I was fine after the break up of my 14 year relationship. It has been 2 months. But ever since I found out he is with an ex girlfriend of his, I am freaking out!!!! I can't stop obsessing about our relationship and why he left me and the kids. All I do is ask questions about on here. I can't stop. I want to!! Help? I feel like I am acting crazy!
2007-03-09 13:07:03 · 6 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's okay to obsess every once in a while. We are all human and that's what makes Yahoo answers so great is we find that we are unique just like everyone else...ehehe. I'm sorry your having a hard time. 14 years is a huge chunk of your life and it would be tough to just put it away under any circumstances. It's just going to take time and your obsessing is part of the healing process. Take care.It will get better.
2007-03-09 13:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be obssessing just a bit BUT i feel you are more hurt and are feeling dejected and betrayed more then likely. I suggest you seek counseling and help for how you are feeling so that you can start to heal and get past this in time. You will need to let go of the pain and not hold on to it anymore. Learn to move on with your life and learn to live without him in it. Breathe and do positive and fun things now for just you. Take up a new hobby and make some new friends. Go shopping once in a while and just have fun! Here comes lots of hugs for you today.
2007-03-09 21:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't healed yet. It takes time to heal. Instead of asking questions about whats happening to you now on Q & A, its time to find your answers through some research of your own, because you won't find the answer here.
Google search: "How to survive a breakup", Its time to read quality information about whats happening to you.
There are 6 stages a person needs to go through when a relationship fails. It can take 6 months or years to move on with your life. Why dwell on the past, its gone and you can't change anything about it. The faster you accept this, the faster you can heal and move ahead.
Stage 1) shock, disbelief, Stage 2) the agony and pain of missing him so much, Stage 3) Denial- I think ??, Stage 4) revenge- this is a nasty one to get through- be prepared. Stage 5) process of beginning to heal and starting to move forward. Stage 6) life is good, it s getting better, your healed. And now and only now are you ready to venture into the dating scene again.
It leaves a big hole in our being when the other partner leaves, he took a part of you and left you with nothing. You are reacting with jealousy and jealousy is the work of the Devil. Do not let the Devil win you over. Look ahead and let the past be gone, your not crazy, you need to get control of the situation. He's gone, you need to heal, everyone goes through the same process time and again when a relationship fails. You are not alone!!!!
Take care of yourself and your kids. Be grateful the kids are with you.....
2007-03-09 21:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Nemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My counsellor told me that it is ok to be obessed about it as it is only natural, I mean you were with him for 14 years, just limit your obssessing to like and hr or 2 a day so that it doesn't over take your life, worry about your children, and keep yourself busy...
2007-03-09 21:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he had to go back,he knows no other way,and besides he is just using her to get over you,it wont be long before she is history
2007-03-09 21:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 year relationship with kids....huh? ex-girlfriend, huh? do you realize how ignorant this sounds?
2007-03-09 21:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋