have you been mentally physically abused by your spouse?

Question

if so did you forgive? did you get back together? what was wrong with your spouse andwhat treatment did your spouse get?

did your spouse have alcohol drug problems

Answer 1

ABUSERS DONT STOP.... NOT WITHOUT YEARS OF COUNSELING AND TREATMENT...
LEAVE HIM...
DONT GO BACK...
STAY AWAY....

Answer 2

Okay here goes .... He is my story. In my first marriage i was very mentally and emotionally abused by my first husband. I did not know how to love or forgive him for this and out of pain all i did was run away all the time and come back to him repeatedly. Needless to say our marriage ended tragically and he committed suicide. I wish now i would have reacted different to him but i was not strong enough at the time to do so. My husband did not realize he had a problem until it was too late and this is the sad part. he never did seek help for it. This is how he got out by taking his own life. I do not hate him for this and i forgive him. I was not myself then though and i had no self esteem at all and i could not see past the pain. I should have reacted differently to him and i did not. I never felt loved by him and i felt ugly and not worth anything.... Two wrongs do not make a right. I have to say that emotional and mental abuse is so very hard and is much more to heal from then any physical bruise or scar. Internal and emotional scars and bruises last much longer and sometimes they never heal completley.... My first husband hand anger issues and did nto know how to deal with them and it was not alcohol abuse it was anger issues.....I am now remarried to a wonderful man and am very happily married and no more abuse. I am much more self confident and happier now.

Answer 3

My ex-husband was extremely mentally, physically, and verbally abusive. He put me in the hospital 3 times, cracked my head on a fireplace, threw me down stairs twice, and tried to drown me in the bathtub. I eventually left him and moved to Washington for 6 months and when I got back to California I was able to divorce him and I have never seen him again. My ex-husband never used drugs, drank, or smoked anything. He had a very bad temper and was mentally crazy. I don't know if he ever got treatment. My guess would be no. Get out of the relationship if your spouse is not willing to change. It will never get better. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice.

Answer 4

I have been mentally abused by my ex for 6 years.....
It changed me so much...that it's going to take me years to get back on my feet again and be myself like before...
I became a zombie being married to the asshole
I could never have an opinion an anything and had to agree with every stupid idea or anything he sad... I couldn't tell stories because everything was boring to him...and became a very quiet person... I am still recovering.... He was shouting yelling screaming all the time and it drove me nuts... He wouldn' hit me but tried to choke me a couple of times and would drag me out of bed or push me of the bed... I hate him and hate him so much I wasted so much time with this asshole....and he never ever made love to me... Sex would be more like a satisfaction for him only...It's not easy to leave someone after being with them for such a long time... BUt there is nothing worse than being mentally abused at home and in public by your so called other half...He basically brainwashed me and I became his target. I never realized what was happening to me until I met someone ...

Answer 5

Yes I have been. No I will not forgive. I cannot abide by any man abusing any woman for any reason. I have filed for an annulment based on that and other things. He is a drug addicted alcoholic on anti-depressants (supposed to be on them). He is supposed to be seeing a shrink, but he isn't. He is going to end up killing someone (namely me) one of these days. He is also suicidal and is one of those that cuts himself and burns himself (which I did not know prior to our marriage).

Answer 6

I was mentally and physically abused by my husband for 15 years. I think that they mental abuse was worse than all of the broken bones and the black eyes he ever gave me. Because I can't forget the things he did and said to me. I divorced him 10 years ago, and the memories of the mental abuse are still there. But I have come to realize that most of the things that he did to me was because of his insecurities and bad feelings he had of himself. Of course that didn't help me. I have problems still and I am married to someone else. He says that the first one ruined me, and I guess he is right.

Answer 7

I have been through it with my husband, he has been through a lot and it was a really bad time for us and he was drinking a lot it was a one time thing, yes I know that is not a reason. We did seperate for a few months and I decided to forgive him. We are still together and it has been 3 years since that moment.

Answer 8

Yes. Yes. Tried. Tried. He got some serious jail time and we went to counseling and joint counseling and AA and Al-anon.........it didn't do any good. He still thought it was everybody else with the problems and when push came to shove...alcohol was the winner. He was usually in a black out and didn't remember doing much of it most of the time......he figured if he didn't remember it....it didn't happen. Even with the sad truth in his face he wouldn't beleive it....denile runs deep. I had to go for my own sanity and safety........he made his choice and it wasn't me.

Answer 9

mentally yes
he wants to control and smother me and i have retaliated in the past few years and now he's going thru a depression because I have fought back against what he was doing to me, when he tells me no I just do it now I don't listen to what he wants me to do anymore and it tears him up but o well i'm no dog that will take orders anymore he's lucky I can't afford a divorce or i'd be out the door.

Answer 10

yes i have been abused both physically and mentally he is a alcoholic he was put in jail now he's mad and no ive not come to forgive him if he would ask me i might and were separated