Is it ok if you are married to have a boyfriend?

Question

THIS QUESTION IS NOT ABOUT ME...IT'S JUST A GENERAL QUESTION, MY FRIEND IS MARRIED AND HAS A BOYFRIEND....JUST CURIOUS WHAT OTHERS THOUGHT.

AND NO I DON'T AGREE WITH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

OF COURSE NOT! It's called adultery and it's still illegal in certain states!

Answer 2

No. If you are married and challenges arise, meet them head on. Remember that if you would consider a boyfriend, you are not committed or in love. Marriage is a Lifetime commitment. Everyone should take their time and build a long term relationship before getting married. Once you are married, plan to work out any differences that arise. Remember too, having a husband or wife is a TWO people deal. I have been married for over 36 years. there were some very challenging times. My husband and I did work that out.
Marriage is forever and that commitment means you for him and him for you. No such thing as boyfriend or girlfriend in a true marriage. Be blessed and happy. Watch those men who would run with a married woman. They will only hurt you too!!!!

Answer 3

R you kidding me how can she do such thing like that . Married and have a boyfriend. No wonder mens don't believe in women's. Get on one side get divorce from her husband then go with her boyfriend or let her this boyfriend go who dose she really love. She must make her mind that's the only fare.

Answer 4

No, its not OK to have a boyfriend, too. You get married to spend the rest of your life with one person. It's a commitment to each others life. Not to mention, having a boyfriend on the side shows a total lack of self respect.

Answer 5

ABSOLUTELY NOT!! When you get married you make promises and vows to
each other and breaking them is not right. Besides if a person has a boyfriend/
girlfriend on the side, who's to say there will be faithfulness there? That's why it
is so important to make sure that when you get married it is for better or worse,
FAITHFULNESS. If you have ever been hurt the answer is so clear.
FAITHFULNESS, HONESTY, INTEGRITY, LOVE, did I say FAITHFULNESS???
I hope that this answers your question. : }

Answer 6

It is okay to have a friend that is a guy, and in fact might be useful to ask advice to... just make sure you dont get too personal with them.. and also make sure they know where you stand. dont mislead them. remember its your job to pretect your marriage first and foremost. dont do anything to jeopardize it. If you start falling for this guy, then by every right you should break the marriage off and go with him, one or the other. but you should try and avoid situations that would lead to the chance for the marriage to fail in the first place.

Answer 7

In general, No, it is not okay.

We joke at our house that our boy cat is my boyfriend. He'll jump up in bed when my husband goes to the bathroom in the middle of the night, and curl up in the warm spot. My husband will come back and I tell him that he has been replaced. I usually hear a grunt from my husband and the sound of a cat being summarily removed.

Answer 8

Why do you not agree... is the answer to your question. However I can put it straight to you.

Although the question is short, the answer will take some time to be written and to be read.

''There are dynamics (impulses toward life and SURVIVAL of that very life toward the infinity). You could make a graph of these dynamics by drawing 8 concentric circles and name them from the center to the periphery. The central one would be the Dynamic of Self (one is trying to survive to eternety if it would be possible)) Then, the 2nd one, the Dynamic of Sex (man and wife/partner or woman and husband/partner and descendants. It doesn't include parents or brothers, uncles, etc); then comes the Dynamics of Groups (it includes any group you belong or you have belonged to, including citizenship, work mates, sports, school, trousers wearers, blue or red enjoyers,... you name it; any group of people you may fit in plainfully); then comes the Dynamic of Mankind (if you and me would be the worse enemies and the only inhabitants of our planet, we would unite to fight alliens in order to survive as a specie, you get?); Then come other dynamics: Other living beings; MEST (Matter, Energy, Space and Time); One' spiritual things (emotions, ideas and ideals, principles, feelings, thoughts, ...); and finaly the Dynamic of Infinity, God, Alah, Supreme Being, Creator, Eternity, Jehovah, ..., you may name it according to your believes) This one would be the external one and the one that congregates all of the other 7.'' - L. Ron Hubbard

One also has to consider ETHICS (the set of actions/inactions a being takes in order to bring about SURVIVAL to HIS dynamics.

Now, if you hurt your 2nd Dynamic, your own survival is affected, coz you are the central dynamic in the graph, inside the circle of the Dynamic of Sex. The same way if you hurt your club, you hurt yourself, if you distroy a public lamp post you will be less safer in the night when you pass nearby, If you polute air in your city you are making your own survival to be in trouble; do you see it? If you put fire on a forest you are also reducing your possibilities to survive...!

Whatever one does affects us either positively either negatively.
If one is married and one has a boyfriend... one is making oneself to survive less coz one has to give him more attention, time, ..., things that should be used to increase the survival of your 2nd D and consequentely the 1st (you).

If one has a 2nd D one has a commitment. It implies Respect. That is why adultery is punnished by law. One has to leave the 2nd D if one wants to live with the Ethics in. Thics is defined as the set of actions one does or desn't do in order to provide survival. One should bild up or construct, or contribute to the survival toward the infinity of that Dynamic; of all the dynamics simultaneously!

What you are asking is if 'cheating would be ok'. This is NOT OK.
And now you know why.

And you can also see by the answers you already got that it is not ok.

Answer 9

Sorry, I am old fashion and believe once you have promised another human being to be faithful, you gotta stick with your promise. If you're no longer in love, end the commitment and REALLY THINK before you get married again.

Answer 10

She is a cheater, and cheaters SUCK. You said she is your friend, so you probably know her husband, right? If you are going along with it like nothing is wrong, and pretty much lying to her husband's face, then you are just as bad as she is. I would get a better class of friends. If she can betray her husband, then what kind of betrayal will she give you?

Answer 11

Maybe your question should be is it OK for you to tell your friend to not have this set-up? It's none of your business, really. You have your morals and your friend obviously has hers. You do not know what goes on behind that marriage's closed doors. I suggest you stay out of it.