My husband and I have separate bedrooms. We still have a good physical relationship and have been working on improving our spiritual one. Since I don't see him as much anymore, things in my life have been more peaceful and our relationship seems to benefit from seeing each other only a few hours a day. Anybody else have a similar experience?
2007-03-09 12:40:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No....what you guys work all day then spend a couple hours together, then go hang out in your respective rooms; interesting.....well if it works for you that's all that matters.
2007-03-09 12:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes.
My mother and father sleep in separate bedrooms. Every since I was a teenager my parents have always slept in different rooms. My mother snores and my father rocks. It makes it hard for them to sleep together. Plus my father is a kidney patient. He can not handle a lot of bodily contact, no matter how small it is.
Yes my parents are still married.....going on 33 years.
But I will be honest with you....their closeness has disappeared. Their sex life and affection...I believe ....has changed.
Do they love each other.....I believe yes. But I think it is more of what they say than what they do.
I honestly do not recommend it. My husband snores because he is a little overweight. But I could not imagine not sleeping next to him. He is my comfort blankie. So I feel it is my spousal, wifey duty to help my husband stay healthy by helping him lose the excessive weight.
Until he lose it I have invested in some ear plugs. His snoring is only bad when he is drop, dead tired. Other than that it is fine. I tune it out with a fan or music. He doesn't mind.
So separate rooms?
I would never recommend it.
2007-03-09 21:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Seperate rooms is not the answer here hon. You need to share the same bed and bedroom and communicate and be intimate with each other. Have you talked to a local pastor of a church about your marriage and relationship? have you tried christian marriage counseling yet? Yes seek God for help for your lives BUT also for you marriage as you need to be one flesh in him and have Him be the center and core and head of your marriage. Having God as the center of your marriage and relationship is key here. I suggest you go to http://www.marriagetoday.org and email Jimmy and Karen Evans with this matter and see what advice they can give and have to offer you. I feel that will be of great help and encouragement to you. My husband and i are Christians and are very happily married and if you ever need someone to talk to we are here for you both:) You are in our prayers and thoughts today.
2007-03-09 21:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I don't have separate bedrooms. We have our own "space" in the house. We each have our own study and our own tv room. There are times when I'm home alone or in my own space that it's like a sanctuary.
We were separated for several months (not my choice) and I did enjoy the peacefulness of it. Just made me appreciate him more.
2007-03-09 20:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I can't sleep without my husband. He was away for a month once due to work and I only got a couple of hours of restless sleep each night.
2007-03-09 20:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had the pleasure of living with another, BUT I have always been behind the seperate room theory. I first saw this on medieval shows where the wife always had her own bedchamber. You have your own space. Otherwise you have no part of the home that is truly your own. I like it.
2007-03-09 20:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by girlsincamelot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i have been married for a year and need seperate rooms!!! we , i believe are soulmates, but have a 3 year old together, who sleeps in our bed... yes he has his own, but insists on sleeping with his daddy... ive already started moving my things in the guest bdrm we never have any guests in and setting up my stuff...
as far as a physical relationship... its "whenever the baby is asleep" we used to be like two hot and horney people who cant get enough of eachother... now he works 2 jobs (not that we need the $) comes home late (goes to work at 5... comes home at 7...) i dont get it...
when we do get together... iswear...THUNDER AND LIGHTNING ON BOTH OF US... but its not like it used to be...
we talk, obviously, about the daily chatter, but its likewere missing something................
yes there are other people out there like you...
2007-03-09 20:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for you then continue to do so. I wouldn't enjoy that. I like being able to reach over and feel my husband there or to hear him breathing. I love seeing him first thing in the morning.
I like being with him even in sleep.
2007-03-09 20:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am happy its work for you but its dont sound as a true marriage but if it work great but if you husband start to playing around what will you do? could you forgive your self
2007-03-09 21:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each there own, do you have a family?
2007-03-09 20:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋