Was I wrong?

Question

One of my friends moved away a few months ago but we keep in touch. Well, she always wants me to tell her what people are saying about her, anything negative that I hear. A few days ago several people were sitting right behind me & speaking loudly. Rather I wanted to hear their conversation or not I did. They were talking about my friend. So the next time I talked to her I told her what was said about her. She brushed it off ( or so I thought) but ended up intentionally telling the people what I said! So yesterday Those particular people were saying things, making fun of me, being arrogant ect.I even got threatened because they are upset about me "easedropping" & telling her.. They dislike me & my friend. So now they are just being mean, trying to upset me ect. So I'm not really sure if this "friend" is my true friend anymore. BUt my question is was I wrong to tell my friend or right? It, I just want to know if my decesion to tell her was right. I didn't except her to tell them. TY

I understand where everyone is coming from! Though I may of had the very best intentions at heart, it backfired, and I think it is best for me to be mute as far as tekking someon what was said about them, you can not trust anyone nowadays! Unless I can 100% trust them, I have one true constant friend that I know for a fact I can trust, but as for teh others, I will be mute. I realized she wasn't a true friend after yesterdays little episode with the people that were talking about her, they continued to say things to me today, I think they desperately need to grow up, They are acting so immature, I just ignore them, its pretty easy, and I must admit its amusing to hear & watch! But I truely did not mean to hurt anyones feelings, ven though I do not like these people & they hold teh same feelings for me, I did not mean for them to be offended at all. Thanks for your comments/ adivce so far! I feel better hearing others opinions.

Uhhhh...... Yeah its confirmed, shes NOT my friend & is NOT the person thought she was! Oh well, I'm fine, I'm suprisingly not at all upset... kind of relieved. Let bygones be bygones, and if those ppl say stuff, let tehm, it will be on their conscious not mine. xo xo

Answer 1

I don't think you were wrong, in fact you were trying to do the right thing. Your friend should not have ratted you out to those people. She shouldn't even be concerned about what they are saying if she's moved away. This is what I've learned in life, when you hear someone saying something bad about someone, it's usually best to keep it to yourself, unless it's something that can destroy a life or put someone in danger.

Answer 2

I would recommend not telling your friend anything.

First of all, you do realize she's not you're real friend. She's just using you to get useless information. Useless because she's not there anymore. So what if people say stuff about her.

Second, and more importantly, you're friend is not trustworthy. she doesn't seem like she cares leaking your name out again. She could be playing behind you're back. My recommendation, tell her no one has been saying anything, and try to hold another conversation. If she avoids you, tell her that she isn't a true friend (because she is just using you) and tell her that she doesn't deserve to know who's saying what.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

If it were my friend I would have told her too. However, is she really your friend. She did not consider that they would take revenge on you in some way. Then again people don't always think before they act. You were trying to be a good friend so keep your head up! It takes a lot to be a true friend! You were right to tell her, but she should not have said anything!

Answer 4

i had a 'friend' like that. she also turned round n told my ex i were cheatn on him...i weren't. u were right 2 tell her. courseu dnt want ppl slaggn off ur m8! i wuldn't also wuldn't hav gone n spoke 2 these ppl other then 2 hav a go @ them. when they asked who told her she wulda said 'a lil birdy' if she was any decent kinda friend. im sorry. prob dnt wana hear this. tell her how hurt u r she told them n wot they're doing...may make it worse so b warned. but if they then turn round sayn wot u told ur 'friend' u kno then 2 ditch her sorry butt. u were doing wot any gd friend wuld do. she's not. shes in the wrong here not u.

and hey sod it, i evesdrop all the time. only get away wiv it cuz im pregnant!! lol

Answer 5

I think that your friend is not a true friend. You did the right thing. But why was friend talking to these people that she did not like. Maybe you should kind some new friends.

Answer 6

Carly....i have learnt over the years never to tell a friend what is said about them because it always comes back and bites you on the bum......and the story has always got more added to it.....so do what i do and don't gossip......then you cant get into trouble:)

Answer 7

okay 1) DON"t mind them. they're upset because they think they're so big and bad so they say what they think won't get out and when it does they get scared. 2) tell them (filtered launge) please leave me alone, not my fault you talk so loud and about a dear friend. SO CHILL! 3) you were not in the wrong. you did the right thing

EDIT:
well i am glad you feel better. that's all we want

Answer 8

Consider this a lesson learned. Your so-called friend set you up. She knew that she couldn't handle the truth. Zip the lip! You'll be better off for it.

Answer 9

u ned 2 talk 2 ur friend, she wasnt thinking about u at all!!! talk 2 her b4 making any decisions, i dont think she was doing it on purpose, i think she was just very immature.

Answer 10

i think you should have told her i mean you would want her to tell you right? so just brush off what they are saying about you and they will stop