If your parent(s) work all day, when do they get to spend time talking to you about WHY you shouldn't drink, drug, smoke, have random sex, etc. Do you think their rules on curfews and other things are fair?
2007-03-09 12:42:30 · 15 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
most of the time my parents were the same way. I got most of my "why" questions answered from my pastor and youth leader at church. my parents almost always say "because I told you so." and my parents almost never let me do any thing fun when I was younger. like when ever the youth group went to a amusement park I was not allowed to go "because they told me so", and for a long time I was not allowed to go to summer camp "because they told be so", and many many other harmless little things that they church youth group was doing together I was not allowed to do "because they told me so". I never got answers to those questions. but things like drugs, sex, and other things were explained at church.
2007-03-10 09:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is normal for us teens to rebel, and ask why. Parents set these rules to keep us safe.
Ex. No random sex - YOU DONT KNOW THE PERSON so why are you even having sex with them? Sex is something is SACRED between a HUSBAND and WIFE. It is meant for something to be done only AFTER two are married, and in a commited relationship. Also, having sex with random people, you do not know who they have been with. Look at it this way. When you take a peice of tape, and put it on your arm and pull it off. You see so many skin cells, do that with another person, and other people. More skin cells develope. Now, pretend that every time you pull that tape of someones arm, it was sex with someone new.
Should NOT drink - Alcohol is addictive. You end up doing stupid things while being drunk. You cannot control your actions, and someone will end up getting hurt. I do however, agree that parents should allow their kids(10 and older or so) to have 1 glass of wine with dinner. Certain wines have a lot of antioxidants which help the immune system.
Drugs - Addictive. I know A LOT of people who are dealing with drug addictions. They are not good for your body in anyway. They may make you feel like everything is fine and dandy, but it is only a mask reality. If you are looking for an escape, try jogging/walking/running, listening to music, writing, reading, healthier choices.
Smoking - whether its weed, or cigarettes or some other drug, it only does harm to your body. (i do however agree with using weed ONLY for presciption use).
PArents tell you not to do these things for your own good. Parents usually dont explain it becuase a)they dont know how, b)they think it would be common sense for you to know this, c)they know you have done the D.A.R.E. program and/or in health class, and understand the effects of doing such things.
Your parents just want to protect you. If you want to get a better answer from them, have them write out the top 5 reasons why they dont want you to do these things.
When my children are older, I will write these things out to them so they understand why I want them to not do these things, and not just an explination teachers, and cops gives at schools.
I do understand that they will be curious, and you are curious, but waiting until you are legally able to do such things to try it(smoking and drinking, not drugs) then the curiousity will have passed. There is no LONG TERM benifit from such things. There might be short term benefits that help you forget about a problem for a little bit, but if you are having such a hard time dealing with a certain problem, then you should talk to your school counsler and/or your parents. Believe it or not, parents do understand what you are going through, and they HAVE NOT forgotten what it is like to be a teenager.
2007-03-10 08:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by asimpledork 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well for me they do sometimes and don't other times but either way I know why they limit me to such things, and i agree with them. My parents don't really give me a curfew only becuase they really trust me becuase i always come home at like 10:00 either way. I think rules on curfews are fair becuase that is how you teach your child or prevent them from doing bad things and even if the child does not understand why now, they will later on and thank you for it. I love the fact that my Parents set rules on me, becuase it made me the person i am, which is a daughter that has morals and set limits. I hope this works for you :)
2007-03-09 13:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-23 18:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for as the sex drugs and alcohol thing goes, my parents never really told me about it, which i'm amazed, but not too much, that everyone said something like that. My parents don't tell me what to do and not do too much, but they trust me to make the right decision. So i respect them for that and i stopped drinking before they found out because i realized that it's stupid that i'm spending the allowance my parents are giving me on alcohol. They work for that money and i don't, so i'm paying them back for respecting that i'm getting more mature by not doing those types of things. Get what i mean?
2007-03-09 13:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by hellopanda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm not completely there...but...
I understand some of my parents rules but others...I think that they are reminiscent of their childhood and don't understand how things are different!
And my mom calls 'Grey's Anatomy' a stupid show because the first episode of it she saw was the gender-reassignment one...she's strict about 'mature' things...but she has double standards! If she thinks a movie that is rated R is a lesson-builder or whatnot she's fine with me watching it!
I dont know they just dont see things our way.
And still, she trusts me with Internet (wee what an accomplishment *sarcastically) and tells me to be thankful because her friend whose kid is a what? oh fifth-grader doesn't have those rights?
I am constantly trying to do well and I get straight-As...a little more privileges would be appreciated.
2007-03-09 13:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by sammie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my mom is a stay at home mom but she's always on duty (i love this word) my dad is gone most of the week. my parents (well my mom, my dad is kinda the back up) talks to me at random but when she does my hair (french braids don't braid themselve) and she watches it i have to and she talks to me. not often cause i know i am not stupid enough to get HIV and smoke (at school i had GREAT (gang restience education and training) and DARE (drug abuse restience education) so i already know) I think they are not fair with their rules but who doesn't?
2007-03-09 13:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by (Sydney Janelle) 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, my parents never straight out told me WHY. I have a close relationship with my parents, though. i go to church with them and we have dinner together every night. In fact, my parents don't really have a set curfew with me.
2007-03-09 12:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by *city girl* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
uh, they dont..... lol and im glad i wouldnt want my parents to give me a chat about that stuff.. but my dad made a pretty male attempt in the car once to talk about girls..... lol and as for there curfews.. meh i think there fair, there pretty lax in the cerfew and stuff but they wond let me go to a guy-girl sleep over which really sucks
2007-03-09 13:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 17 and live with my mom. She usually tells me the whys and why nots but told me that she reserves the right to use "I'm the mommy that's why!" if she feels like she needs to.
2007-03-09 16:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by rick h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋