I can't seem to be able to move on...many say I should have done so by now...I still miss him, deeply...am I "stuck"?
2007-03-09 12:35:56 · 10 answers · asked by EvelynMine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Genuine people like you have my sympathy. I hope you find somebody in the world so you can be happy again.
You don't ever have to forget your husband, but you do want to continue living a happy life. This is what he would have wanted.
If I die tomorrow, I would want my wife to find happiness that's for sure. In fact, we have discussed this possibility and we both agree.
2007-03-09 12:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that Im sorry about the death of your husband. Must have been awful for you for a while. Many say that you should have moved on by now, but has any of them lost a spouse??? No one knows what people go through until they are in the other persons shoes. You dont ever have to move on if you dont want to. Forgetting your husband will probably never happen. It shouldn't happen. Tell all these other people that mayble the right person hasn't come along yet and when he does, you will know. There will never be another man to replace your husband, but there are a lot of men out there that could be of good companionship to you. Help you through your times of grief or being lonely. My advise to you is to get out and get yourself involved in different events. Making new friends, male and female and try to move on. Keep yourself busy and you will find that it will get easier. To you, my deepest symphany and I hope you can find closure in your life from your deceased husband and start living a more healthy life again. Focus on the good things that life has to offer you. Go on shopping trips, go on vacations and visit new cities, plant flowers in your yard, go to church events, help elderly people, take a course in school just to have something to do and meet people, etc. There are lots of things you can do but the most important, What would your husband want you to do, what would he want you to become, I think he would want you to be happy. Let me just say that maybe you dont want to find another gentleman because you are afraid you would be letting your husband down or betraying him. This is not true, he wouldn't want you to spend the rest of your days alone. I wouldn't want my husband to. Good luck to you and may you find lots of happiness from theis day on.
2007-03-09 13:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by latasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no time table on grief its a deeply personal journey you were married for a very long time and have not only lost your spouse you have sort of lost your place you are no longer a Mrs. i think as long as you feel that you are moving forward you are fine if you think you are stuck you might try some counseling but don't let other tell you how to feel only you will know when the time is right to move ahead good luck and i am very sorry for your loss.
2007-03-09 12:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad passed away seven years ago, and my mom never did even try to date anyone. She hinted around about what we would think and I told her whatever would make her happy. I know that the loss was huge and it would be hard to fill if it could ever be filled. Before she could do anything she passed away last June. So you have to move on at your on pace whatever that is. That way you can be honest to yourself and true to your next love. Sorry for your loss.
2007-03-09 13:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by papa_shane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its just normal to miss someone gone away...
it is so hard to forget someone we love and lived together for a very long time...
but...
you need to move on...
Sadness may lead to serious psychological problems...Depression...
Don't get urself 'stuck' in . . .
Live your life ...start again...
We lose someone/some things in our life but we also gain someone/ somethings...it just takes time or maybe a little while...
If you moved on, a smile on your face can make some people more to like you and much better love you...
a new life begins... a new start.. don't lose hope...
2007-03-09 12:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. You guys were married a long time. It's going to take as long as it takes. However, its important that you still keep on living life.
2007-03-09 13:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to move on don't. Some relationships have so much love in them it's enough for a life time. If my wife died I wouldn't move on and I would tell everyone to stay out of it.
2007-03-09 12:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by bubbba2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe, I'm sorry; no there are no rules as to if and when you move on, you move in your own time; just make sure you aren't staying home alone all the time; make friends and have hobbies that you enjoy to keep yourself engaged in life....you will move on in time, but your husband will always live in your heart.
2007-03-09 12:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your own person.
You have to grieve at your own pace not everyones time table.
Good luck.
2007-03-09 12:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear, i hope you find hapiness
2007-03-09 12:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋