feelings for you. Many times people have sex with persons that they don’t have feelings for.
Even IF he still has feelings for you, that might not matter at all. The biggest majority of people CANNOT forgive a spouse for cheating. The cheating causes too much damage. They can’t get past it, and they can’t trust you again.
2007-03-09 15:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious that you ARE easy...you're in the middle of a divorce and you have sex with the man you are divorcing? Didn't your lawyer warn you about this? The reason your husband wanted to have sex with you was simply that he was horny and you were there. He didn't have to pay someone for sex and he doesn't have to get that emotionally involved. He was able to use you without guilt and you let him do so...that is called "easy".
2007-03-09 20:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet the sex was better than ever too huh? Because it is taboo because the marriage is ending. Maybe he misses you and wants you back or maybe he was just horney. You really should have a talk with him and sort the whole thing out and be careful because if you continue having sex someone is bound to start having feelings and get hurt.
2007-03-09 13:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men can be pigs sometimes. Apparently he has getting along and having sex separate things. I know that lawyers say stay away, but some do it anyway. Sorry this happened to you, I hope it does not sour you altogether. Good Luck
2007-03-09 13:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife had an affair, and it brings very strange emotions to the surface. It's a very hard thing to deal with, and I am sure he is experiencing many, many things at once. One of the things men experience is intense curiosity about what exactly happened, and how you chose to do what you did...was it fun, exciting? I'm sure it was a momentary attempt and he might be embarrassed now by this...just cut him some slack...his reaction is simply about the violation of the trust and faith he misplaced in you.
2007-03-09 13:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
GF you'd better get him to verify a few things. You need to be honest to yourself and to him. He also needs to be honest to himself and you. Or if your ex-husband becomes your friend with benefits how bad could that be you both already know what each other like. But just ask him what he wants to do now and pray your bottom ain't pregnant
2007-03-09 13:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by sarahzcat 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you enjoy it? If so, are you going back to pick up more stuff? Sex is a powerful force, and in the heat of it all meaning,if any,gets lost.
2007-03-09 13:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by john c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that he knows you are easy and you would give yourself up to anyone/anything, he wants to use you just like the other guy used you. Simple as that.
2007-03-09 14:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The conversation reminded him of the good times when you guys still loved each other.
2007-03-09 13:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋