My wife wrote a very emotional loveletter to her married classmate eight months back and I found it recently.She was in email contact with him for one year and both of them seem to have stopped contacting each other now.She says he is innocent and if so why did he stop emailing her? I don't know why they stopped it so suddenly as she asks him not to forget her and how she love love and loves him and needs him. My wife was even ready to be his mistress by not dominating his wife.All this after 14 years of marriage and two kids. She says she forgot his email address and what about him? She or he never were in touch for the last 13 years after college and she chose me over him. Is she lying about the whole affair as she is mad when I ask about it and often gives contradictory versions?
2007-03-09 13:29:59 · 13 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave her....
2007-03-09 19:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds as if she is lying to you. An emotional affair is just as bad as a physical affair even worse in some cases. It probably ended because the man's wife found out about it and put her foot down with him. I don't understand how you can trust anything she says right now. You should definetly consider some marriage counseling.
2007-03-09 21:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to seek counceling and then either decide to put up with her lies or u dont and then get out once that line has been crossed whether its emotional or physical there is no turning back if a person will cheat then they will always cheat. U cant break a rule like that then appologise and make it ok. they will always eventually go back and do it again even if they have all the intenntions of not doing it. so you either put up with it or you dont very simple life rule there it works in all cases.
2007-03-09 21:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be blunt, Emotional Affairs never end suddenly!!
The contact my stop, but the emotions are still flowing. You need to look at why she after all these years went looking for the old comforts? If she found someone new, It would be for something she doesn't have with you, but by going back to the old flame that you beat out for her she is looking for something she used to have and needs again. Bottom line is she went looking, your relationship as you knew it is over. You will never trust her again and that poison will kill the relationship. Get out now and save yourself a lot of heartache.
2007-03-09 21:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Sex and Soul 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sure she is telling the truth. She has been in contact. But, the main thing is how did she get in contact with him in the first place? Did she go looking for him or what? I think it ended because his wife found out..........so he cut it off. The main thing you need to look at is why did she go searching for him? There are a few underlying marital issues here.
2007-03-09 21:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he realized if he continued with her he could lose his family. Sounds like she didn't want it to be over, but he ended it. She can say he's innocent because she's probably been the one trying to get him to continue the affair, but he's choosing not to. Of course, I could be completely wrong, but I've been in her situation and it sounds exactly like what happened to me!
2007-03-09 22:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's a histrionic and bi polar all at once? Or maybe he rejected her advances and she got miffed? Maybe she's getting bored with her present marriage to you and is fantasizing about her previous relationship? Your wife needs to be totally honest with you about this. Hope it works out for the best.
2007-03-09 21:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know, i don't believe that emotional affairs are as bad as physical ones... sure, it is wrong to be that intimate with someone other than your spouse, but she is looking for something that she is not getting at home.. now, that is not to say that if you and she weren't physical that she should go sleep with him... but there is a difference... sometimes, it just gives us the feeling of still being wanted by the opposite sex... its a nice feeling...
2007-03-09 21:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need to have a long, honest discussion. And get yourself some marriage counseling.
2007-03-09 21:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he didn't want to leave his wife and mess up what he has.
He dumped your wife and now she is trying to pick up the pieces on her side.
Keep a very close eye on her.
2007-03-09 21:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't harp on it, either forgive or leave. Nothing is gained by going over it repeatedly.
2007-03-09 21:35:15 · answer #11 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋